To think this is a red flag?

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New bloke likes to knock stuff over if he gets slightly angry or feels under pressure or put out.

For example, if we're walking along and discussing something and he sees a plant pot on a wall, he'll tip it so it falls. Or push bin bags over so they block a path. Or tip newspapers off stands in a shop.

It's like a pouty petulance. Just arsehole behaviour I think. Never seen anything like ie before.

He's a nutter, isn't he?

Or AIBU

Trying to find someone

Gigantic red flag.

He likes to hurt other people when he's angry, not physically, but by taking things out on random strangers by deliberately causing them upset and inconvenience.

He is a nasty man.

I'm sure he also gets much nastier with people he's directly angry with. all these actions are a form of violence. I wouldn't want to cross him.

Even if this is as bad as his behaviour will ever get (which I doubt), he's trashing other people's stuff...Those poor people have to go around clearing up after his tantrum. I'd be so annoyed if someone knocked over (and probably broke) one of my plant pots.

You really need to ask???

He doesn't give a shit about anyone. He inconveniences others for fun. He's a prick.

That's a lot of examples you've given, what time period is this over? I can't imagine why you saw him again after the first time he did this!

🏃🏼‍♀️run as fast as u can. Don’t go out with him again. This guy has anger issues.

Be single for a while and raise your bar.

I'd rather be single than be with this walloper.

It’s chilling. I wouldn’t want to be around him when he’s angry at me. Run. Fast.

Very odd

It points to some serious rage issues. He's trying so damn hard to contain his anger to impress you he "just" takes it out on a plant pot.

I dread to think what he'll be like if he gets comfortable with you.

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🚩 I agree that if he does this in public to strangers’ property completely unprovoked, and in front of someone he is dating (when we tend to be the best versions of ourselves!), I would imagine what he’s capable of doing to someone he is comfortable with behind closed doors, especially during an argument where he actually feels wronged or disrespected.

Even if these more serious implications didn’t occur to me, I wouldn’t be seeing him for another date out of sheer embarrassment at how much of a toddler he is acting. What a tool.

Unfortunately, some would see his behaviour as him being ‘fiery’ or something similarly diminishing of how problematic his behaviour actually is.

The only good thing here is that he has given you such a glaringly obvious red flag so early in.

What? That is beyond a regular early red flag, that is actual criminal damage in public. How horrible for the people whose stuff is being chucked around.

Meant in the kindest way, but you really need to look at your standards.

Did you think there was a possibility that someone would say it's normal behaviour?

Bunting..

He attacks or destroys innocuous objects because he either doesn't like what he's hearing or for fun?
I bet when he was younger he was one of those mindless vandals who kicked car wing mirrors off ' for fun '
Get rid of the immature idiot before he starts finding fun in knocking you about too.

That’s quite shocking.

Is he acting like it’s normal?

How do you react when you’re with him?

Bin him before you become a domestic violence statistic.

That would genuinely scare me.

Nah, just a bit of harmless fun. You’ll be fine with this guy. Buy him a kitten for his birthday and watch them play together.
FFS. ☹️

Better to have nobody than somebody like this

He's a new man you're seeing and yet you've seen this behaviour on multiple occasions already? How long have you been seeing him?

Why?
If you need the internet’s advice not to date men who push plant pots off walls, then this part of the internet’s advice is: you shouldn’t be dating at all.

It’s not a “red flag”. A red flag is an ambiguous behaviour. This is just out and out arseholery 🤷🏻‍♀️