To Message the doc that treated DD

[MisschiefMaker]

Just found the doctors LinkedIn.

AIBU to message her to ask her why she lied to me to get me to agree to give my DD medication that has left her with lifelong damage, when there was nothing wrong with her. I can also include that i pray no other innocent babies are harmed by her every day.

Or should I message her family members instead.

Or just forget about it and move on? She thought she was doing the right thing, after all, and lots of doctors have god complexes.

She won't need to use the capitals with PALS because they won't be dismissing her and questioning her experiences without explanation.

@MisschiefMaker what a sad situation. I'd put in a formal complaint now, as it sounds like you didn't do so previously, stating the basic facts (you didn't want the medication administered, they heavily pressured you to do it based on seemingly misleading information, and they didn't tell you the consultant wanted the medication stopped). I would definitely also seek counselling, talking your feelings through with someone well trained in managing trauma will undoubtedly help you, even if it will be hard at first.

@user40643 Who do you think you are?

someone giving good advice, as if you do so in any such correspondence it won’t be taken as seriously. Rightly or wrongly, it gives the impression of hysteria and/or potentially being a tad unbalanced and the same gravity is not ascribed as would be to a piece of correspondence without and written in a more measured manner. The best course of action would be to go down the medico-legal route, they will be best placed to know what response they are seeking from PALS relevant to the situation and any potential future action.

From what has been written, fighting the fact the medication was given may well be trying to push a barrow uphill, but I think the key is that it was continued after the consultant ordered it to be stopped. That’s the part with the likelihood of success but again, Mumsnet doesn’t have details and is no position to advise, whereas a medico-legal service is. Hysterical letters and stalking people on social media are going to achieve nothing so, if there is a case, best to do it properly with the right people.

Don't harrass the doctor

@HoppingPavlova You're not giving good advice and I'm not reading beyond your first sentence, you're not worthy of mine nor OP's time.

I'm sorry your DD has been unwell. Go via the formal complaint procedures if you want to. Patients occasionally request to contact on social media and I always refuse and block - it's very poor practice for a dr to communicate with their patient on any form of social media.