DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

[Lolabear38]

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

I'm not pretending to be a cool wife, I am a cool wife. He's allowed to speak to other women and everything!! 😆 And if he wants something I'd planned for me and there's an alternative I like, what skin is it off my nose to give him what he wants? He's a great husband and I love him. Oh dear, does that blow my cool credentials or something. 🙄

I like crisp sandwiches. I'm happy to swap food when out with family and friends. I really couldn't care less if I eat lasagne or a sandwich. Or pasta or a salad. Plus I don't understand why you are so caught up on what my favourite foods are. What difference does it make to you? All I said was I'd take advantage of not having the same thing two nights running to have some of my favourite food. I never said that's what the op should do.

Such a folderol over a crisp sandwich preference. 😂.

@MarshaMelrose

I dont care what your food preferences are.

I dont even care that you're a pushover

I care you're trying to make out the op was wrong to be annoyed that her oh was pissed off with her through is own selfishness

(Care is too strong a word for any of it)

😂 someone coming along to tell the op she's a neglectful wife and mother 6 months too late!

I do find it hard to believe this one has got to 40 pages/ 100 posts, or that the irrelevant crisp sandwich sideshow is still be rehashed on the 40th page!

I'm not pretending to be a cool wife, I am a cool wife.

And that works if you're married to a cool husband.

The OP is married to a man who comes home and creates because she ate exactly what she said she'd eat when she said she'd eat it. Being a cool wife for a selfish husband is stupid.

Well this was a surprise. Op can I suggest you never make lasagna again. 😁

I like crisp sandwiches.

So weird that you think crisp sandwiches are the panacea to everything, they are not nutritious at all. And if you feed them to your kids instead of lasagne so your husband has lasagne then you're neglectful parent.

🤚 yep

Crisp sandwiches are not "food" .... how awful of your DH to accept a meal whilst you eat crap... very uncool of him.

But of course he's much more important than you, and he works hard so he deserves it.

The fact that other women think she should have made her husband something else is honestly the most fucking hilarious thing ever.

We're married to our partners not employed by them, if they want more food than we want to cook/ if we eat the food we fucking made then it is their responsibility as a human eat and make food for themselves. I honestly couldn't give a crap if if my husband felt I'd done him a disservice. Last time I checked my marriage vows didn't include personal chef. Jesus Christ.
This is the best thread I've ever read I love being a twat bitch who not only reheats but quite regularly tells my husband to cook for him self gasp the horror.

You didn't have obey in your wedding vows did you? You're one of those new aged women aren't you.

Thank fuck you and me are in the vast majority!

I am hanging my head in shame, @ReneBumsWombats. 😪

I didn't read in her opening post that she likes lasagne. I tend that she made enough for 2 nights for convenience. And her husband loves lasagne

I didn't assume she'd prefer crisp sandwiches. I said I did.

Why are you stressing so much about this that you are swearing? Chill out. Its lasagne and crisp sandwiches for goodness sake. Not life and death. 🙄

Fuck me, where did all the trad wives come from?

This thread is hilarious. I'm too lazy to cook from scratch everyday, I didn't know cooking and cleaning up once but eating twice was an embarrassingly low standard, I call it smart.

I take it there have been name changes in response to some memorable moments.

@MarshaMelrose I expect PP is swearing because she fucking can! Women are allowed to do that also

Why are you stressing so much about this that you are swearing? Chill out. Its lasagne and crisp sandwiches for goodness sake.

No, it's about respect and care.

I didn't say she was wrong to be annoyed. I made no comment on her or her husband. I just said how I would make it work out best for me.

I like swearing. I do it because I like it, it can emphasis my point.

@Lolabear38 please can you confirm, you made lasagna, sufficient for two nights running because you LIKE lasagna? This appears to be a bone of contention that only you can resolve.

If it's not about the OP @MarshaMelrose start a thread of your own!

@MarshaMelrose

Your judgement is clear.

No skin off my nose to give my oh everything he wants while I keep nothing for myself

They're not nutritious. So I don't have them often. So they're a treat when I do. I don't think they're a panacea for all life's ills. My kids have long since left home. What is it about crisp sarnies that stirs up such strong emotions in you? 🤔

Fuck me, where did all the trad wives come from?

We've had an influx of incel/MRA types lately.

People write to me. I reply. That's sort of the point of a forum.

😂😂😂

I have never had a crisp sandwich. Maybe I am missing out. But if I made one for me, I would be really annoyed if my husband ate it.