DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

[Lolabear38]

I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

I'd make him another lasagne and stick it on top of the bag I'd packed for him and tell him he can have that one all to himself in his new place. Once a selfish a....hole, always a selfish a....hole

He ate it knowing there'd be less for him so let him make something else when home or buy something when out job done

I made lasagne last night and somehow got the proportions wrong, too much sauce not enough pasta, it was like lasagne soup.

I ended up making garlic bread to mop it up and DP filled up on that.

It tasted OK and DD 17mths loved it, but the sloppiness was off putting.

No argument over what to do with the leftovers, neither of us wanted them.

He was forewarned (he ate it). She wasn’t (he didn’t tell her).

Tell him to find something else and them call the portion police. You are both over reacting.

Well yes, I'd like to think anyone can eat anything in our house, I keep enough basic staples for last minute changes of plan, especially if he's working hard

Lol nearly 1000 posts in a thread about eating lasagne leftovers.

Because we live in the first world.

People don't generally come on mumsnet expecting posts about the village well running dry.

@Devoutspoken

What if he's not working hard?

You are definitely NBU! He chose to eat his portion the night before so should not have been surprised to get little the next day. He was being selfish to think you should all have smaller portions - he would have had 3 then! My DH agrees with this and says YANBU.

Yeah, maybe he could have, oh I don't know...

Something like beans on toast?

Or he could cancel the cheque?

We have to get it too 1000!

People don't generally come on mumsnet expecting posts about the village well running dry.

Ha ha, I think some do! God knows what some posters think are worthy of a thread on MN.

This obviously is something she does most nights, as she normally cooks. On this day she'd been struggling with kids, didn't want to cook and told him so. On this one specific day. Is it never ok to not feel like knocking him up a whole different meal, even after agreeing a plan to avoid having to which he then secretly ruined?

I bloody love this, well done you and what an arsehole DH is, serves him right.

Re-heated curry is food of the gods! I want some reheated curry right now yum!!

Why? Anyone anything anytime doesn’t seem reasonable to me.

Oh, get away with you. Why is it rude to say I like something more than lasagne, no matter who cooked it? I'd eat it both nights but I'd be happy to be given the opportunity to have something I liked more on the second night. I really don't think that's rude or how it could offend the op...or you. Unless, of course, you're looking to be offended.

The op got in an argument about it all and was still angry enough to write about it all online. Me, I'd just have had an alternative, been happy, no argument, not angry. I can't see how that makes me silly. Although if being relaxed over food makes me silly, then I think being silly is a good thing.

Would you like some lasagne whilst you are waiting

Indeed. I'd have done that if I'd been either of them.

I never eat reheated food 🤭

No, you're right. A lot of it is much better cold the next day.

I'm still laughing at the TunaMayo abusive re-heating. I'm eating lasagne now. Love a good lasagne. I make a decent one. Uni ds1 said he can't wait to get home and have one of mine.

Thought of a good way to get it to 1000 posts. Like MarshaMelrose, let’s just all post something that we would prefer to lasagne. Remember, you must make no attempt whatsoever to put yourself in OP’s shoes, just pointlessly and irrelevantly state something you personally prefer to lasagne.

I’ll start. Camembert with fresh crusty bread.

@MarshaMelrose

The op didn't get in an argument about it.

Her oh did

he had a go at her. She simply told him there was none left.

Being so much of a push over you'd let your oh eat all your food because you're pretending to be such a cool wife is definitely silly