DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

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I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

@eastegg

A fry up.

I’m craving a cold steak and kidney pie.

I confess there's not much I'd take over a lasagne. Top tier for me 🤤

Fillet steak with pepper sauce 😊

Actually I do quite like a crisp sandwich (but not as much as a nice lasagne - probably not made by me, I make a shit lasagne).

Or especially for @tunamayo81

Dominos pizza re het the next day

@MarshaMelrose What would you do if you plan to have your crisp sandwich, but there were only two slices of bread left and your DH wants them for his dinner (even though he'd eaten the rest of the loaf for supper the night before)? Would you let him have your bread?

What? I am getting anxiety reading this just on how petty everything has become these days, it sounds like he is still living at home or acting like a Student! DH sounds more high maintenance than the DC’s! 🙃

I think we can conclude that lasagne > husbands.

What a loser, I would have left him nothing. Hope he does 50% of the household chores. I’m so sick of reading about selfish men on this platform who do not pull their weight around the house. Punish them! (I appreciate that’s a rant and your DH may well do 50:50!)

Give the man a break - he'd been out at work all day and be flattered that he finds your cooking irresistible!

Sorry to hear you’d had a hard day, but I’m disagreeing with everyone here I can’t see the big deal.. I’d have done some chips with it or whatever to bulk the meal up and make sure everyone got the right portion.
It was a nice lasagne… I think it’s a compliment 🤷🏻‍♀️
If I reacted like you every time my husband ate something I had other plans for I don’t think we’d still be married!

For 'right portion' read 'woman and kids get small portion to enable man to have 3 times as much as them'.

@Dontthinkthrice

If my oh was that selfish we definitely wouldn't be married

Cause I'm not a complete pushover who thinks oh is more important than I am

Radyward · 22/03/2023 00:16

So what if He ate another slice !! It was yummy and He is a man so its likely He has a big appetite. .
Ok you had din din planned for this pm-knew ye would be short for Tonight. He was at work all day while you also worked in the home. I would be mightily fed up if I was him. You were deliberately inconsiderate esp knowimg his dinmer would be tiny.you could have thrown on a bit more pasta/ or even forwarned him re - tiny meal .it feels punishment for daring to have the munchies the night before -very petty OP.
Ye have a home that ye live and he has every right / not to chomp on more lasagne. Your reaction and behaviour is a bit seargent major
You need to apologise

Are you serious, Radyward? OP runs the household. She says what is to eat, not him. He was greedy. She should have given him a tin of baked beans to add to whatever was leftover after she and DCs had eaten. Hate this entitled attitude that men have and that some women pander to! He needs to grovel.

I'd tell him to get lost - permantly if possible. God some guys just think because your a women you have to cook, clean and do everything. I would not put up with this. Who does he think he is.

No your being a total pushover and a hand maiden keeps your marriage intact!

Not something I'd be proud to advertise.

You have a serious husband problem. WTF does he think he is, getting angry over food? Get yourself a job and some independence because this doesn’t bode well. A man who gets angry over food is a controlling prize twat.

Of course. That entitles the one with the balls doesn’t it. The partner without the balls has been at home with their sick kids but did that, hey, the owner of the balls is clearly the master in his house and gets to eat his wife and children’s dinner.

How the actual fuck can any woman think that this is ok??!!!!

I despair.

Anyway fillet steak and pepper sauce with garlic potatoes or my spag Bol. I make the best spag Bol. It’s amazing reheated!

If that’s the level of respect your DH has for you maybe not being married to him would be in your best interests.

It shouldn't be necessary, but can you freeze half of what you cook so that all that is available is enough for one meal? And plate up so he doesn't get to take more than his share?

I do this. It's just me and teen DS at home. What he sees as a nice evening snack of leftover dinner I regard as a whole meal for another day.
To prevent either of us being tempted to nibble away at it, I immediately freeze.
I'm teaching him that not all food is equal.

Is there a reason that saying ‘don’t eat this, it’s a meal for another day’ would be insufficient?

If we're eating dinner together then yes I say this, but often we are doing different evening sports activities so eating at different times.
It's easier to sort out the portion to freeze and get it done rather than leave in the fridge with a note.

Fair enough. That makes sense.