How to stop SIL bringing children to girls hen do abroad

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Right going to bullet point as much as possible otherwise it’s too long:
-I’m the maid of honour that organised a hen do abroad.
-19 of us going originally was 20
-small boutique adult only resort. , we have booked 10 rooms. We were under the impression that as we had booked nearly all the rooms we would pretty much have exclusive access to the whole resort. It’s okay if we we didn’t and there were other guests there but it’s just so your aware that in terms of guests there it would be just us so hard to avoid each other
-sister in law of the bride is the typical nightmare sister in law, has made the whole process difficult
-SIL then decided she wanted to pull out AFTER WE BOOKED as she couldn’t justify spending that much on a hen do.
-She wanted her money back for the room, as she’s a difficult person who can’t get her head around the fact it’s already been paid to hotel and if we cancel the room the other person sharing her room would be without a room or we all have to pay to reimburse her
-This caused a big bust up as SIL was adamant she wanted money back, so bride took the hit and paid her sum.
-This was 4 months ago, everything settled. Now SIL has disclosed that she really doesn’t want to miss out on hen and as she couldn’t justify spending this much on a hen do so she’s combining this with her family holiday so she’s rebooked to our holiday with the brides 4 nieces and nephews that are all young and the brides future brother in law (brother of the groom)
-How can I help fix this, brides distraught she doesn’t want to let her hair loose and getting drunk while her nieces and nephews are sat in the pool watching her and her brother in law who is very conservative to see everything that’s going on.
-Additionally the brides nieces and nephews are very attached to her and so she knows they will keep coming up to her.
-Have already emailed the hotel to ask why for an adult only hotel 4 children are being allowed to stay, so far it appears that they were under the impression they were joining our big booking and as we would of then booked all available rooms for that time then it would be okay.
-Have been in contact with hotel also to ask to cancel booking because surely allowing children there is a breach of their contract of being “adult only” so far they are not budging
-If we push to have the hotel cancel their booking due to the no children rule then SIL will know it’s come from us.
help….

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You?

You’ve already told me all about myself above. Along with telling me what I can and cannot post. Why are you asking me now? You’ve got it all figured out.

that looks promising fingers crossed I guess

I'm pleased to see their English has improved 😅

Hopefully they'll just cancel her

I have never been more invested in a thread!

Has the full balance been paid to the hotel? That will make a big difference to what they decide to do, ultimately it’s about their income for that week.

Alternatively you could threaten to do (actually do) a chargeback for the payment because you’ve been missold a child free holiday.

Emotionalsupportviper I was fine to play along but can't help but feel insulted that we're supposed to believee that a hotel would use promotional material written by a toddler.

May I please borrow your paper bag?

No one says close of play

eh? Used every day at my workplace. Seems a normal phrase when working in business hours.

Friend's future husband's brother does not trust his wife, the SIL. The first booking cancelled, second booking includes the SIL sitter (her husband) and family.

Just saying. I doubt it has much to do with him being a crashing bore or a judgmental twat regarding hen parties. SIL should cancel and go to Amsterdam with him instead.

Eh? It's a super common phrase used all the time by loads of people in workplaces / emails!

They do where I work! All the time.

They do!

What the…….?

Clearly you’ve never worked in a corporate environment. It’s one of the more common and least offensive ones.

It’s not 1963 anymore, yes they do. It’s a very common phrase.

I do.

@44and63

If you could confirm by close of play tomorrow that you acknowledge many, many people use the phrase close of play... that would be great

I’m sure this has been mentioned, but if I was a random guest there, I’d be furious and demand an explanation/refund/deal if suddenly kids were allowed (for no real reason. If it was a special case like they were with a terminal parent or something I’d wish them well and shut my mouth, but THIS?) surely the hotel realizes upsetting one rule-breaking lady is worth not losing a ton more money by breaking their own contract.

OP, you sound like an amazing MoH to keep drama down. However, the bride already well knows what SIL is like, and it really does sound like she takes the piss because everyone is too polite to put her in her place. Since the brothers aren’t especially close, when you do have to really lay out what a shitheel jerk she’s been, don’t feel bad about it AT ALL.

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