Just made a mum friend who is 10 years younger than me

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Our DC are in reception class together and are similar (both have suspected ASD too) they’ve formed a sort of semi friendship/enjoy playing together.

I was chatting to the mum at drop off today and she mentioned her age and she is 10 years younger than I am. She had her DS quite young I believe.
I do like her and would like our DC to meet up outside of school, but I have no friends who are that much younger than I am.

AIBU? Has anyone else got friends/mum friends who are much younger or older than they are?

I don’t know why this would occur to you as an issue as it’s about what you have in common, isn’t it not your age? My friends are mostly my own age or a little older, but I have a really good friend who is 14 years younger than me. We have loads in common!

My range of friends, good ones not acquaintances, goes from 24 years younger than me to 30 years older than me.

I share different interests with each of them so age has never been an issue.

I have friends the same age as my 20 year old child. If you get on, what's the issue?

Why would it even be relevant if you get along. I have close friends who are over 10 years younger and older than myself.

I'm 42, have a few friends from school/uni who are my age. Otherwise one of my closest friends is 50 and two other friends I've made through work are 29 and 31.

One of my good mates had her son two weeks after I had my daughter. She's 42 and I'm 33. I never thought anything of it!

As soon as we go into the workplace age goes out of the window as a criteria for friendship and we learn that it has nothing to do with connection.

I'm 40, one of my best friends is ten years older than me. One mum friend is ten years younger. I have another friend who is in his 70s.

I don't think many people worry about age.

Ime friendships come in many forms. I have a customer who has morphed into a friend. She is only 5 years older than me but considers me the dd she never had
Her own dd is disabled and lives in sheltered housing. She doesn't see her often or get to do dd / dm stuff.

I've got friends who are 20 years younger, and some who are 25 years older than me. If a person is friendly and you share some interests, what does age matter?

This is a total non-issue. I'm in my mid 30s and my two best mum friends are 24 and 46. All of our children are in Year 1. My best friend at work is 59. If you like them as a person and get on then age is really just a number.

My favourite friend is 80. She's quick-witted, very funny, and has an enthusiasm for life that is awesome and I really enjoy her company. I would much rather spend time in her company than with some of the people around my age who I worked with. I forget she's 30 years older than me because shes so full of life and humour and a joy to be around. Can climb a mountain faster than me too.

One of my very best friends is 22 years younger than I am. Her oldest is 4 years younger than my youngest. Our kids have always got on, we are very close. When it comes to friendship, age really is only a number.

OP are writing an Essay or an Article about mum friendships/age groups in female friendships? Bit a of a weird post, and weird OP...

I'm an older mum in an area with lots of young mums. Often mistaken for granny at 40. I've never found age to be a key factor in friendships and certainly wouldn't put it above facilitating child's friendships. That's the priority, particularly with a child who has asd.

My closest mum friend is almost 10 years older than me. It never comes up. The only difference is she has an extra 10 years of living it up pre-DC. We have similar interests, attitudes and our kids get on great.

In general I think this is normal for mum friends. It's more important for kids to have friends the same age than for you to !

I have several friends 5-10 years older than me, not that many my age and almost none younger. It's a non issue, and less so as you get older, although I will be pissed off when they all retire.

I mean, it’s a bit off topic but if you could incorporate a 10 year age gap between you & the potential builder, you’ve cracked it🤣

AIBU? Has anyone else got friends/mum friends who are much younger or older than they are?

YYABU

My friends range from 12yrs younger to a few years older. Age has nothing to do with whether you get on or not. If you and your children get on with another family stop overthinking it and just enjoy

YABU it is very normal. The issue should be whether she doesn't think it cool hanging out with someone older. The support you can give each other is invaluable.

Age gaps aren’t a thing in friendships

Whoops, wrong thread 😄

One of my best friends is 8 years younger. We have children the same age so many of our experiences are the same. If anything we just laugh about it when I mention something from the early 90s and she's like "well I was a baby then so...."

I'm 38 and have a couple of friends that are 50. I also have friends that are mid twenties. I've got an 18yo and a 5 month old so inevitably have a wide age range of friends.

I'm 33 & I have a very close mum friend (we both have 7 year olds) who is 46. We do a lot together and neither of us see the age gap. Our children love each other and we do too.

What a strange question! 😆My best "mum" friend from school is 10 years older than me and she's just fab. And outside school my best friend is 15 years older than me! They're just great people...their age has never crossed my mind!