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How to stop SIL bringing children to girls hen do abroad

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Pink39tree · 28/03/2023 17:23

Right going to bullet point as much as possible otherwise it’s too long:
-I’m the maid of honour that organised a hen do abroad.
-19 of us going originally was 20
-small boutique adult only resort. , we have booked 10 rooms. We were under the impression that as we had booked nearly all the rooms we would pretty much have exclusive access to the whole resort. It’s okay if we we didn’t and there were other guests there but it’s just so your aware that in terms of guests there it would be just us so hard to avoid each other
-sister in law of the bride is the typical nightmare sister in law, has made the whole process difficult
-SIL then decided she wanted to pull out AFTER WE BOOKED as she couldn’t justify spending that much on a hen do.
-She wanted her money back for the room, as she’s a difficult person who can’t get her head around the fact it’s already been paid to hotel and if we cancel the room the other person sharing her room would be without a room or we all have to pay to reimburse her
-This caused a big bust up as SIL was adamant she wanted money back, so bride took the hit and paid her sum.
-This was 4 months ago, everything settled. Now SIL has disclosed that she really doesn’t want to miss out on hen and as she couldn’t justify spending this much on a hen do so she’s combining this with her family holiday so she’s rebooked to our holiday with the brides 4 nieces and nephews that are all young and the brides future brother in law (brother of the groom)
-How can I help fix this, brides distraught she doesn’t want to let her hair loose and getting drunk while her nieces and nephews are sat in the pool watching her and her brother in law who is very conservative to see everything that’s going on.
-Additionally the brides nieces and nephews are very attached to her and so she knows they will keep coming up to her.
-Have already emailed the hotel to ask why for an adult only hotel 4 children are being allowed to stay, so far it appears that they were under the impression they were joining our big booking and as we would of then booked all available rooms for that time then it would be okay.
-Have been in contact with hotel also to ask to cancel booking because surely allowing children there is a breach of their contract of being “adult only” so far they are not budging
-If we push to have the hotel cancel their booking due to the no children rule then SIL will know it’s come from us.
help….

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Minfilia · 29/03/2023 19:29

Pink39tree · 29/03/2023 14:45

Reply so far from them that I got this morning….
Will update when I get the next email. The pleasant stay indicates to me that they don’t plan on cancelling us …????

It looks hopeful.

The SIL is still fucking batshit though

BreviloquentBastard · 29/03/2023 20:55

Waiting with baited breath for the next installment of this drama.

Pseudonamed · 29/03/2023 21:18

IN fairness they would be silly to cancel your huge party over a family of four and then they couldnt sell on your rooms because their no kids policy is broken if they did. No brainer.

Jackandjamie · 29/03/2023 21:32

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Ktime · 29/03/2023 21:34

That email looks like it’s been sent from one Gmail account to another. Plus it’s very bare and no chain / signature.

ItsMeAgainYesHowDidYouGuess2 · 30/03/2023 00:09

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RestingRulers · 30/03/2023 01:35

Ktime · 29/03/2023 21:34

That email looks like it’s been sent from one Gmail account to another. Plus it’s very bare and no chain / signature.

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learieonthewildmoor · 30/03/2023 02:49

Why do people troll hunt? Do they get a thrill from being smarter than everyone else?
If you think the OP is a troll, report the thread.

redrumclub · 30/03/2023 07:31

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WigglyWaggly · 30/03/2023 08:41

learieonthewildmoor · 30/03/2023 02:49

Why do people troll hunt? Do they get a thrill from being smarter than everyone else?
If you think the OP is a troll, report the thread.

I report trolls all the time. Unfortunately there are a lot of trolls.

monsteramunch · 30/03/2023 09:38

@redrumclub

It's not doing anyone any harm though is it? Some threads where they are trolls and people get really emotionally invested / it makes a mockery of DV victims etc I understand why they have to be pulled. But ones like this I don't really see the harm in if they aren't real?

redrumclub · 30/03/2023 12:10

monsteramunch · 30/03/2023 09:38

@redrumclub

It's not doing anyone any harm though is it? Some threads where they are trolls and people get really emotionally invested / it makes a mockery of DV victims etc I understand why they have to be pulled. But ones like this I don't really see the harm in if they aren't real?

I think they just add to the overall problem. It makes it look like trolling = ok causing it to become a bigger issue across all boards not just lighthearted threads, which as you say is when it causes bigger issues.

whynotwhatknot · 30/03/2023 13:12

have you heard anything more op

Tiani4 · 30/03/2023 13:49

The troll hunting in this thread is annoying and derailing flow of posts by OP and replies
. I hope the minority PPs doing it just stop and that MNHQ delete all those posts

OP, good email to the hotel. Let's hope they respond well

It's awful of SIL to try to ruin the hen holiday like this, she has come uninvited with her husband and family to a hen do! Ofc the nieces and nephews will bother their aunt instead of her being able to relax. Self centred behaviour by SIL and her husband.

I surprised that the groom hasn't had a word with them telling them they are not welcome to intrude in his B2b's hen holiday like this. Is SIL his sister or the wife of his brother?

If you have to move the hen party to another hotel or villa, don't invite SIL .. drop her out of all plans

Zonder · 30/03/2023 13:53

learieonthewildmoor · 30/03/2023 02:49

Why do people troll hunt? Do they get a thrill from being smarter than everyone else?
If you think the OP is a troll, report the thread.

This. The troll hunters are more annoying than the trolls. Just report if you don't believe it.

Markasread · 30/03/2023 13:56

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Because you're cleverer than everyone else? Or somehow responsible?

The arrogance!

redrumclub · 30/03/2023 14:05

@Markasread errr nope just so people don't waste time and get invested just for a thread to be eventually pulled...

I always appreciate a heads up about trolls 🤷🏼‍♀️

Markasread · 30/03/2023 14:12

redrumclub · 30/03/2023 14:05

@Markasread errr nope just so people don't waste time and get invested just for a thread to be eventually pulled...

I always appreciate a heads up about trolls 🤷🏼‍♀️

Well, consider yourself reported for troll hunting 😂

ItsMeAgainYesHowDidYouGuess2 · 30/03/2023 14:12

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Obki · 30/03/2023 14:16

Markasread · 30/03/2023 14:12

Well, consider yourself reported for troll hunting 😂

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I think redrum just said she appreciates a heads up, don’t think she’s done any troll hunting.

AliceOlive · 30/03/2023 14:26

I hate when the troll hunting gets out of hand and causes a thread to get pulled. I’m still upset about rainy puddles.

Markasread · 30/03/2023 14:30

Obki · 30/03/2023 14:16

I think redrum just said she appreciates a heads up, don’t think she’s done any troll hunting.

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She was explaining why she troll hunts ...

It seems she is exempt from the talk guidelines.

Obki · 30/03/2023 14:41

@Markasread she's explained why people troll hunt but not actually troll hunted herself.