To not be over what happened to me during covid/lockdowns

[ifyougochasingrabbits]

Just a few of the things I went through

Losing my cleaning business i had built up over years overnight due to everyone cancelling us

Being humiliated by the headteacher at DC school shouting at me in front of other parents because I refused to wear a mask outside . My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her (school run was all outside I may add and I had no problem wearing masks in shops etc but I drew the line at in the fresh air outside)

watching thousands of pounds of income disappear at an alarming rate. while wondering if we’d still have jobs and be able to keep the house we’d worked our arses off for for years to buy. Going through six months of trauma with H furloughed and depressed because his work could not guarantee he'd still have a job at the end of it. He was on half pay as furlough was only paid up to about 30k salary iirc and if you were on more it was employers discretion to pay the full salary which his work didn't. He was even applying for jobs at supermarkets and delivery driving etc and getting no where despite having a high level job at a major house builder.

Watching selfish morons stockpiling at the very beginning

“Friends” dumping me, one Cos I dared voice out loud that I wasn’t personally scared of covid and was struggling with restrictions and did not agree with them.

Having to deal with the fact that many of my (remaining) friends had views I completely don’t agree with and accepting they probably feel same about me.
And having to cope with the fact they supported restrictions that were destroying our lives and mental health

Having my business absolutely trashed all over social media and being called a dirty bitch and worse by local people. Fake bad reviews etc. The “reason” was they took exception to me saying on a local page post that I didn't believe in masks in school (this was due to my kids really struggling with them) My 14 year old said he agreed and some of them then found him on fb and messaged him insulted his looks and called him stupid and a fucking moron etc. This was actual grown adults.

a random person inboxed me on Facebook due to seeing my business ad and threatened to "smash my face in" because she thinks i was “endangering lives” by working

My neighbour reporting us to the police for having an illegal gathering. This "illegal gathering" was me, my H and our 3 dc having a bbq in the garden. Needless to say we all live together

Being put on medication for panic attacks and anxiety in fact I minimised it to the gp. I was actually suicidal and the only reason I am still here is because of my kids and the fact my husband and parents had the same views as me. But I would secretly hope to die in my sleep and almost every day I would wake up and cry because I was still here.

Watching my 3 Kids completely fall apart due to schools being closed. While not only having to deal with seeing posts all over fb about how well other kids were doing and coping doing all their work, managing great. And knowing some people I care about actually wanted schools shut. One of my kids is still very unwell mentally and it all started with lockdowns

Oh and to add final insult to injury, in November 2021 I had to pay £5700 (which was part credit card and part all of our savings) privately for an operation that should have been freely available on the nhs. But cos covid they could not give me a date and I was getting more and more poorly and could not wait.

I am still angry and maybe I should get over it. But I can't. And There's probably more but these are the stand out moments. I'm doing okay now and I have a new business and I'm doing well, H has a new job as he could not trust his old place after covid. but I've been very low again recently with the anniversary of it all

I'd be unimpressed that you couldn't bother to wear a mask to get your five year old to school on time tbh. I'd also think, just from reading your post, that you were possibly quite exceedingly self centred about the way you raised issues which I imagine may have hastened your friends departure. I'm sorry about your mental health and your children's mental health issues. If I'm honest I'm sorrier about the people who lost their lives and for those who are suffering life chging results from having COVID, particularly those who got it before vaccines. Hope your life and your family's lives improve.

I totally empathise with you. My teenaged son had a complete breakdown and I have just been diagnosed with PTSD as a result of watching him get worse and worse and not be able to do anything about it. Am currently waiting for a referral for therapy and hoping that will help me to put it behind me.

YABU

You didn't care about others when you refused to wear a mask or took no care of spreading covid to your friends because you weren't afraid. It impacted on your children and thier school. Now it's everyone's fault but yours.

We all had lockdowns. Sorry your struggling with your mental health and hopefully you can seek help with that.

I was unable to wear a mask to collect her

Honestly with your daughter it was your own choices that impacted her. You weren’t unable, you chose not to.
The school had a rule and you refused to work with them on it. At a time when a lot of people were worries about the pandemic and we had limited concrete information on the virus masks at pick up in large groups were common.

It sounds like a lot of your problems would be minimised if you stopped arguing with people on Facebook.

I am so sorry to hear this

It's just awful isn't it 💐

I hope things improve xxxx

Wearing a mask outside is ridiculous.

Thank you 🙏

And I never said I would not wear a mask indoors I did

And I wear them still for my work now (beauty)

I did wear masks

But not outside

I drew the line at that

Boris being hauled over the coals for a work group meeting outside after working together all day is essential to keep up the narrative that COVID was bad and lockdown justified.

Many people are suffering because of lockdown consequences.

The one about you having to do the drop off and pick ups at a different time because you couldn't be arsed to just comply and wear a mask for like one minute..yeh that was silly and your choice.

You sound like a professional victim tbhits you choice to have a business so you take the risks with that.

A lot of that you caused yourself.

Sorry, but it's hard to feel sympathy for you.

My little girl being made to start school late and finish late because I was unable to wear a mask to collect her

You weren't unable you just refused to do so

The rules were the rules most of us just sucked it up and got on with it.

Have to question how much of your children's issues were brought on by your vehement refusal to follow the rules that were put in place?

I agree with you 100%. I worked on a supermarket checkout throughout those ridiculous lockdowns and now believe the majority of the population are complete and utter morons.

You weren’t unable. You didn’t want to. YABU.

So at a time where a lot of people were losing loved ones, or terrified of getting covid themselves and pasing it to elderly and vulnerable members of their family, you refused to wear a mask and thought you should go unchallenged, and voiced that opinion and expected to go unchallenged? Nobody should have threatened to hurt you, that's absolutely unacceptable. But have some compassion for God's sake - wether you agree with it or not, people were scared and people were dying, can you seriously not have any empathy for others? If you believe you had a right not to wear a mask, and express that opinion, then surely you must also believe in other people's rights to express their opinions on you...

"It sounds like a lot of your problems would be minimised if you stopped arguing with people on Facebook"

I had an inbox from an business ad I posted (to try and get out of the financial hole I was in)

And I commented on a thread about masks in school saying I did not agree with it

That is not "arguing with people on fb" it is two occasions where people were dicks (understatement)

Did you miss the part where I was threatened with physical violence and my child was also verbally attacked with personal insults by adults for expressing his valid opinions ??

‘Work meeting outside’
Good one.

I think you've got bigger issues than everything you wrote down if that's still occupying brain time.

Ugh I can only imagine the morons you encountered 💐

Exactly what @saoirse31 said.

It's a pity you had a tough time @ifyougochasingrabbits but you weren't the only one. In fact, a lot of people had it much worse. At least you and your family are alive to tell the tale/have a moan. To be honest, a lot of what has upset you were things you had a choice about. The rest of us had to make huge sacrifices and compromises too.

YANBU covid was a total shambles and it’s apparent the government didn’t comply with their own rules.

As for the mask for school yes, again, nonsense- I was told off for “standing too close” to a school mum, outside, with my mask on, in the bloody queue because 2M was not enough! Stupid cow. I still haven’t, to my knowledge had covid, which I’m a bit disappointed about given all the drama.

In your shoes I would have donned the mask just to make life that bit easier. That piece of fabric will save your life apparently (only it doesn’t!). 🙄

We can now see why the OP and her children experienced abuse.

In fairness I used to think the self righteous were only on here but there are a few on my local Facebook group too. Constant ‘there are a group of teenage boys standing outside One Stop’ posts.

it is permitted to be upset at losing one’s business and one’s children being abused. Wearing a mask outside IS the height of stupidity.

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