To think the school shouldn’t be ignoring this?

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At my DD’s primary school, where there are a lot of children of teachers who attend - There was a mum’s night out last weekend. There, one of the teachers was making unkind comments about some of the children. Including that a couple were spoiled brats, she also speculated that ‘something is wrong’ with a particular child and also slagged off various parents. The people who attended the night out have complained to the headteacher as they felt this teacher, though very drunk, clearly crossed a line.

The school have done nothing but apologised on her behalf.

AIBU to think that more should be done and that they should be utterly outraged at this having happened?

I’m not even sure what you’re getting at but you sound utterly ridiculous. In my profession I’ve said sorry plenty of times before an investigation has taken place - it’s common courtesy when you’re dealing with a pissed off person.

Just the usual goady posters trying to get the thread taken down with the troll hunting.

I was beginning to think I'd lost a day and it was actually Friday night

Look up complaints procedures next time

You obviously think it does.

However she is a paid yea her so surely that means she should be professional Al and not call kids names to other parents?

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Oh no, someone on MN thinks I’m a troll <cries into pillow>

Oh wait I don’t care.

Still waiting to hear where you ‘caught me out’. Maybe if you were cleverer you’d have given me an answer by now.

What happens when you complain about a teacher?

The chair of governors will investigate your complaint. At the end of the investigation, you may be invited to a meeting to get feedback or you will receive a full written response by post. You should receive a reply within 15 school days.

It doesn't say the head teacher comes out and apologises on behalf of the teacher!

I don’t know why you think it’s ok for teachers to stop being caring towards children after 3pm - you’ll have to explain it to me.

What makes you think I didn’t

Not sure where you have seen that put it is a different process in my DC’s school.

But yeah your kid’s school doesn’t do it that way so it can’t be true 😂

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Head teachers quite often try and smooth things over with parents while investigations are on going , it's part of the job they don't want things escalating because parents think they are being ignored

Are you OK?

Are you?

I doubt they'd use the teachers name though

Yes but for the millionth time there’s now a teacher saying she DOES. You USE that to your advantage and say I want something done because she clearly does think in her professional opinion that something isn’t right. The school is either left w having to say well her professional opinion is wrong or doing something so that you do not take it further. That’s your card to play here not I want a face to face apology which is going to achieve nothing more than giving you a sense of moral superiority. It certainly won’t help your child will it?
I don’t think what she said was that bad. I think it was foolish and indiscreet but I don’t think calling a child a spoilt brat is that bad in the scheme of things. I think saying there is something ‘wrong’ with your child is poor phrasing, I don’t think it’s nasty. You suspect yourself your child has additional needs. ‘Wrong’ is obviously not the right word.

Why would they not use the teachers name ? It's not like the op and all the other parents who complained about it don't know the teachers name

Schools simply don't do this, particularly when matters are not settled.

Yes I’m just trying to figure out why you’re posting weird things rather than actual responses.

She was ridiculously stupid to say this to other parents. I’m a teacher and there are definitely children I think these things about because I’m not a saint and some kids are bloody awful. Not their fault IMO, usually a parenting issue, but doesn’t make the job any easier! However, these thoughts are for the staff room or a rant to DH on way home, not a night out when school parents are there.

She won’t lose her job though, you’re on a hiding to nothing there.

What do you actually expect me to do when they’ve said my DC is fine - force them to give LS?

An apology won’t help my child but yes it will make me feel better, I’m not one of these people who only thinks my child’s feelings are important. It’s not a superior complex - when someone insults you an apology is a basic expectation.

Im gobsmacked you think it’s not that bad for a teacher to call a child a spoilt brat to a captive audience who knows that child. Sorry you have such low standards of other humans. Must be awful to be that way.

Oh come on they aren’t going to say in response to a complaint “Apologies on behalf of a teacher we can’t name” 🤣

I wouldn't even bother op, like a teacher doesn't know that saying there's something wrong with that child is the wrong wording

My son attends the setting I work at. If I were invited on a parent night out, I would either decline, or stay sober.

As the teacher is also a parent I think it was nice to include her, but she made very poor decisions that should have consequences (and probably will).

Well done for victim blaming and missing the point

I said I don’t think it’s THAT bad. Some children are spoilt brats and everyone knows it. I bet more than one person agreed with her. Nuance is not your strong point.
I didn’t say it’s a superiority complex, I said it would give you a sense of moral superiority which from what you have since said is correct.
Has your daughter been properly assessed???? If not then by going back to the school and saying the teacher does think there is something amiss and on that basis I want her assessed properly may be persuasive if anything just to get you to back down. But you won’t do it because all you want is for them to burn the witch