Just made a mum friend who is 10 years younger than me

[Skullandcrossbone]

Our DC are in reception class together and are similar (both have suspected ASD too) they’ve formed a sort of semi friendship/enjoy playing together.

I was chatting to the mum at drop off today and she mentioned her age and she is 10 years younger than I am. She had her DS quite young I believe.
I do like her and would like our DC to meet up outside of school, but I have no friends who are that much younger than I am.

AIBU? Has anyone else got friends/mum friends who are much younger or older than they are?

One of my very best mum friends is 10 yrs older than me. I also have some who are 5-10 yrs younger. Honestly, over the age of 20, ten years makes zero difference if you are at the same life stage.

Why is this even a question?
Im the youngest mum in my kids’ years. I’m a good 10 years younger than most of the mums. I’ve made a lot of friends. We go out without the kids, we’ve had weekends away without the kids.

By the time you’re an adult, age difference really don’t matter that much.

Literally have no idea how old most of my mum friends are. The fact is you’re both at the same life stage so you’ll have loads in common. There might be a few misses on popular culture references but that’s about it.

What even is your AIBU?

Surely after both turn adults it didn't matter?
One thing I will say is that I have had friends who were 15 years and above older and does feel like they would act as though they knew best and I was wrong on things because I was younger than them.

I’m one of the younger mums across the parents in my child’s school year.

It’s not the age of the other parents that puts me off speaking with a lot of them, it is their personalities.

The few I do speak to on a regular basis are all 12-15 years older than me.

I'm about the oldest mum in the school year and let me tell you, children are a great leveller. Your life similarities are more important than anything else.

I was close friends with my then neighbour from when our children were babies. Never thought about the age difference.

I put my anxiety aside to give my number to a mum who’s clearly a girl but older than me; because our children are best friends. We caught eachother at an event and got talking about her kids, they each other to come to our houses and play so I offered my number to set up a date for a coffee and play date. - she never text me and it’s completely put me off putting myself out there again.

I know it’s sound ridiculous but I’m such a shy and anxious person it was a big step for me 😅 still hoping she texts eventually!

This is a non issue. I have friend who are younger and older by a good few years. I am 50 and one of my long standing friends is in her 70s, we met at work when I was 16 and she was late 30s.

There is easy 10 years between the youngest and oldest in my ‘school mums’ friendship group. We met when our kids were at primary and although they mostly have nothing to do with each other anymore we meet a few times a year to talk about parenting teens and life in general. If I needed help they would be there and that is a lovely thing.

Once you are an adult age is just a number.

Should have said there wa 10 years age difference between us. But anyway OP in your situation as it seems you would be meeting mainly for the children’s benefit initially, you may or may not become friends, regardless of your ages

I'm in my 30's and I have close friends from early twenties all the way up to mid sixties.

I honestly have no idea why you are concerned about this at all.

Age makes no difference I'd say. I'm 46 and the people at work I speak to most are 23 and 69 respectively!

My best friend is 61 next week, I'm 39! She's my best friend because she's nice, funny, supportive, I could go on! I don't think she is important here!

For me, it's always been about personalities, rather than numbers.
I have friends who are 10+ years older than me, and some who are literally young enough to be my children/grandchildren (I'm in my 60s).
So long as you get on and have things in common, l wouldn't give it another thought.

One of my most interesting and supportive friends in 30 years older than me.

We met through work, her grandchild and my child are also friends now.

I don't even think about her age - genuinely - she is great fun and we have much in common.

If I had restricted myself to people the same ages as me, I would have had a very limited number of available friends!

Age is no barrier to friendship.
I haven't actually considered it.
I have friends who are much younger- 20 years or so- and older- 15 years older than myself.
I don't see the issue.

I have a mum friend who is 15 years younger than me. Id never have thought I'd be friends with someone that young but our boys love each other like brothers and she's a good person and friend.
She is 25 and I'm 40... who knew ? 😎

People are people. If you get along well then what difference does age make, especially if you’re at a similar life stage (young kids at school)? I have friends who are younger and friends who are older - not an issue at all.

What difference does it make?

I was in a group of mum friends from when ds was around 7 - 13.

It ranged from 20 something year olds to 40-50 something year olds who were a mix of parents or grandparents. Age didn't matter (except for when the young ones couldn't keep up the pace on a pub crawl 🤣) as we had in common kids at the same age.

so....My best friend is 12 years very comfortin

I made friends with a mum at school as our sons were friends, she's 10 years older than me, we're still great friends now 22 years later, and so are our sons.

@LarryStylinson I’m glad I’m not the only one 🤣🤣

@Skullandcrossbone I actually can’t remember the last time I asked another parents age 🤔 I only ever ask about their child 🤷🏻‍♀️ If you get on, you get on 🤷🏻‍♀️