To NOT want DH and I to see our respective locations on Find my iPhone?

[Thisismenow2]

I have always been able to see DH’s location on Find my iPhone (although I rarely bother looking - only if he running late for dinner!) and he’s able to see mine. It’s not that I want to get up to anything untoward but I just think it would be better if we couldn’t see each other’s locations.

AIBU to think most partners DON’T share their locations?

Why stop at niece? You should track collegues too. Friends as well.

That is me!!!!!

I do wonder @Thisismenow2 why you had each others locations on in the first place to be honest with you. I don't think anybody always needs to know their partners location/where they are at any particular time.

As some posters have said, it does seem quite controlling, needy, and clingy. If anything (bad) happened to your partner, you would know about it soon enough. No need to keep tabs on them all the time. It's just weird IMO.

The only time I think it would possibly be necessary to know the location is if it's your child - and they're say, under 18. I cannot fathom why anybody would need to know where their partner is all the time. It's very strange. But yes, I suppose you're not being unreasonable to want this 'know my location' thing removing from your phone.

Yes @lazycats , that's my plan, but they've yet to leave their phone unattended for long enough for me to crack their codes and get it set up. I continue to try though.

And the postman 🤣🤣🤣

I wouldn't share my location with my partner and I wouldn't want him to share his either. We both do jobs where we visit families at their homes etc. Also I just don't want him tracking me, if he wants to know what I'm doing he can ask. My daughter can see my location unless I'm at work when I switch it off...it just saves 3 million calls and texts saying mum can you go the shop for X, are you still at Y, how long til you get home etc.

Do you? Oh dear. I would hate to have to give up my evenings entertainment. There's nothing I love more than settling down for the evening, cuppa in hand, eyes absolutely glued to my phone, waiting for the buzz that comes with someone's little circle moving....where are they going? Why? Who with? It's just exhilarating.

I agree, 99% of the time it's a want not a need. It's just handy. I don't need podcasts or handbags or kettles or tinned lentils either. But they make life easier.

Phoning or texting often isn't convenient though - I certainly wouldn't want to phone DH while he was driving. And the rendezvous conversations we have while trying to meet up with each other at festivals or in unfamiliar towns on holiday are simply annoying, and easily replaced with a quick check of a dot on a map.

We use life 360. We don’t sit and actively watch it but we can see where we all are, inc adult children, it’s great and none of us have anything to hide

Or you know you could just switch the tv on!

I'm single now, but I have 2 DS's on mine. I'm disabled so it's for safety reasons but I don't think there's any reason not to share for convenience in a partnership

Gosh @Isuppose, I'd never thought of that.

I don’t know how to vote on this. It’s whatever works for a couple. We have it shared on ours. Hardly ever use it but it’s handy if we need to. But if you don’t want it, that’s completely reasonable.

It has just never occurred to us to do so.
we usually tell each other our plans, and let each other know when we’ll be home.
I don’t think we need more than that

DH and I do this, in the sense that our phones are registered. I almost never check it - maybe once a year or something!

I find it useful, it's handy

Versus

Invasion, creepy, weird treating me like a dog.

It's only invasive/stalky/creepy/weird if either of the party are unhappy to have it.

If everyone is happy, and everyone finds it useful, then it's nothing more than a convenience.

@DrMeredithGrey2023

Defensive much

@MajorCarolDanvers

Or.

I absolutely can not function in life unless I know when to put dhs dinner on

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Nah can't see a need

These questions weren’t at me but they are interesting because a diary (I don’t keep one) is the only thing I would see as private on that list.

I would have no problem with anyone knowing what I eat in a week. DH, a doctor, a random stranger. I’m not ashamed about what I eat and it’s not a secret to anyone.

Clothes and underwear draw - are we not supposed to? I put DH’s clothes and underwear away in his draws, he does the same in mine.

Handbag. I might be a bit embarrassed by the mess sometimes but that’s fine. I tell
him to look in my handbag when he asks where I’ve put something from time to time. I doubt he would go in it other than that but if he did it’s keys, phone, bank card, plus old receipts and a load of old crumbs. That’s it? I’m embarrassed about the crumbs but I don’t care really.

Yes, super defensive.

I have quite literally never cared more about what a stranger on the internet thinks about the set up I have within my family.

@DrMeredithGrey2023

Thats clear by the amount you're reacting

Never share ours and never would. It is completely unnecessary and a little bit creepy. Also, rather sad that any couple thinks they should know the other one's location 100% of the time.

We don't use it but have talked about it recently. Would it have been helpful if those young people in the car accident had it on their phones?

Good, I am glad.

Why stop at niece? You should track collegues too. Friends as well.

My close group of friends do actually.......I guess that will really freak some people out