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Original poster

To think this is a red flag?

83 replies

namechange3388 · 15/03/2023 00:29

New bloke likes to knock stuff over if he gets slightly angry or feels under pressure or put out.

For example, if we're walking along and discussing something and he sees a plant pot on a wall, he'll tip it so it falls. Or push bin bags over so they block a path. Or tip newspapers off stands in a shop.

It's like a pouty petulance. Just arsehole behaviour I think. Never seen anything like ie before.

He's a nutter, isn't he?

Or AIBU

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Rainn21 · 15/03/2023 00:30

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Pixiedust1234 · 15/03/2023 00:31

Nutter.

Time to run.

RocketIceLollie · 15/03/2023 00:37

Does he think doing those sorts of things are hilarious or something?! Sounds quite immature sorts of things to do.

Maves · 15/03/2023 00:37

Do you really need to ask?

Rinkydinkydoodle · 15/03/2023 00:38

lol is he a cat?

UncleHerbie · 15/03/2023 00:39

What an arse. Dump him

Phoebo · 15/03/2023 00:39

Dick. Huge red flag! What is he 3??.

CrotchetyQuaver · 15/03/2023 00:40

YANBU, I'd taking it as a warning of what he's capable of doing...

LuvSmallDogs · 15/03/2023 00:40

If this is what he's showing you when it's all shiny and new, then I don't think you should stick around for what he's like when he's comfortable.

HRTQueen · 15/03/2023 00:41

I think you know the answer

but let me guess he can be really really nice

move on straight away you don’t need to understand him or discuss this with him he is showing you who he is

whatwhhat · 15/03/2023 00:42

Gah what a weirdo 😳 I'd feel so awkward in public I think I'd have to pick the stuff up. I can't help but think if he's having tantrums like that in public, imagine the tantrums he'll have behind closed doors when he is comfortable with you.

JaneorEleven · 15/03/2023 00:46

He would very quickly be ex bloke.

Optimis · 15/03/2023 00:52

He sounds very immature. His behaviour is unhealthy. And this is what he's showing you already. YANBU..

Dump him!

Basilis · 15/03/2023 00:54

Definitely one to go.

TyneTeas · 15/03/2023 00:54

If this is what he thinks is acceptable at a phase one would presume he is trying to present the best image if himself, how do you think he'll be when he isn't trying to moderate his actions

Iloveenidblyton · 15/03/2023 00:56

So if he’s like this now, how will he be a year or two into the relationship ?

Don't let it get to that stage.
Dump him asap.

ConcordeOoter · 15/03/2023 00:58

This isn't weirdo or nutter.

This is a man who messes with other people's property and undoes their hard work without amy respect for either, for fun, at what should be the high point of him trying to impress you.

He is telling you 'I barge over boundaries and fundamentally disrespect other people".

Listen to what he is telling you. Your instincts have, clearly.

Don't be the person who wishes they listened to this, 20 years later maybe when lots of shit has gone down and you start to see your teenage kids acting the same way.

VickyEadieofThigh · 15/03/2023 01:05

Massive red flag. Get out now.

eloquent · 15/03/2023 01:05

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TrishM80 · 15/03/2023 01:13

Stay with him and he'll be knocking you over next.

Somanysocks · 15/03/2023 01:36

Don't be yet another woman with low standards.

Nellylongstocking · 15/03/2023 01:53

Right ok then.
Why are you even asking?
You'll be his punchbag in no time.

ScruffyGiraffes · 15/03/2023 02:02

You're dating this persom? Why?

BritInAus · 15/03/2023 02:05

LuvSmallDogs · 15/03/2023 00:40

If this is what he's showing you when it's all shiny and new, then I don't think you should stick around for what he's like when he's comfortable.

This!!!!

Original poster
namechange3388 · 15/03/2023 03:10

Thanks all.

Just good to get other people's input.

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