To be gobsmacked at Kate Ferdinand complaining about not getting a Mother’s Day card from her then-boyfriend Rio’s children

[AngeloMysterioso]

When she’d only been living with them six months, and moved in when they’d been together less than a year?! And their own actual mother had died of cancer?

I get that she was already taking a great deal of care of them and would have appreciated some acknowledgment of that, but this is just taking the piss.

She's a saint compared to Fearne McCann but my heart belongs to Gemma Collins 😂

I’m absolutely nothing like Kate Ferdinand nor her age but she’s given people like me as a stepmum bringing up bereaved children and dealing with a grieving partner a voice, that our thoughts and our feelings count too. I wish she’d been around whilst my stepchildren were growing up. Unless you’ve done it you’ve absolutely no idea how this situation feels, so judge all you like mumsnet. People judged me too, watched my every move and waited for me to fail. The pressure I felt was immense. It was only when their grandmother before she died admitted that I’d done a good job bringing them up in such difficult circumstances that I felt the recognition that I actually really deserved.

I don't know what she actually said and when. But it's up to Rio to organise these things when there are young children involved. It's his fault, not the dc. I have watched a few documentaries with KF and Rio and tbh she seemed very engaged and stepped into the role really well. Credit to her.

@Birdsbirdsbirds

Trying to bag a footballer to continue your career is NOT mothering someone. You can tell she's desperate to get those kids in the spotlight

You come across as having a lot of anger. I haven’t lied about anything. You having a different interpretation of things from me does not mean that I am lying. You however have accused me of being a terrible sister, unsupportive, hating step mothers, all of which you have said with absolutely no justification. All of this is what makes you seem angry, you have been spitting venom all through this thread at anyone who disagrees with you.

@imnotwhoyouthink thank you for bringing a much needed bit of perspective to this otherwise toxic thread. Sorry that it took that to make you feel recognised. It's so tough, so very tough and it would be so easy to walk away from. To stick it out and bring up those children is a hugely selfless thing. I despise the judging. I despise those saying how they would have done things despite having zero experience. I despise those lying about Kate to suit their narrative. Sounds like your DSC are lucky to have you!

Ah right, more hateful untrue shite. She quite literally has mothered them. Did you miss that?

Lols. This is funny because it's true.

It's not an interpretation. You're saying she said things she didn't say. That's lying. There's plenty of justification.

Plenty of others have disagreed with me, you've lied. You've made up shite and it's very obvious that you hate step mothers.

....nope. Not very original either.

Yawn…you should try and get some new lines. I know and love many step mothers ❤️

I wonder how they feel about you. I wonder how they'd feel if they read this thread. Think about that for a minute.

I can't imagine your sister, as a step mother, would be very pleased to read how you really feel. Maybe show her, see what she thinks?

I think she was being honest but naive at the time. .. i think the honesty is refreshing. Its also good to see the other side too...what rio was thinking and feeling.

I think the OP is wrong to think she is 'taking the piss'... I suspect she is not a step mum too hence the lack of understanding and being judgemental.

What about from the kid's point? Giving a mother's day card to the new woman moved in after your own mother had died? I would fine that distressing if I was one of them kids.

I am god mother to the children of two women who are friends and step mothers. Think they love me as much as I do them.

Again?!?! She bangs on about this every bloody mothers day. It is horrifc and so distasteful.

My sister would also say don’t go out with a man with children unless you have your eyes open to the realities of being a step mother. What step mother would say anything different??? My sister and I talk about everything, she knows my views on almost everything

She was too young and too self absorbed. Shw was only in her early 20s. Unable of putting those grieving childrens needs above her own. Awful. Just awful

If all she wanted was some acknowledgement of everything she was doing- and that is not at all unreasonable- why did it need to be on Mother’s Day?

Ridiculous of her. I’m not keen on either of them and feel sorry for the kids.

I agree but to fair... shame on rio. I think he's failed the kids by supporting Kate in cracking on with this public seeking attention nonsense.

@Lostmyway86 thank you.🥰 Mumsnet was a lifeline for me when I was at home bringing up my children but it’s changed. It was fun and supportive. Now it’s toxic, cruel and full of bullies! @mumsnet where did it all go wrong?

She had only just moved in and wanted a mother's Day card? Did she not think the kids might want to keep that memory for their DM? I think the eldest was 7-8 when their mother died. I think lacks empathy and awareness she seems a bit thick.