To think this is absolutely unacceptable?

[Marvwell]

When I was 16 and just coming up to my GCSE exams - or actually more or less in the middle of them - I remember being in the living room of our house - my dad was there too - it was in the daytime - weekday I think - and not a celebration of any kind - and my mum was absolutely hammered in a way that's embarrassing to everyone else if there's no obvious drinking context and everyone else is still sober. My dad was there and said upon witnessing this embarrassing behaviour - when you've got a good job like your mother, you're allowed to behave like that. Just for context my mum did have a high status senior management position.

AIBU to think my mum's behaviour was totally unacceptable when there's a child of 16 in the house and my Dad was totally unreasonable for enabling/trying to condone it?

You posted about this recently

About your childhood recollection of your mother being drunk at home

@FfeminyddCymraeg

Yes! She has

It sounds like she wasn't coping very well.

Horrible for a kid to see, doesn't matter how old they are.

I'm a similar age to you OP and one of my parents was wasted at least 3/4 times a week growing up. They still are now. He was not a horrible drunk but really annoying and embarrassing and I was very angry from about the age of 13 until my late 20s. I found out he was like that because of a traumatic event that happened and it was his way of coping. It doesn't make it right but I understand and have learnt to let go.

If this one incident years and years and years ago that wasn’t directly abusive to you but only embarrassing and concerning for your mother that you want to amplify and rake up the only thing you have to complain about re your childhood, congratulate yourself on your stunning good fortune and move on with your life, forgive your mother even though I don’t see what her crime is, good grief if that’s the worse thing she’s ever done, she’s a saint. And your father made an off hand comment with no idea you’d hold tight to it with every ounce of strength you have and never let go and twist it into some sinister meaning none of us can figure out.

What in Hades are you trying to prove or accomplish with your bizarre vindictiveness?

Does she have a problem now? Try not to dwell on it.

And? Why the pity party for a non event years ago?

You're clearly damaged by your mom drinking. There is support through Al-Anon, which is a 12-step program.

It's for anyone who has or had someone in their life with an issue with alcohol.

It doesn't matter if the person is alive or not. Whether they are still drinking or not or whether they are in your life or not.

It's a support network for like-minded people. The link is below

al-anonuk.org.uk/

@KarmaStar what's with the empathy bypass? Sometimes people actually get effected by the actions of others.

Sounds like he was embarrassed and trying to excuse her behaviour. She was wildly inappropriate.