To stop doing DH's washing til he learns to wipe his arse?!

[AtTheEndOfMyWick]

DH and I have a pretty even split of household chores, washing is my job as 1) he doesn't know how to do it and 2) I actually quite enjoy it (until it comes to putting clean clothes away but that's another story...)

We have 3 DC, ages 2, 4 and 6. So doing the washing for everyone is a pretty full on job. DH seems incapable of two things which make it harder for me - firstly he rarely empties his pockets, which I've warned him about so many times.

But the second thing- I have no idea how to approach with him. He has the world's worst skid marks in every single pair of boxers. I just don't understand. Our 2 eldest kids appear to be better at wiping their arsed than he is. It seems to have gotten worse in recent months and its at the point now where I'm sometimes greeted by inside out shit smeared undies when I open the laundry basket, and almost throw up.

Needless to say I've got a case of the ick and can't imagine doing anything close to sex with him as it stands. The whole thing just turns my stomach and I'm sick of it.

What do I do?! How do I approach this with him? Honestly at my wit's end.

I mean once you'd understand but any more than that and I think I'd raise it yes. Surely most people would notice poo on their own pants.

Like nearly everyone else on the thread Emma, I don't deem it a problem to be angry about men who feel entitled to have women literally clean their shit up for them.

You clearly have a #BeKind problem.

I don't see anything wrong with being angry about it either

Amazed that it’s got to 15 pages about this!

Never seen a skid mark on dh undies at all in our 10 yr relationship.How does this even happen? In fact don't answer that

Actually I agree with @EmmaDilemma5. I think it makes good sense to deal with this sensitively - at least when you are first raising the issue - and then adjust your reaction accordingly to his response.

My dh of 27 years has cleared up my vom and my post birth blood clots on occasion; but by all means everyone on this thread please carry on reacting like hysterical fifteen year olds and and please don’t go and work in a rest home because you won’t cope.

Turd-lord

Is he a very large man that maybe can't reach that area to wipe sufficiently?

He can just save up for a Karcher, then, can't he?

I don't know what sort of rest home you work at, because it is not the same as being married with all that entails.

I won't spell it out for you.

Your laundry basket must by a total health and safety hazard!!

Like a wicker jar of extra-crunchy Nutella.

I have known a couple of men who behave like this,
They both took exception to me (in a nice way) pointing it out to them,
It was something I wasn't prepared to tolerate so, after a while, the relationships ended,
I could say more, but it's teatime!!

Most people get angry at being disrespected.

Yes, a conversation is needed. Firstly I'd come from the health angle. Has something changed with his bowel habits? Has he put on a lot of weight? Is he depressed? Depending on reaction I'd leave it and see what improvement there is. If it's just the same then i'd actually confront him with the 'evidence'. I'd also not be sharing a bed unless he takes a shower last thing and puts on underwear. If his undies are soiled in the morning there's something medical going up.

Assuming it's just poor hygiene I would actually be taking photographic evidence ready for the divorce!

I think it’s right to be angry about a disrespectful, filthy twat, knowingly leaving shit-caked pants inside out in a pile of laundry for his wife to deal with, @EmmaDilemma5.

I don’t think that poster’s anger is the problem here.

Well said.

It's so depressing someone thinks women shouldn't be angry about the idea of a man expecting a woman to literally clean up his shit without complaint.

You get paid to work at a care home.

@DOBARDAN

Don't worry about saying any more, Cause it's teatime,
It takes all sorts on here and in life,

Mary Whitehouse is loong dead,

She was a Christian campaigner who was fore runner before cancel culture,

When I was growing up in the early 80s era, we had 9pm as the TV time watershed, once it was 9pm , it was Adult viewing time, we were encouraged seen as the appropriate right time for all school children to be resting in 🌙 bedtime,

He can just save up for a Karcher, then, can't he?

😂😂😂

I do think @AtTheEndOfMyWick

This skid shitty kegs issue is definitely a gender issue type 😒 thing,

There is a world of difference between occasional vom, post birth clots, and caring for older people who might be physically unable in that moment and need help, to a grown man who can't be bothered to wipe his own arse and is fine with letting his wife launder his shitty undies, on a repeated ongoing basis.

Or shower?

Hahahahaha. Epic. Loving these!

1000000% agree with this! ❤️

Also the pooey pants shouldn't be going i with the other clothes. They need a really hot wash.
Echoing others - speak to him !!

And in the unlikely event there is a health issue that needs to be addressed sooner rather than later!

Completely agree.