Who is being unreasonable ?

230 replies

Grouchymardybum25 · 22/03/2023 07:43

I have a step DC who is young primary school aged, he lives full time with us and has 3, 2 hour supervised contacts a month and one supervised over night a month.
he had fallen in a puddle one contact when on over night stay so they had bought him some clothes now sometimes he turns up in them from over night contact and we just rotate clothes so they go on his pile etc
we dress him and send change of clothes in any of the clothes we have. She has made contacted demanding the clothes she has bought be returned to her as his only allowed them during contact ? I can’t get my head around this ? Like I can’t understand why he needed 2 scooters because she bought one for his birthday but only allowed to play with it there, so then we had to buy him one for Christmas. We bought him a bike and he uses it at both.
AIBU to think it’s pathetic ?

OP posts:

Fluffodils · 22/03/2023 22:31

MarvellousMonsters · 22/03/2023 20:55

@Fluffodils The child lives full time with dad and the OP, not with his mum. Dad won't be paying any maintenance to mum.

Show quote history

Yeah I realised that a bit later on. Mum should be paying him maintenance though.

RoseAdagio · 23/03/2023 12:35

Grouchymardybum25 · 22/03/2023 21:02

@DorotheaHomeAlone thank you I am used to being the bad person as I am the “ step parent “ I should have no say.
when he first come to live with us we had 24 hours to decide if he was placed in care at the fine he was still struggling with issues that stemmed from being in withdrawal when born. My DP lived in my house, I did not hesitate it took me less than a minute to say of course. Over the years yes I am his step mum but I refuse to treat him like his an outsider in his own home and so he is treated exactly like my others are and there is no oh sorry go ask your dad for that. I do the school run for my kids so it makes sense for me to the school run with him.
if DP is off work then he does the school run for all the kids to. It works for us but I can’t be expected to be the doting “ step mum “ then have no say about other things.

Just read this. You are clearly an awesome step mummy, stepping up and picking up the pieces caused by his biological Mum's addiction.

She should consider herself lucky she gets any access to him at all given that he had withdrawal symptoms when he was born because of her issues, rather than focusing all her energy on pathetic power grabs just to try to assert some control over the situation just for the sake of it!

Original poster

Grouchymardybum25 · 23/03/2023 15:13

@RoseAdagio you would be shocked though he was still discharged in to her full custody until further down the line when he was removed due to being left attended whilst she went to Brighton !!!

OP posts:

DizzyLizzyKizzy · 23/03/2023 17:09

Grouchymardybum25 · 23/03/2023 15:13

@RoseAdagio you would be shocked though he was still discharged in to her full custody until further down the line when he was removed due to being left attended whilst she went to Brighton !!!

OP this is very identifying I think, whilst I don't think UABU, from your updates. If anyone sees this and it's gets back to the DM, it'll no doubt start a shit storm. You may want to ask MN to edit or remove it.

KarmaStar · 28/04/2023 20:59

The coin should have been removed from dc immediately.
your dh carried on but I can see his frustration .
talk today through with him when he is calm and listen to his pov don't just wait for him to shut up then leap in.
A clearing of the air could be beneficial to you both.🌈

Flip

1 2 ··· 5 6 7 8 9 10

Swipe left for the next trending thread