Just made a mum friend who is 10 years younger than me

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Our DC are in reception class together and are similar (both have suspected ASD too) they’ve formed a sort of semi friendship/enjoy playing together.

I was chatting to the mum at drop off today and she mentioned her age and she is 10 years younger than I am. She had her DS quite young I believe.
I do like her and would like our DC to meet up outside of school, but I have no friends who are that much younger than I am.

AIBU? Has anyone else got friends/mum friends who are much younger or older than they are?

One anecdote does not data make.

How do you know she ditched you for age-related reasons? Maybe she was just flaky & disloyal.

Lots of my mum friends are 5-10
years older!

Especially ones I’ve made through my oldest (11) who I had aged 24…

and then the ones I’ve met through my youngest (2) are generally about 3 or 4 years younger.

Why would you care at all?

All my friends are my age or older! I’m 40 and the majority of my friends are aged between 36 - 59 ish. I like them for who they are, not their age. Don’t let it bother you.

when my kids started school my group of mum friends ranged from 24 through to 44. The eldest could have been the youngest’s mum. Can’t say we noticed as we had the commonality of children the same age. I am still close to one of them who was the youngest despite me being 8 year’s older. One of my closest friends I made at work a few year’s ago is 10 year’s older than me.

I wouldn’t have had any mum friends if they’d all considered me too young ☹️. I was just short of my 17th birthday when DC1 was born, so still not 21 when they started school.
Now I’m ( much, much) older I have friends who are 8-14 years older and up to 9 years younger than me.

Yeah...... I have friends ranging from 24 to about 74.

I’m surprised you are asking OP. Before I had DD I already had lots of work friends / friends from my sport who were 10 20 or 30 years different in age so this wouldn’t occur to me. Focus on what you have in common.

Is it just me who finds hearing about age gap friendships heartwarming😂

I don't know why, I barely even notice in real life but it's just nice

I couldn't care what age someone is, if we get on, we get on

One of my best friends is 10 years younger than me. It's not a big deal.

Yes - I have lots of mum friends who are older and younger than me, also lots of different professions, backgrounds and parenting styles. The variety is so refreshing.

I am in a group of friends where are children are all a similar age but our ranges are 20 years apart. We still have amazing friendships.

One of my closest friends is 35 years younger than me and I love her to pieces 💓

Sure. My friends are up to 20 or more years younger, and ten years older. I'm 60.

My own parents had an age gap of 31 years; both married twice and had two families. so my 5 sibs and half sibs had an age range of 44 years. So in our family, generation gaps meant very little; my parents social circle spanned decades, and that may be why mine always has too. Currently my friends range from late 20's to late 80's.

One of my dearest freinds is my mums age and her sons are a few years younger than me... its not an issue

Wouldn’t even occur to me that age would be an issue 🤷🏻‍♀️
I’m in my late 20’s but I have friends right across the age spectrum - a friend I met at work is only just 19, but we have a shared interest so get on well. My close friends are mostly in their 30’s. I also have a good friend who’s almost 70 - I bonded with her over a shared love of baking! If you have a common ground and enjoy each other’s company I don’t see how age is an issue.

What? Is this really a question? I'm an older mum and plenty of the other mums are 10 years younger than me. I'm good friends with some of them. I'm also good friends with people who are 10, 15 and 25 years older than I am. If you like each other age shouldn't be an issue!

I have loads of friends 10
years younger or older don’t really get the issue

My sons best friend mum is 19! I’m nearly 20years old but we get on great, she’s such a nice person and we have lots in common despite the age. Our children stared reception and just took to each other.

20years older*

Why is that an issue ? I'm 55 my closest friends range from 27 to 82.

Such a strange thing to focus on ?

I’m probably slap bang in the middle age wise of my daughters class’s mums - many are significantly younger than me, many others are significantly older. I’d say there is about 25 years between the youngest mum and the oldest mum in the class (parents ranging roughly from 16 to 40 at the time of their children’s birth)

Yeh, my two friends in my daughter's class were 23 and 46 and I was 35. It's life stages, not ages that are important I think.

I was a teen mum- at the typical teen mum age (16). My best friend who I met when I was 20 is 17 years older than me, we get on really well.

All my work colleagues, who are also very good friends, are around 10 years older than me. I dont ever feel like it's ever had a baring on our friendship whatsoever. I'd be very sad if they had not been my friend because of my age, but then I suppose they wouldn't be the right person to be a friend with me.