To suddenly find this very unattractive

[Besswess88]

Am dating this guy.

Early days.

I offered to cook for him.

Asked him, is there anything you don’t eat.

Only veg he eats are peas and sweetcorn and tomatoes if they are in a sauce.

Wtaf? And no he’s not 5 he’s in his 40s

@Besswess88
man child as they say, peas and sweetcorn are nice, but it’s entry level veggies for children I think.

It wouldn’t be a deal breaker but eating is one of life’s big pleasures and it would be a shame not to have someone to share that with. It’s also a bit of a mood killer when someone acts like a child.

I couldn't be doing with that as I love food and eating in restaurants, and tasting menus where you really need to be prepared to eat almost anything.

Having had a look at the post history of a few of the posters here, I wouldn’t imagine they’re very attractive to anyone else anyway.

Have a good night. 😂

I too would find it unattractive. But if he is the perfect partner, it seems crazy to dump him over just this?!

One thing I find just as off-putting is the phrase ‘gives me the ick’. Sounds so childish. That might be a dealbreaker too..

I'm intolerant of fussy eaters so it would be a bit of a red flag for me
but then again some people are much nicer and more tolerant...

I would not give a shit about this. But tbf I hate cooking and wouldn't have offered.

Give him a chance ! Food taste may change as relationship and lifestyle progresses.

Does someone else's limited diet stop me from eating what I want? No.

Does it stop me from wanting to shag them? Maybe. Definitely not repeatedly though.

I have my own failings. Hey, don't judge and belittle - it's mostly ADHD related, which I can't help.

Veg based trauma 😂😂

If he's a nice man I honestly couldn't care less!

Have you seen cats react to cucumbers? 🥒😁

Right am I missing something here? Lots of people here saying adult “fussy eaters” put them off/give them the ick etc etc.

how we would we respond to - for example - a neuro-divergent child with food intolerances (ie a child that only eats beige foods etc)? Is it acceptable?

And if that’s ok, are we now saying that potentially neuro-divergent adults with food Icks aren’t allowed? Why? Should they have grown out of it?

Eating food that isn't on my safe list is genuinely traumatic for me.

Laugh all you like but ARFID is an eating disorder and is essentially a phobia of food. It's really stressful to live with.

I must admit, I find over interest in food off putting. If food is such a huge part of your life that you'd reject an otherwise good person because of what they don't eat, then I'd think your interest in eating was somewhat excessive.
Food can be pleasurable of course, but surely its one of many pleasures in a balanced life, and by no means the most important.

Well we all have different tasteboods. Does he eat things like garlic and onion? I know one that didn't that was awkward

That’s not extremely fussy there are plenty of other foods to eat?

I can not even have tomatoes on my plate and don’t eat any fish but there are hundreds of other foods I can eat so don’t see it as fussy.

Dump him and move on. Life is too short to date people who don't eat vegetables. (or cheese)

Why doesn’t he eat veg ? When I first met DP he only ate limited veg (peas and carrots) and most of his meals were pasta dishes. I love cooking so Whenever I cooked for him, I used to make a big thing about how I’d made this lovely, special meal for him and he would make the effort to eat it to please me as I’d made all this effort for him. Most of the time he would say “I really enjoyed that, I didn’t think I liked ” . Now he eats and enjoys most things. Obviously there are still things that he isn’t keen on, but I now know that if he says he doesn’t like something, that he has tried it an genuinely doesn’t like it. So just cook him a nice meal with veg etc and make a big thing about how you’ve done it ‘specially’ for him. I’m sure he’ll enjoy it.

This does sound very unattractive.

No "card" involved - just hope potential partners aren't binning you and fellow sufferers because you can't eat the same as they do?

A red flag? Are you having a laugh? 🤣 it’s hardly an abusive trait. Jeez.

OP he can’t help what he doesn’t like, I’m sure there must be things you don’t like. What an utterly bizarre thread.

Irrespective of neuro-divergent etc. people don’t need an excuse to like what they like. Some adults like beige food, it’s nuts that people get the ‘ick’ from it.

I've lived all over Asia and I stand by what I said. I ate so many dishes that had very little veg in them. Maybe you should try doing the same some time?

Dealbreaker!