To ask everyone to be grateful for their Mother's Day gifts?

[MyMumsOnMN]

Am I being unreasonable to ask everyone to be grateful for whatever gifts they do/don't get for mothers day tomorrow?

I've seen a few threads on here tonight from selfish cows people expecting their kids to have done a better job and tried harder.

Some people will be dreading tomorrow so if you're lucky enough to be able to spend it with you mum/kids then just be grateful.

Couldn't agree more…shame it needs spelling out.

Why would anyone be grateful for what they don’t get?

God yes! The moaning already and the day hasn't even arrived. If you're this awful in real life it's no wonder you get shit gifts.

YANBU at all OP

Every single year is the same on MN, just so much moaning.

But apparently I have 'low standards' because I'm very happy with a homemade card and a cuddle 🙄

Presumably because they've still got their kids here with them.

YANBU

Love and appreciation is different from material possessions and the financial value of gifts.

I probably didn't word it great.

I just don't think people should be disappointed tomorrow if their kids don't rock up with what they 'wanted'.

I've already seen a few posts from mums moaning about not getting something and it's not even Mother's Day yet.

If you get to spend time with each other, I think that's better than anything else.

Couldn’t agree more! My work colleagues were horrified that I wasn’t having some elaborate meal or day out for Mother’s Day tomorrow. I’ve asked for a card and for DH to have our 1 year old for an hour so I can have a bubble bath haha - that’s more than enough for me!

Agree 💯 people can be so grabby and entitled 🙄

If my kids ask if they can get me anything, I will ask for a cup of tea or a cuddle. As I am likely to do on any non mothers day too

I’ll get a box of choclates and my children will clear them out - and i’ll be left with about 2 if i’m lucky 😭

OP, YANBU. I just can’t wait until it’s over…until next year 🙄

Grateful for not being given a cushion with my own face on it?

No idea.

I get what you're saying.

But some people won't see their children tomorrow. So if they've not recieved anything yet they won't be getting post on a Sunday.

Your DH looking after your child for an hour is a treat?!

You don't know other people's circumstances.

You don't know why they're focussing on this day or the specifics of their gift.

It's better not to judge.

Nah, my MIL is a fantastic mum and grandma, she does so much for the family and particularly BIL. Every year I have to watch her pretend not to be disappointed when we have her for lunch and he doesn't bother to express any kind of gratitude. His wife, fortunately, ensures that their kids get her a card and present because it is obvious to everyone that her actual son doesn't give a damn.

Yabu

It sounds like mothers day is going to be hard for you and I'm sorry about that. Its a low key day here because dh lost his mum a few years ago.

However, while some people are just grabby, i think for others a day like this can really bring to the fore any issues you have in your relationships. It you've got great kids and a supportive dh then a hug and a card is all you need because you feel appreciated all year. If your famil are a bit shit and you spend the year papering over the cracks, pretending all is well, getting fuck all on mother's day is probably the straw that breaks the camel's back.

We don’t really “do” Mother’s Day in our family so I don’t care either way but YABU. For some people, they feel really under appreciated and MD just highlights it for them and it’s not for you or me to pass judgment.

I doubt if I will get anything as my adult,dc are disorganised but usually I will receive something at some point and maybe just a text.

I'm so over it tbh

I agree. Often it seems there is more to it than the gift. Often from the partner tbh more than the kids.

Agree. I’m a single parent so won’t be getting anything (kids too young) but I don’t care, can’t believe how many people I’ve seen moaning!

Yeah it’s this, isn’t it?

I already know my neurodiverse DC will be a nightmare tomorrow because it’s an ‘occasion’, not that I make it into anything. Then he’ll beat himself up over ‘ruining it’ and I’ll comfort him. My DH can’t help because he’s dead. I know my youngest has made a card so that will be lovely.