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DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

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Lolabear38 · 21/03/2023 23:01

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

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youbitchesaretwats · 23/03/2023 21:08

StillWantingADog · 23/03/2023 21:07

There’s always leftovers in our fridge and dh eyes then up but he ALWAYS whatsapps me to check there aren’t plans for them. For example we eat later than the DCs but often the DCs get our tea from the previous night warmed up.

yanbu

Will you please not think of the children!

T1Dmama · 23/03/2023 21:08

YANBU
If there are 4 portions and he ate one, there is then 3 portions left! He ate his last night! End of. Pretty simple math really

ReneBumsWombats · 23/03/2023 21:08

MatchaAdoAboutNuts · 23/03/2023 21:07

Well done tunamayo81 you sanctimonious, privileged for making poor folk feel like shit

They should not feel like shit. They should just laugh.

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 21:14

lcl · 23/03/2023 20:54

I think you are being unreasonable. I’m in exactly the same position at home with ill kids. Husband working his arse off. He is entitled to eat. Getting in knackered from work he should have something to eat !!! So what he ate more last night. Don’t be so lazy and make him something else. People wonder why their relationships fail and I see everyone supporting you !!

DH and I both "get in knackered from work" but there's no-one to hand either of us our dinner on a plate.

Alert - it's 2023. The 50s are looking for you back!!!

ShepherdMoons · 23/03/2023 21:14

I realise I'm a bit late for this but fwiw I think it's a mountain over a molehill.

The issue isn't the lasagne, it's the fact you're tired and need a break. Husband eating lasagne isn't a big deal to me. At least he likes the food you cook, I can't cook to save my life.

Have some cheap meals on hand to give him if he's eaten his share. No need to get worked up about this.

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 21:15

Sainte · 23/03/2023 20:52

It’s family life.
He was obviously still hungry. As you said there was easy access to other food that you could have spread through the lasagna.

Lesson learned is give your husband a decent portion and also keep some beans handy just in case.

"give your husband a decent portion" - he'd already fucking well had TWO!!!

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 21:16

ShepherdMoons · 23/03/2023 21:14

I realise I'm a bit late for this but fwiw I think it's a mountain over a molehill.

The issue isn't the lasagne, it's the fact you're tired and need a break. Husband eating lasagne isn't a big deal to me. At least he likes the food you cook, I can't cook to save my life.

Have some cheap meals on hand to give him if he's eaten his share. No need to get worked up about this.

"to give him" - does he not have two hands of his own??

Jesus. Emily Pankhurst must be turning in her grave!!!

TaLooLaBell · 23/03/2023 21:17

Never has RTFT been more relevant

youbitchesaretwats · 23/03/2023 21:19

@adriftinadenofvipers for goodness sake!!

Please read this

www.primermagazine.com/2009/love/the-good-wifes-guide

Stop being all "modern", it'll never catch on!

It was obvious this would happen once women got the vote!

Atsocta · 23/03/2023 21:19

Hardly the end of the world is it 🙀lighten up!

WiddlinDiddlin · 23/03/2023 21:21

Has the scent of tuna mayo drawn more muppets out of the woodwork.

He KNEW he'd eaten the following days dinner, his second portion of the lasagna - he was aware there were two portions each and can presumably do basic maths.

Why should the OP who did NOT know he had eaten his portion early until she went to heat it up, so, last minute... GIVE him something else?

He should have thought ahead and sorted himself something else or been prepared to do so.

RTFT... it brings sooo much enlightenment!

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 21:22

youbitchesaretwats · 23/03/2023 21:19

@adriftinadenofvipers for goodness sake!!

Please read this

www.primermagazine.com/2009/love/the-good-wifes-guide

Stop being all "modern", it'll never catch on!

It was obvious this would happen once women got the vote!

😂😆😁

I was thinking more this -
https://www.drnancyoreilly.com/how-to-be-a-good-wife-1950s-style/

How To Be A Good Wife (1950s Style) - Dr. Nancy

Here’s an excerpt from a 1950s high school home economics textbook. If their mothers acted this way, small wonder they’re confused by us millennium women!

https://www.drnancyoreilly.com/how-to-be-a-good-wife-1950s-style

adriftinadenofvipers · 23/03/2023 21:23

Looks pretty similar lol!

AppallinglyReheated · 23/03/2023 21:23

Dagnammit I mean to post that under this snazzy new username! (the poster formerly known as WiddlinDiddlin)

youbitchesaretwats · 23/03/2023 21:24

I think a lot can be learned from those ancient scriptures @adriftinadenofvipers.

Scotland32 · 23/03/2023 21:33

You husband is a pr*ck

Michellelovesizzy · 23/03/2023 21:33

So u guys shouldn’t have eaten ur normal portion u should have eaten a smaller portion so he could still have his normal portion? Ur husband is a joker I would just laugh

Cavies · 23/03/2023 21:38

I reckon OP won’t be making lasagne again for a while.

Helswatts · 23/03/2023 21:41

No, as he didn’t let her know he’d had a second helping, why worry about telling him there’s only a small portion left for him.

Cookthecrumble · 23/03/2023 21:47

viques · 22/03/2023 08:07

I think this interesting post deserves its own thread so we can watch the light gradually dawning in their sleepy eyes……

Show quote history

“This taxi doesn’t run on rudeness”
love this! 🤣

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 23/03/2023 21:47

lcl · 23/03/2023 20:54

I think you are being unreasonable. I’m in exactly the same position at home with ill kids. Husband working his arse off. He is entitled to eat. Getting in knackered from work he should have something to eat !!! So what he ate more last night. Don’t be so lazy and make him something else. People wonder why their relationships fail and I see everyone supporting you !!

stop being such a little drudge

Cloud9isnowclosed · 23/03/2023 21:48

Well, Little Miss "reheating food for children is appalling behaviour" is apparently (according to herself) a midwife - so thats good - non judgemental support from a HCP...

youbitchesaretwats · 23/03/2023 21:49

Cloud9isnowclosed · 23/03/2023 21:48

Well, Little Miss "reheating food for children is appalling behaviour" is apparently (according to herself) a midwife - so thats good - non judgemental support from a HCP...

Hilarious that her username is also food related...

It's almost like she's got a food issue!

Needwine999 · 23/03/2023 21:53

First world problems !!!!

Devoutspoken · 23/03/2023 21:55

Cheese on toast is quick and easy, just bulk it out with something like that

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