AIBU to book a gender blood test at 6 weeks?

[Dorothyspeaks30]

I have 2 daughters who are 3 years apart and I am desperately wishing my third is a boy. I have no pressure around me but I never grew up with brothers so wish my daughters could have a brother. I would be grateful either way and would still be happy to have a girl of course. Now that I’m pregnant, I don’t feel like I can wait until a private scan at 16 weeks and found out about the gender blood test and booked it! I know I probably sound insane but this third baby is most likely my last chance at having another child and I’m truly grateful no matter what.

p.s nobody knows I’m pregnant yet. I have been cramping so part of me wonders if I’ll even make it to 12 weeks! Please be kind, I’m very emotional and just need reassurance or to hear other peoples opinions on doing this.

Doing it as early as 6 weeks seems like a bad idea to me. Is it actually going to reduce your anxiety or just leave you worrying it was inaccurate because you did it so early and you’ll end up redoing it at 10 weeks anyway? Where you have strong feelings about which sex you want (I don’t really get that but whatever) then accuracy is even more important.

What is the matter with everyone?
Science has enabled safer pregnancies and enabled early determination of issues
But let's obsess about knowing the gender at the earliest possible point. How do you think people managed when they had to wait for the birth to know the sex? Unless they were of Royal blood and sucession was important, what difference does it make apart from satisfying vanity?

A family member has recently looked into these ‘sneak peek’ tests. From what I can gather the very high accuracy claims are from later than six weeks and there do seem to be an awful lot of people who have been given a wrong result. You need to be very honest with yourself about whether you could cope if you were given the wrong result; based on what you have told us about yourself I fear you would really struggle. I would personally wait for NIPT so that the test also at least had some clinical value 🤷🏻‍♀️

Its very common for people in aus to get the nipt. It obviously also tests for chromosomal abnormalities but I'm convinced most people get it to find out the gender. There's no harm.

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should be banned

WTF. I would have dumped that friend.

This is the best, most informed, kindest post on this thread.
Op just read this one and move on, I would.

FFS

Is it the Harmony Test? I was told by my GP that it couldn't be done until 10 weeks? I'm also 6 weeks pregnant and plan on doing it when I can, partly for abnormalities because I'm a slightly older mum at 35 and also because it's exciting to find out the sex. I feel like I can picture the baby better once I know if it's a boy or a girl.

And another one. Slow hand clap for casual use of the word groomed.

I had the NIPT in my last pregnancy (3rd), for a few reasons, and it was nice to find out the sex rather than wait until a 20 week scan.

One friend lost their shit at me when I told her the sex and started having a go at me as it was a second girl, telling me that she would be watching out for her incase she was treated as a disappointment. I had never, ever expressed an opinion either way and always said I didn’t care about the sex.

I already had a boy and a girl so it didn’t natter in that sense and wouldn’t have mattered anyway, I was more concerned about health but I was the devil for being curious about the sex early.

Some people are really bloody odd about these things and project their own issues onto it.

I agree, the replies on this thread are insane.

OP to be blunt I wouldn't waste money on it this early while there is still a higher chance of miscarriage but it's up to you.

Sneak peek isn’t very accurate at six weeks and, with kindness, you don’t sound like someone who would just shrug off an incorrect result. Tell yourself you can wait for an NIPT. It’s only another four weeks and with a bit of luck this hyperfixation will have eased by then.

I am pregnant with 3rd and wanted a girl as have 2 boys.

I considered the test but decided I want to wait for 12wks - if anything was wrong at that scan it would have been worse I felt. I'd wait. I waited for private scan and did that instead.

I found out via sneak peak, had no skin in the game of what sex I wanted, I just wanted to know.
I've had a ectopic where it was quite late on for an ectopic to be discovered.
They asked me did I want to see what they'd recovered from surgery and I said no.
It haunted me not knowing who I was saying bye too, so out of fear of obsessing over that again, I took the test.
Losing a wanted pregnancy can make people go a bit mental, I just desperately wanted to know who I was grieving.
I felt stupid, like I should have known and whilst totally not logical, grief it appears shows very little logic.

I'd only consider doing it if you have no really desire for either sex, there's fb groups of people absolutely crushed with gender disappointment and it breaks my heart. Baby's are so precious 💔

I had an NIPT and ticked the sex box I don’t see what the big deal is. I was delighted to find out, tbh it wouldn’t have made a difference if DD had been a boy but it’s good we had a long time as we basically argued about her name for 8 months and only named her in the few days before she was born. OP just wants to know.

That person wouldn’t be my friend anymore! I’d have put them in their place with some firm boundary reminders and cut contact to a minimum, telling you she was going to watch out for her, actually questioning your parenting!? How utterly rude! The brass on some people. We are expecting our very much wanted second girl and I had a couple of people suggest a boy would have been nice, they got quite the dressing down for it.

OP just a heads up it’s rare but a lady on my due in April group was told it was a girl from her NIPT test when it was actually a boy. She posted a few threads about it if you have a search. I believe she said the earlier you have it done the harder it is to pick up the boy dna so it can come back girl.

Sex, not gender

I can understand the desperation to find out. For me, I found being pregnant a really surreal experience in the first few weeks. Finding out the sex really helped me connect to the baby and get my head around it. I didn't have a preference either way but really felt that I needed to know what I was having. It's absolutely fine to want to know and it doesn't matter if other people don't understand it. That said I would try and wait as long as possible to make sure it's accurate, good luck x

Yeah this was me too. I’m also sure I had ante-natal depression so visualising DD and thinking about names helped me a bit with that.

She explained that in the opening post.

My friend had one of these where you do it at home but it got it wrong

This is bonkers.

You're coming at this on the basis your daughters 'need' a brother.

What nonsense is this?

I have a brother and can hardly stand him! We are chalk and cheese.

You're living in a fantasy world.

And a test won't change anything.

I know you have said otherwise, but at the same time it could appear you are thinking of a termination if your baby isn't the sex you want.

It isn’t an argument, it’s the correct terminology. Not tricky. 🙄

Oh and for good measure, when I had my DCs, there was no 'sex' scan available- they weren't accurate. I didnt know the sex of mine till they popped out.