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DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

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Lolabear38 · 21/03/2023 23:01

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

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Tilllly · 21/03/2023 23:50

I'd have spat on his leftovers

Bloody annoying

Codlingmoths · 21/03/2023 23:52

HE called YOU selfish??
one of you cooked the meal and fed the dc
one of you ate double their serving the first night and expected the family o all eat small portions so they could still get a whole serve the next night. Not an equivalent small portion, a whole serve.

I know which one I’d call selfish. There wouldn’t be another meal for him at our house until he apologised.

BMW6 · 21/03/2023 23:52

He seriously thinks you and your children should have had less today because he had another portion last night??

He's a selfish, greedy bastard. It's a big Fuck Off from me to him.

Smellyfishh · 21/03/2023 23:52

He had his portion! The rest of you can have yours today. He's old enough to make himself a meal.

BlackBarbies · 21/03/2023 23:55

No one told him to eat his portion for today, yesterday! He can hardly be annoyed when he’s the one who’s eaten his food instead of keeping it for today as planned.

He’s really bothered that you didn’t eat less today so he could have more again. What a greedy bastard

Pixiedust1234 · 21/03/2023 23:58

Well done OP. I doubt he will do that again 😉

Geppili · 22/03/2023 00:00

Awful, awful man.

HarrietSchulenberg · 22/03/2023 00:00

YANBU. He ate his share of tonight's tea as a snack last night so tough shit.

xprincessxjanetx · 22/03/2023 00:05

So, he expected his wife and kids to have a smaller portion, potentially leaving them hungry as it was less than usual, because he couldn't control himself last night? Unreasonable beyond belief.

PinkSyCo · 22/03/2023 00:15

So who did he expect to go without dinner just so’s he could have his late night snack? You or you kids I wonder? 🤔

Radyward · 22/03/2023 00:16

So what if He ate another slice !! It was yummy and He is a man so its likely He has a big appetite. .
Ok you had din din planned for this pm-knew ye would be short for Tonight. He was at work all day while you also worked in the home. I would be mightily fed up if I was him. You were deliberately inconsiderate esp knowimg his dinmer would be tiny.you could have thrown on a bit more pasta/ or even forwarned him re - tiny meal .it feels punishment for daring to have the munchies the night before -very petty OP.
Ye have a home that ye live and he has every right / not to chomp on more lasagne. Your reaction and behaviour is a bit seargent major
You need to apologise

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 22/03/2023 00:19

I knew there'd be one along soon but @Radyward is a particularly fine example!!

2013isback · 22/03/2023 00:19

Text him this:

DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me
UnpropitiousNightmares · 22/03/2023 00:20

Way to go OP!! 😁

PinkSyCo · 22/03/2023 00:21

Radyward · 22/03/2023 00:16

So what if He ate another slice !! It was yummy and He is a man so its likely He has a big appetite. .
Ok you had din din planned for this pm-knew ye would be short for Tonight. He was at work all day while you also worked in the home. I would be mightily fed up if I was him. You were deliberately inconsiderate esp knowimg his dinmer would be tiny.you could have thrown on a bit more pasta/ or even forwarned him re - tiny meal .it feels punishment for daring to have the munchies the night before -very petty OP.
Ye have a home that ye live and he has every right / not to chomp on more lasagne. Your reaction and behaviour is a bit seargent major
You need to apologise

You are fucking joking right? The selfish sod was told the left overs were earmarked for tonight’s dinner. He should have made himself a sandwich to placate his attack of the munchies last night.

JudgeRudy · 22/03/2023 00:22

Perfectly reasonable. Of course, you could have told him earlier so he had the option to pick something up on the way home....like he could have told you he'd eaten his yesterday. Ooops 🙄

What I am curious about though....well its MN and we're obsessed with food and portion sizes etc....just how big is an 8 portion lasagne?

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 22/03/2023 00:23

@JudgeRudy its roughly the same size as a MN chicken, but smaller than a massive salad. HTH.

NevieSticks · 22/03/2023 00:24

Tilllly · 21/03/2023 23:50

I'd have spat on his leftovers

Bloody annoying

Christ almighty - aren't you lovely!

JudgeRudy · 22/03/2023 00:26

HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 22/03/2023 00:23

@JudgeRudy its roughly the same size as a MN chicken, but smaller than a massive salad. HTH.

Think OPs OH was hoping it was more like Bread & Fishes....the lasagne that keeps on giving....except it didn't 😆

Whiteroomjoy · 22/03/2023 00:27

Well, I think you should be a little positive as hopefully, unless he is stupid or has a short memory, he won’t do that ever again.
in fact if you want to do the saving leftovers again, I tell him on the evening , and then make a big joke of reminding him not to have “ another lasagne moment” if he wants tea the next day. You could keep that joke going for next 30 years easily.

Whiteroomjoy · 22/03/2023 00:28

Also, think positively, it must have been a good lasagne you made 👏

Hawkins003 · 22/03/2023 00:29

@Lolabear38 children always first

DahliaMacNamara · 22/03/2023 00:29

To be fair to your DH, if there was leftover lasagne in my kitchen, after reading this thread I'd probably be eating it now.
But there would never be leftover lasagne in my kitchen.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/03/2023 00:31

Radyward · 22/03/2023 00:16

So what if He ate another slice !! It was yummy and He is a man so its likely He has a big appetite. .
Ok you had din din planned for this pm-knew ye would be short for Tonight. He was at work all day while you also worked in the home. I would be mightily fed up if I was him. You were deliberately inconsiderate esp knowimg his dinmer would be tiny.you could have thrown on a bit more pasta/ or even forwarned him re - tiny meal .it feels punishment for daring to have the munchies the night before -very petty OP.
Ye have a home that ye live and he has every right / not to chomp on more lasagne. Your reaction and behaviour is a bit seargent major
You need to apologise

Is this a joke? “It was yummy” - he’s not 5, and he knew it was earmarked for the next day.

”He is a man and He has a big appetite” - I forgot men have a divine right to all of the food they want, even if it means others don’t get their needs met. With the emphasis on He with a capital H to underline his extra importance.

viques · 22/03/2023 00:33

Good for you OP. If he was still hungry the first night he could have made toast ,or a sandwich or cereal rather than being lazy and tucking into something he knew was earmarked for another meal. And to say everyone else should have a smaller portion so he could fill his belly is adding insult to injury.

he is a lazy,thoughtless,greedy, entitled bum wipe.

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