To hate that my husband does this

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My husband has a mad food habit (imo) that drives me crazy, but he thinks is absolutely fine. Basically whatever he eats he mashes all together with a fork until it's just a pile of mush. He insists that it's no different to eating the foods individually but to me it's just mad. Like I'll cook a whole roast with lovely crispy roast potatoes and he'll mash them to smithereens with everything else and it honestly makes my heart hurt. He thinks it's none of my business how he eats, maybe he's right. What do you think?

I think it's a really childlike way to eat his food . My sister used to this and then draw faces in it with ketchup ( boak) . Does he do this when he eats out ? I think it's equivalent to pouring tea in the saucer and supping it (don't tell us he does this too).

This is the kind if thing I'd do at home but I wouldn't do it around other people.

Do you have DC?

I lived somewhere for a while where meals were provided. One woman who I got on really really well with would do that with her food, I couldn't eat with her it honestly turned my stomach. She said that's how she liked to eat. She also put red sauce on everything.

Well on one hand I think "his food, he's eating it, his choice"

But I can see how it would irritate me, so I'd go with the blending his portion into baby food and serve. Saves him the bother, yes?
I wonder how he'd take it?

I think 'it all ends up like this' is a weak argument. I'd that's the justification then you should pour beer in the dinner and then top it with custard.

I'd just make nice crispy roasted for yourself and dump his par boiled versions straight on his plate since he doesn't appreciate the difference

Grim. His food, his choice. Honestly though, I don't think I'd have married someone who ate like this. I'd be embarrassed to eat in public with him or with my family.

No advice.. but my dad does this. Everything gets mashed up into one giant pile and eaten.. it’s a running joke in our family. Stews, to roasts, salads, fish n chips, curries, whatever it is, it all meets the same fate, it’s just the way he is. My husband it’s constantly amazed by it!! On the flip side as it’s all a big pile he’s doesn’t taste individual flavours so he will eat literally anything.. I’ve yet to find a food he won’t eat. He’s 76 so unlikely to change his ways now.

Just don't make nice food for him.

Does he not have any teeth?! Very strange but just sounds annoying it wouldn't make my heart hurt 🙄

My dad does this. I don't find it grim, it's just how he eats. Might get an occasional affectionate eye roll from one of us but that's it.

So many typos.. apologies!

I wouldn't like it if my DH did that. I'd find it annoying and weird. However, it's not his fault and feeling annoyed would be entirely a 'me problem' (as my kids would say!) - however, not sure how I'd solve said problem.

Eating habits are pretty hard to change. Theres certain weird things I do, like I don't like all my food to touch on the plate (but can cope if it does!) And certainly don't like foods all mixed together - peas and sweetcorn mixed together is like the devil!!

Sorry I can't help, but you do have my sympathy as it sounds pretty much like running your fingers down a blackboard to me!

Grim.

I'd cook a roast for one, then sit him down to a puree jar of baby food.

Hmmm, with a roast that's quite labour intensive. I do that with shepherds pie, ice cream, other blendable foods. I like the texture to all be in a one and for me to get a flavour of each bit of food.

I wouldn't be able to eat in the same room. The thought of this makes me nauseous.

Triggered by gravy would make an excellent user name.

It is poor table manners. It's the kind of thing a small child might do. That in itself would put me off.

Disgusting table manners. The fact that he reserves this behaviour just for you , I can’t even fathom how I would respond to that. It would not be positive.

Ew. He'd be eating by himself. Bleh.

It's not sexy. But there are worse things.

You say you e asked him why he does it, but have you told him you find it repulsive? If so, I'd be worried about why he doesn't care that he's intentionally repelling you.

Next dinner time just mash it all up with a potato masher or put it in the blender for him and see how he likes it 😂

Yes this! I defo feel like it's a me problem and i don't think I can force him to change. I think I'll have to make him cook more and then I won't be so bothered what he did with it. And then when he cooks for me I'll just throw it against the wall and lick it off and tell him it all goes the same way

I wouldn’t like it, OP. It sounds revolting. I wouldn’t want to watch it at the dinner table every evening. If I went out for dinner with friends and they did this I would be less inclined to go out for dinner with them again.

If it were my kids doing it I’d be telling them not to. But you can’t do that to an adult and he seems to be clear that he isn’t going to change. So you have to decide if it’s something you can put aside. Cook for yourself, not him. Focus on the bits of your life together you do like.