Did I do a one night stand wrong?! Getting ripped from my friends

[marrc]

My friends are currently laughing at my “failed” one night stand last night.

Very unlike me, but I met up with a guy yesterday at his place. I’ve come out of a LTR and definitely do not want a boyfriend, at all. I just wanted sex.

Anyway, he paid for me to get to his house for 3pm yesterday (friends thought the time was hilarious for some reason??), we talked for an hour or so and then had sex. After sex he said he’d like it if I stayed the night (I presume for further/morning sex). We watched a film, had sex and then spoke a bit longer. We got on well and had the same sense of humour so it wasn’t awkward or anything! Anyway, I left at around 11 this morning after staying the night (we didn’t have sex this morning, just cuddled).

friends feel I’ve done it wrong because:

1. I stayed the night? Apparently you should leave straight after the deed? (Not sure why this is weird - it’s nice to sleep next to someone and cuddle?)
2. We were laughing and talking (apparently this is “not boundaried”)
3. i arrived too early and should have gone around 10pm

Is there a rule book I’m missing out on?!? Was I a weirdo?? I thought I was being normal!

I mean it sounds like a good start for FWB but ultimately, did you have fun, feel safe, do what you wanted? Yes? Then they just sound jealous / insecure / ridiculous

Your way sounds preferable to turning up at 8, having a fuck then leaving at 10

A no cuddles boundary sounds a bit bizarre. So your ONS can stick his willy in you but not embrace you around the shoulders? Or are you supposed to make physical contact at the pelvis only? Your friends sound bonkers.

How is there a 'right' or 'wrong' way to do one night stands? Just do what you want OP, no-one cares and if your friends are taking the piss just tell them to sod off, you did what you wanted to do.

Um that wasn't a one night stand that was a nice date ;)

Ditto! My ONS is now my husband!

good on you, sounds a lot more pleasant than most one night stands so you’re not a weirdo!

Blow their minds and tell them a 1NS can last the weekend if it goes well enough!

Sounds like a great evening! Tell your friends you left all your fucks at his place and have none left to give them.

I didn’t realise there were standardised rules for having a one night stand ?!

@Crunchymum

for sex

Your 'friends' sound pathetic, jealous, and immature as fuck. How old are these people @marrc ?

Your friends are dicks. Thats a perfectly normal night.

Can I ask, how do you meet him and he paid for you to get to his house? How did that work?

I need to remember this excellent line!

Missed this. That's fucking brilliant! 😆

If you’re happy and he’s happy then who cares? I do think it’s a bit odd to give your friends a full rundown of your sex life with time stamps. Maybe I just have more formal relationships but I’d think it was a bit weird if my friend said ‘I saw David last night. Arrived at 3 for sex. After sex he asked if I would stay so we did x until 6pm and then watched a film. We had sex again at approx 9.15 and then cuddled through the night. I left circa 11am.’ It’s just a lot. I don’t think other people need to know every detail of your private and personal life.

I suspect this is the angle they're coming from! Lots of people get attached after no strings sex let alone if you're doing relationship-y things too. What matters is whether you were comfortable and happy, if you were then that's what's important.

Most hook ups happen later than 3pm but you sound like you have your head screwed on so why does it matter? They are probably affectionately ripping you for having a ‘nice’ one night stand if you have a reputation for being a bit of a ‘good girl’.

Sounds like a nice night to me, I've never been able to do ONS. My husband's still here 12 years later 😳

Sounds like a lovely one night stand.

Not sure why anyone would be 'jealous' of a one night stand. Anyone can have them if they wish. Having a loving, equal committed relationship is more difficult and something to be envious of perhaps.

Anyway, if you enjoyed and ok with everything that happened then that's all that matters. Ignore the friends who appear to be taking the P rather/or imposing their own views/what should be/ than jealous.

Same! 😂

What did you even mention it to your friends for. You’re not 16 are you. When you’re in a LTR do you tell everyone when you’ve had a shag the day night or noon before. It’s a bit weird If you do. I’m the most unprudish person ever but I don’t tell the world his life his cat and his dog about my sex life.

It doesn’t matter what your friends think. You had a good night with someone you felt comfortable with.
you don’t want to see him again and you assume he feels the same. You had a good time and felt safe so that’s all that matters. Ignore them, do as you please! They are thinking of a booty call, not a one night stand.

Whoa - hang on, hang on - that's wrong? You think that's wrong?

No, no, no, no. Listen - order a pizza, open a bottle of wine, turn off your phone and get comfy. I shall tell you tales of getting one night stands wrong that will ruin your mascara and cause the buttons to spontaneously pop off your onesie.