To be gobsmacked at Kate Ferdinand complaining about not getting a Mother’s Day card from her then-boyfriend Rio’s children

[AngeloMysterioso]

When she’d only been living with them six months, and moved in when they’d been together less than a year?! And their own actual mother had died of cancer?

I get that she was already taking a great deal of care of them and would have appreciated some acknowledgment of that, but this is just taking the piss.

OP you have posted this vile thread and the usual nasties have jumped on your bandwagon. Probably the same bunch who post #bekind and are anything but!

Whether you like her or not she loves someone else’s children and gives them a loving home. That’s a hard thing to do! She voiced one of the many difficulties she finds being a step parent.

I hope that one day you have to face a hard situation where you do your best and everyone vilifies you for it!

I think if a father is a single parent and getting significant support from a nanny, a grandmother, a childminder it wouldn't be unusual for him (not the children) to acknowledge that. It doesn't have to be mother's day but then it doesn't have to be mothers day to acknowledge it to the mother but the day is a reminder. So if she has been doing lots with supporting him and the children I can see why she might feel that it would be appropriate for him to do/say/buy something to acknowledge that.

I'd say the same with father's day, if a man grandfather/uncle/friend is supporting her with her kids then it would be nice to acknowledge that.

I mean the title of this entire thread is completely misleading. As was your full op.

Details matter. Specifics matter. And you know that because you chose not to include them. You can't say how was I to know all these horrible people would make comments.

Because you set it up so people would.

@hourbyhour101 quite. OP should be ashamed of her original OP. She teed the whole thread up with misleading information and goading language.

I posted loads last night but have only just gone back on and am pleased to see more people agreeing with how toxic this is. Shame there's still some spouting poison. Surprised @mumsnet hasn't taken the whole thing down.