For leaving my friend's 30th early?

[doritstew]

My friend turned 30 today. A group of 15 of us went for lunch at 2 pm. At 4 pm friend had arranged a party bus that drove us around our home town for an hour. At 5 pm the bus was arranged to go to the nearest city. I didn't fancy it. Number 1 - I was tired after lunch (this happens when I eat and drink), 2 my dogs were at home so needed back for them and 3 I don't like the feeling of it taking a while to get home.

Out of 15 of us, only 5 went to the nearest city. The rest of us got off the bus at the same time. Some were pregnant, some just didn't want to go.

My friend is now giving me a hard time as I am her best friend and she thought I should have made the effort. Bearing in mind she never made my 30th as she was on holiday with her boyfriend. I gave her plenty of notice I wouldn't go to the nearest city. And the 10 of us that never went said multiple times that if she stayed local, we would have stayed out.

AIBU?

All sounds like excessive and over the top birthday celebrations, celebrate by all means but some of these bashes seem very extravagent and ego centric! why couldn't she just meet you all somewhere local without all this faffing around, I'd have done the same as you OP

No I already said, it was Essex to London. Had a few drinks obviously when I'd written post

Have you heard back from a more reasonable sober her today?

Yes, it was mean of you.

Oh my God, why is it the people on here make such a big deal out of things and don’t read what the poster has said. YANBU, you told her in advance it’s not your fault if most of her friends went home.

You partied from 11yo?! I’m impressed! 😁

You resurrected a 2 month old thread just to say that?

i didn’t see the date until after I had posted. The thread came up as ‘trending’