How to stop SIL bringing children to girls hen do abroad

[Pink39tree]

Right going to bullet point as much as possible otherwise it’s too long:
-I’m the maid of honour that organised a hen do abroad.
-19 of us going originally was 20
-small boutique adult only resort. , we have booked 10 rooms. We were under the impression that as we had booked nearly all the rooms we would pretty much have exclusive access to the whole resort. It’s okay if we we didn’t and there were other guests there but it’s just so your aware that in terms of guests there it would be just us so hard to avoid each other
-sister in law of the bride is the typical nightmare sister in law, has made the whole process difficult
-SIL then decided she wanted to pull out AFTER WE BOOKED as she couldn’t justify spending that much on a hen do.
-She wanted her money back for the room, as she’s a difficult person who can’t get her head around the fact it’s already been paid to hotel and if we cancel the room the other person sharing her room would be without a room or we all have to pay to reimburse her
-This caused a big bust up as SIL was adamant she wanted money back, so bride took the hit and paid her sum.
-This was 4 months ago, everything settled. Now SIL has disclosed that she really doesn’t want to miss out on hen and as she couldn’t justify spending this much on a hen do so she’s combining this with her family holiday so she’s rebooked to our holiday with the brides 4 nieces and nephews that are all young and the brides future brother in law (brother of the groom)
-How can I help fix this, brides distraught she doesn’t want to let her hair loose and getting drunk while her nieces and nephews are sat in the pool watching her and her brother in law who is very conservative to see everything that’s going on.
-Additionally the brides nieces and nephews are very attached to her and so she knows they will keep coming up to her.
-Have already emailed the hotel to ask why for an adult only hotel 4 children are being allowed to stay, so far it appears that they were under the impression they were joining our big booking and as we would of then booked all available rooms for that time then it would be okay.
-Have been in contact with hotel also to ask to cancel booking because surely allowing children there is a breach of their contract of being “adult only” so far they are not budging
-If we push to have the hotel cancel their booking due to the no children rule then SIL will know it’s come from us.
help….

Op is not going to Amsterdam… so not fussed if her party isn’t welcome 😂 that said I’d be telling sil that as an adults hotel nude sunbathing is a thing and would she want her dh seeing that

Oh, it's re: some other ridiculous aspect of the discussion related to BIL not joining the men's stag do high-brow cultural tour of Amsterdam. Someone essentially called him boring for his lack of interest then insulted me for suggesting it's ok for men to not be interested in trips of that nature.

Has there been any further update @Pink39tree from the hotel?

@AliceOlive get over yourself! Your obsession with men not going to Amsterdam is

But why are you so obsessed with me?

I wouldn't want my dh to go on a stag do to Amsterdam either, doesn't mean I don't trust him 🤷‍♀️

The funny thing is, all I said was that I don't think it makes a man boring to skip a trip like that. Obviously I touched a nerve.

Yep ! , nowt so queer as folk! @AliceOlive , by the way , well done on avoiding the royal topic , it's still just as crazy 😜

So true.

I just went off it for some reason. Suddenly no interest! Suppose I had my fill for a while.

I've only just returned in the last few days myself, I was ' on a break ' too 🤣

@AliceOlive not obsessed, just think your highly entertaining.

Unlike the boring bastard that wants to go to a hen party abroad.

Or he's a complete creep, who just wants to ogle his future SIL and bridal party, round the pool?

Either way, I wouldn't want to be married to him.

I’m really not that exciting, I promise. Sorry I upset you with my (probably not so uncommon) opinion.

Hi @Pink39tree

Hope that the hotel have replied more with an answer. They said you'd get a response ' by close of play. '

Is that aimed at me?

You should either quote or tag?

You've not upset me , so maybe it's someone else you're referring to?

Yes, it is aimed at you since you seem rather glued to me now because I expressed an opinion.

You really are full of directions. Do this, don't do that, how dare you post an opinion, etc. Internet forums must be a rather unsettling place for you since they contain all types doing things however they like.

@AliceOlive unlike you being glued to me...

Lease explain the difference?

Please

@nomoremerlot @AliceOlive

Get a room you two

I posted a rather mild opinion and you started banging on about me not trusting men and making weird suggestions about my up-til-then unmentioned husband, asking me for details about my personal life so you could compare it to yours. You've accused me of all manner of things and also repeatedly told me how to post.

Someone posted defending me and they were deleted rather soon thereafter. Not sure anyone other than you would have even noticed or cared. Was it you that reported their post? You don't have to answer that, of course.

I posted an article related to the Amsterdam topic and you started banging on again. You weren't mentioned or tagged and just so you know, I didn't personally write the article so clearly my opinion is not terribly unusual.

So yeah, it's different. If you don't see how, I can't explain it further nor can I understand it for you.

I keep looking over my shoulder because I feel like she might already be in here.
😂

Google a couple of sentences and you’ll find that hotels do indeed write this nonsense 😁

Greenestgreen So no kids permitted as guests, but they're allowed to write the promotional material?

Are we just assuming this was not a real thread and also got derailed?
Or did I miss the update from the hotel?

@Pink39tree did you ever get a reply?