DH ate extra lasagne and didn’t tell me

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I’m currently at home with 2 poorly DCs. We are all getting cabin fever so I may be over reacting a little here.

Yesterday I made a big lasagne for our tea. We had it with salad, corn on the cob and garlic bread so it was a substantial meal. There was enough leftover for us to have tonight (planned). I said as much to DH and he said ok fine, he said liked it a lot so was happy to have it again tonight.

I went to bed before DH last night and, unbeknown to me, he had another portion of the lasagne and didn’t say anything to me. Normally not an issue but as I said I was planning on us having it tonight too.

Today has been a hard day with the kids but I thought ‘oh at least dinner is sorted’ except when I went to get the lasagne I was bloody annoyed to see we were one portion down! I hadn’t looked at it all day today as when I put it in the fridge last night there was plenty.

DH was working later tonight so DC and I ate before he got home. I considered giving everyone a smaller portion but then I thought, f$&@ it, we’re having a normal portion and DH can have whatever is left, which is a lot less than he usually would have. He’s now home and very annoyed and thinks I’m selfish and somehow food shaming him for eating the extra last night. He said I should have left him enough, but as far as I’m concerned I did last night!

There is plenty of bread/ baked beans etc. for him to make himself something else but AIBU to be annoyed and not to have left him enough tonight?

I'm really, REALLY hoping that delightful 1950s-styled missive by @Radyward was a sorry attempt at humour!

Homemade lasagna is food of the gods, so I am reading this with jealousy.

Your dh sounds a bit thick, what did he think would happen if he ate tonight portion yesterday in addition to his dinner?

He doesn't have the courtesy to restrain his greed, nor the foresight to give you a heads up, or the ability to knock himself up a replacement meal. Then to be pissed off too?

Hope the kids get their brains from you!

He is a man and He has a big appetite

Ahh yes, those pesky penis portions!

I wouldn't have left him anything, so you were far more generous than me op.
He sounds incredibly selfish, very unattractive.

Yes, I could have forewarned him I suppose. At the time I was too annoyed though!

I just want @Radyward to come back and tell us more about Him and His Big Appetite!

Usually leftovers are fair game in our house, so on another day it probably wouldn’t have been an issue. Based on how it usually works he wouldn’t have told me what he’d eaten but as yesterday I had specifically told him it was being saved for tonight’s dinner he should have known to tell me I think? Or better still, not eaten it in the first place!

Your dh is a shocker. My stbeh would have scoffed the lasagne too but would not have been indignant the following day and expectant of a substantial portion. And stbeh is a horror. I hope his behaviour is a once off because that kind of attitude is wearing over time. I hope your dc feel well soon- not easy with sick smallies.

What was his justification for eating it after you’d specifically said leftovers were for tonight’s dinner?

And where was he expecting the extra for his dinner to come from? Was he expecting you or your kids to go without/have less?

I REALLY hope you asked all this.

I'd have given him my portion and had a crisp sandwich in front of the telly. Much more yummy.

@Radyward hahahaha thank you! That has actually cheered me up no end and brought me out of my mood! (I’m assuming it was a joke?)

She didn’t want a ‘crisp sandwich’ (which sounds deeply unpleasant). She wanted the meal that she’d planned.

In what way is your comment helpful?

I would ask him directly....

"So you ate two dinners last night, and expect me and two sick children to eat substantially less today so you could have a third dinner when I made it very clear that this was a "two dinner each" lasagne? Are you seriously suggesting that me feeding us properly and you eating your dinner a day early and still expecting the same tonight is ME being selfish?"

YANBU, the greedy pig

I'm just offering an alternative course of action. 🤷 Is that not allowed on MN? I didn't read that rule. Soz. I'm sure the sick children would have had pizza or a sarnie instead. I like lasagna but I can think of tons of things I'd sacrifice it for.

I can think of tons of things I'd sacrifice lasagna for too. A greedy, selfish, pig headed husband is not one of those things.

Is he still raging? Start taking bites out of his lunch each day.

An alternative course of action for something that’s already happened? What for, exactly? In case she invents time travel and wants to go back and cater to her husband’s greed?

He might get greedy again. I'd take advantage and have something I'd really like but wouldn't usually have.

But if I ate something that was preferable to the lasagna, my greedy pig of a husband would have done me a favour. Every cloud and all that.

Sorry. Just so I understand. The children get a sandwich for dinner because daddy wants three portions of lasagne.

Is my exMIL raised from the grave with her penis portions?

What a truly bizarre take. Or she can continue not catering to his greed, so he’s the only one it impacts.

Feel free to continue giving bizarre backwards advice on how to cater to selfishness, though. 👏🏽

Noooo. I get the sandwich for dinner. 😋

Yeah, I’m not sure if this poster is the ultimate handmaiden or just a troll. I’m leaning towards the latter.

Just because how I'd behave is different from how you would, doesn't make it bizarre. For me if he ate the lasagna, I'd happily spoil myself with a crisp sandwich. Or hummus on garlic pitta bread. Or an open prawn and salad sandwich with Marie Rose sauce. Or prawn and avocado pitta pocket. Gosh, so much stuff I'd be happy to eat.