How I accept that I'm not pretty

[Sophieros23]

How can I accept and love myself when I'm ugly??

Why do you think you're ugly? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and all that.

Agree with @JorisBonson beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Don't be so down on yourself.

I don’t actually believe that many people are ugly. Effort and self care go a long way.

When you take care of yourself, look after your hair and style it, wear nice clothes etc, have a skincare routine and wear subtle flattering makeup you will feel better about yourself.

It’s like when most people go to the gym it also encourages them to eat healthier so it’s actually a double positive.

Mindset is the number 1 thing.

Think of your other strengths. Illuminate them and learn interesting things. Be kind.

Learn how to dress- which colours on a colour chart suit you best etc.
Treat your body with respect - use sunscreen, eat healthily, exercise your heart and limbs, brush your teeth, wear sunglasses, practise your smile.
Everyone looks different to one another.

Your unique look will be very attractive to some others and particularly to your family and friends.
Some people who seem classically gorgeous looking are not nice to others or are not skilled in useful ways. No one is perfect - even those who look perfect.

One of my best friends is the most attractive person I know. She isn't classically pretty but because she has this beautiful smile , her eyes scrunch up and you can see her wonderful sense of humour and warmth I think she's one of the most attractive people I have ever met.

It's not about how you look in the mirror. That's one dimensional

Most of us are just average looking. I am just average looking. Why do you think you’re less than average looking?

"Ugly" is in the eye of the beholder, and your outward appearance says nothing about you as a person, which plenty of people are attracted to rather than looks.

Also, we all age and gradually lose our original level of outwards attractiveness, so it's good to find your self-worth in internal qualities for long term mental health. Be a good person, be kind where you can (without letting people walk over you), look after your body for practical health reasons and that will go a long way to being an overall attractive person.

The majority of people, I think are just average looking. I very rarely see anybody I would class as beautiful.

I just thank my lucky stars I'm on this side of my face and don't have to look at myself unless I choose to.

Me being ugly is a problem for others to deal with, not me.

Are you really ugly or are you average?

If you’re ugly I feel for you. But it’s far more likely that you’re average.

It can be tough coming to terms with being average if you feel you are special. Sorry to be blunt but many of us have been there.

😄And you actually sound very attractive!

Besides, it really is about making the best of what you have been given. As others have pointed out, eat well, that is the number one, most important thing that you can do for your body. Keep hydrated, take pleasure in the small things in life, dress so that you feel confident when you leave your home.

Can you explain why you feel you’re ugly? I’ve not really met anyone I consider ugly on the outside, just people who are ugly on the inside. There is a huge difference between not being pretty, as per your title and being ugly as per the body of your op.

I understand. I am the same.
People say focus on nourishing yourself from within and your inner qualities but unfortunately, all I see is my huge nose, horrible hair and flat chested boyish body.
It's really tough I know x

Ugly is an inside personality thing it's not an outwardly thing. How you treat people / act/ portray yourself can make you beautiful or ugly.

Physically I think everyone has positive and negatives! I'm sure you have admirers OP maybe it's a confidence things, has yours been knocked from a young age? Xx

You are not ugly, you are just you. Make the most of yourself, do things that make you feel better. When I feel down about myself I have my hair done, I have a facial and I buy myself something nice to wear. I’ve never been a beauty, far from it but I am completely comfortable in my own skin. Looks are superficial and beauty is what’s inside us. 🌼

Ugly is a strong word it means unpleasant and repulsive.

the op, and others might be repulsed by their own appearance, but that doesn’t mean everyone else is. Hopefully the op comes back and explains further what makes her feel this way

I’m so sorry you feel this way, I completely understand as I have the same opinion about myself and I struggle daily with my self image. It’s a very hard thing to try and live with and overcome, have you spoken to your GP or tried counselling? Do you know why you feel this way or what triggered these feelings?

You sound lovely

I get how you feel whenever someone takes a picture of me it's always a shock, but usually I am looking the other way (the side on view of my face is not attractive) or pulling a silly face.
I've felt quite ugly at times but I think my own view of my looks is much harsher than others.

Basically you judge yourself to a higher standard as your self image is probably more flattering than how you actually look.
I know I'm not beautiful, just average and only think I look nice with makeup.
It's actually quite rare to be truly ugly but my advice is just to embrace it, I've known plain people in school and work but some were confident/lovely and their personality just shines through.

I look in the mirror and I see an ugly washed up dowdy face. Other people say I'm very pretty and have a lovely smile. But I am a bit quirky odd looking Think bjork. She is one I get compared to. I can't see how they can see that. They can't understand why I can't see what they see. It's self esteem and low self worth it's getting better in other areas but I still find it amazing the vast gap!

You know, I’ve never really thought about it this way, but you’re 100% right. I’ve never met anyone I thought was physically ugly, but a horrid personality, arrogance or unkindness, definitely makes someone less physically attractive in my eyes. Beauty comes in so, so many different forms OP, it can be someone’s smile, kindness in their eyes, the way the walk, talk or laugh. Try to find things you like about yourself and focus on those instead, I don’t just mean physical attributes, it can be anything.

I honestly don’t think anyone is ugly to look at. Sometimes the most attractive people are the ones who are funny and charismatic and engaging.

I always think confidence is so attractive in a person too

I was called ugly and fat all my teenage years family and bullies I even think my partner sees me as ugly even though he says otherwise.

Most of us aren't pretty - I'm definitely not! And it absolutely doesn't matter, because how we look is completely unimportant.