To think the school shouldn’t be ignoring this?

[MachboosRubyanAnne]

At my DD’s primary school, where there are a lot of children of teachers who attend - There was a mum’s night out last weekend. There, one of the teachers was making unkind comments about some of the children. Including that a couple were spoiled brats, she also speculated that ‘something is wrong’ with a particular child and also slagged off various parents. The people who attended the night out have complained to the headteacher as they felt this teacher, though very drunk, clearly crossed a line.

The school have done nothing but apologised on her behalf.

AIBU to think that more should be done and that they should be utterly outraged at this having happened?

Genuinely haven’t got a clue what you mean. You’ll have to be really explicit

@MachboosRubyanAnne

Lots of posters have assumed that the head will take further action.

Without submitting a formal complaint no one can be sure any further action will be taken. I would make a formal compliant.

I don’t think an apology is a lot to ask and not sure why people are making out it would be an impossible task.

She doesn't have to give you a face to face apology. You can't force her to. The school have apologised and are dealing with it.

@MachboosRubyanAnne

Also the teachers behaviour was unbelievably unprofessional. I'm sorry you and your child have been on the receiving end of this.

Thats really shit OP. Wouldn't want her anywhere near my kids. She let's down her profession massively.

She doesn't have to buy she should. If you are going to be at an event in a parent capacity, then you should realise the personal responsibility you have here.

When a TA was slagging me and my daughter off on a course (TA course) at the local college, the same course that another daughter's best friend was attending the HT apologised when I complained as did the head of the college. I have no doubt that the TA had some sort of disciplinary measures applied by the school and the college told me that she was to be given extra input regarding professionalism and confidentiality. There will be actions behind the scenes that you won't know about.

Ask for a catch up with the teacher to discuss your child's progress. Be very pleasant.

If they are "working towards/below" request to see the progress they have made since September and mention you'd heard she'd expressed concerns on the night out and you'd like the senco to assess your child for potential dyslexia etc. Kill her with kindness.

You won't be doing anything wrong - but I can't imagine she'll do this again on a night out.

She doesn't have to buy she should. If you are going to be at an event in a parent capacity, then you should realise the personal responsibility you have here.

What she should do really doesn't matter. She doesn't have to. She clearly isn't going to and OP will have to accept it.

I think the OP means morally. Yes, we all know that a discipline process in employment is confidential. If you go out on a parents' night as a teacher of some of the children whose parents' are also attending and you know you can't take your drink, you should probably take some personal responsibility and try and make amends.

Then request he is moved class. And ask for help as his teacher said there is something that needs to be addressed.

Dear Lord.

I HAVE asked for help. My DC apparently doesn’t need it.

There is only one class per year in their school. I am aware it’s unlikely they’ll move her which would be the only option and unfair to other kids - but it was kids in the year she teaches she was being nasty about. Then again, I dont think she’s fit to teach kids if that’s what she does and what she says. I’ll get slated for this but I wouldn’t care if she lost her job. To me, that is not a safe person to teach children (and I suspect if I’d posted saying it was a male teacher I’d be getting more support).

Ha ha no. But I'd rather drink acid than treach kids. Its not the kids fault, its the parents.

How is it the parents fault if the child has SEN? Hotvinto3?

True but everyone has their breaking point. I couldnt face the kids who are hellish in my kids school for 5 mins never mind day in day out. It must be unbelievably depressing and a total losing battle at the expense of the good kids.

You've now named the teacher upthread!?

Clearly hoping it ends up in the daily Mail then?

Is it me or have they been a few of these sort of posts tonight about kids being humiliated, talked about or embarrassed by teachers and other parents?

It’s parents fault of children have SEN? Really?

The problem is OP on mumsnet, a teacher could fling a kid out of a five storey window and posters would still defend them 😂 it'd be all ' no wonder they are leaving teaching in droves' . I agree it's appalling behaviour and would request a meeting to ask, if your child has an issue, what are they going to do? Cos getting pissed and insulting your child to other parents isn't very productive.

You cannot force the woman to apologise and she won't lose her job.

You don't want her teaching your kid anymore? So move schools then?

Not her real name 🙄

Was she slagging off diagnosed sen needs only?

Reaching a breaking point doesn’t make it ok to do what she did.

OP you should go to the head about your concerns about your DC and mention what you heard.

I've had an issue with my SEN child's needs not being met. I waited to see the head as I didn't want to be "that parent." I wished I'd gone sooner as she investigated and they weren't being met.

OP - you and your DC don't deserve this. It's nasty and agree teacher should be sacked.

Most teachers I've come across are brilliant but a tiny minority aren't fit to teach.

Why should I? Why should I take my DC out a school where they have made good friendships and where their sibling is because the school think it’s fine for teachers to be nasty about my child?