Lodger told me I eat too much. Do I??

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Obviously you’re not going to be able to tell me for sure without seeing my portions etc but I’m a bit annoyed.

She’s been wfh this week, normally we don’t really see each other. I’ve just been into the kitchen to get a coffee and opened the cupboard to get a snack to go with it (a dark chocolate rice cake if that’s relevant) and she said “you eat too much. Always eating eating eating. You will get fat when you eating like this all the time”

So Monday I had
2 cups of tea
porridge with mixed seeds
a peanut cereal bar &coffee
cheese and cucumber sandwich (granary bread, butter), cranberry juice, satsuma
2 sausages and veg (carrots, broccoli, leeks, swede, sprouts). cherry yoghurt.
Plus water and herbal tea (3 herbal teas, 2 water)

Tuesday
2 cups of tea
2 weetabix
standard size bag of maltesers and coffee
2 pieces granary toast with half an avocado and sunflower seeds. Greek yoghurt with mixed ground seeds. Bag of salt and vinegar squares. Cranberry juice
shakshuka with extra veg in (courgette, aubergine, kale as well as the peppers, onion and tomatoes), feta and hummus on top, flatbread on the side
water, herbal tea as Monday

Weds and Thurs basically as Tuesday except Wednesday I had toast and marmite with my coffee, no crisps either day. Dinner Wednesday was lentil and fennel stew with rice, had a digestive biscuit afterwards, last night pork casserole with mash, green beans and broccoli.

Putting aside the fact that she was rude, I don’t think I eat that much? Basically 3 meals and one snack. Would you consider this a lot of food?

You don't need t o tell us what you eat. It's none of our business. Or your lodger's. Ignore her. Or really stuff your face in front of her.

Completely agree

You’ve clearly not had much exposure to different cultures to be saying that. What’s considered completely normal in one culture can be considered completely insane in another.

MN often have an unhealthy view on food. I wouldn't even bother ask. This is a prime example of sheer bad manners what has it got to do with OPS house mate her weight.

Maybe you haven’t worked in enough different cultures to know that in relatively few would it be acceptable to comment on your boss’s weight and eating habits? I’m not saying none, and I’m sure in some specific businesses it might be fine, but in the various countries I have worked it would have been considered rude, regardless of how comments about weight and eating habits are taken more generally in that country.

WTAF?

I can only conclude that many people have lost sight of what a healthy diet really is.

1. Did you ask for her opinion?

1. Are you overweight?

If you didn't ask for her opinion tell her to stfu.

If you're not overweight then you are not eating too much. If you are overweight then you are eating too much. Either way it's none of her business.

😃😂😂😂 EXACTLY!

Sounds like she’s got issues around food,not an ok way for a lodger to speak to you or anyone actually.
sounds like you eating very normally , so shit that she’s made you question yourself.
red flag tbh

How rude,

the only answer to solve this really is to eat her…

or give her notice to leave as soon as you can…

ps, your diet is fine, and even if it wasn’t, it certainly is not your lodgers business.

She’s a lodger, not an employee. The dynamic is different.

It doesn't matter what you eat.

It does matter that your lodger has clearly mistaken your home for her own and thinks she's in charge.

I'd be taking steps to boot her out.

What's next -
You take long showers?
Your paint colours are not to her liking?
Your clothes don't suit you?
She thinks she'd look nicer in your boots than you do?

https://feelgoodfoodie.net/recipe/shakshuka/

@CountryMouse22

You can make it with just one egg and reduce the amount of sauce.

NutraCheck is a good app to count calories and types of foods that you eat and shows you what you ought to be eating. You’d be amazed how much calories you accumulate during the day.
Btw, Some cultures are very straight with what they think of others and put their point of view out there as oppose to Brits.

If you're asking Us, then you do. Come on now girl 🤗

I'm utterly gobsmacked at her rudeness. It's none of her business. Give her notice and find a new lodger

YANBU

Yes, she was being rude but probably unwittingly.

As someone from "the continent" I am more aghast at the comments made here about non-british people. Yes, in some cultures people say stuff like that but don't be fooled - as a German I grew up with these kind of comments but they were still considered to be rude in my country,too - especially among the younger generation.

However, as someone who has lived here in the UK for 15 years it never ceases to amaze me how ignorant British people are of their own rudeness:

"Oh just kick her out" " I bet she is from the continent" etc you should really read your own comments back

Funnily enough many British people never think their own people could be rude. I have heard British people say stuff like this to my face as well but even worse, they love saying it behind people's back and treat you like the scum of the earth when you say something wrong for the rest of your life.

Don't ever assume that your own culture is the pinnacle of politeness because it surely isn't.

How rude!
Find a new lodger.
They pay to live in your home not to have free rein to judge your dietary habits!

Tell her to mind her own

If you are wondering about whether you are or aren’t eating a lot or have the right balance I can recommend My Fitness Pal to check.
Also looking at what you are eating I’d say you are potentially eating less than you should & also if you are eating a lot of carbs but not really ‘working out’ to burn off those carbs they will be turning to sugar then fat over night.
Simple tweaks now could help later on but it isn’t something I think you need to do.
Also I’m the same as you when it comes to fruit & veg as I eat way more veg that fruit.
The only fruit I really eat are Granny Smith apples, lychees & cherries. I will chuck strawberries, bananas, grapes, kiwi, blueberries, raspberries, cranberries, goji berries into a smoothy & drink them but won’t make a bowl of them & munch away.
I’ll eat all veg apart from sweetcorn, long green beans & cucumber.

Certainly not too much food, what is it with the lodger? time he/she left I think

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my husband thought that sounded tasty, until he realised it was your entire food intake, not supper!!!

So someone you're renting a room to tells you you're eating too much - based on the opinion of someone who isn't even a friend you've come on MN listed your food and asked the opinion of strangers. If she's un-nerved you that much then it's your self-esteem that needs work, not your diet.

Stop wet lettucing. Tell her to keep her rude comments to herself. & It would do to remember there are some competitive non-eaters, food obsessives, weight obsessives, food miseries etc on MN who think being thin/size 8 is everything in life and will take pleasure in pulling apart your food intake, as well as implying your lodger being so rude is perfectly ok.

That would be enough to make me inhale the contents of the fridge while looking her dead in the eye.

Cultural differences or not, she needs to mind her own business.