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Original poster

Sunday morning lifts and bloody McDonald's

548 replies

reddwarfgeek · 04/03/2023 21:01

Just a rant really.
My partner is going to away football to tomorrow. He'll be out of the house all day from 8am to 9pm. He's asked me for a lift to the train station, but not content with that he wants to go via McDonald's for a breakfast. It's slightly out of the way and will mean leaving house at 7:30am to get an 8:45am train, thus adding extra time on, probably means get up at 6:30am. I know that isn't that early for some people but I work 4 days and we have an early start Saturdays for DDs hobby. Sunday is the only day we have that's more relaxing. I have to get DD (5) sorted up and dressed etc.
He said the reason he wants to go to McDonald's is he won't have any other chance to eat anything all day! I find this hard to believe! The train journey is long but what about the other 10 hours? Anyway, we had a big argument and he said I'm a moaning cunt and that I'm making him drink on an empty stomach. Aww ..didums! 13 hours free time on a Sunday apparently isn't enough 🙈 it all seems a bit ungrateful.

I've no issue with the lift I just don't want to go to McDonald's at 8am on a Sunday morning thus likely making us late. The one nearby has issues with being short staffed and getting orders wrong, so I've no doubt it wouldn't be straightforward. We do have food in the house to eat for breakfast, he just doesn't want it.
AIBU?

OP posts:
Utterknowitall · 05/03/2023 20:52

Woman's Aid isn't just for physical abuse

ICanFeelItComingInTheAirTonight · 05/03/2023 20:57

OP I'm not goinf to add another LTB comment, I'm just sending you and your DD so much love and support.
What I want to know is who are these 15% (351 people! 😮!) that think she is BU???!!! Please, enlighten us as to how she, after being called a moaning cunt, is the U one!!!

ICanFeelItComingInTheAirTonight · 05/03/2023 20:57

*going
Arrgghh can't spell tonight!

Greenshed · 05/03/2023 21:06

“Won’t have chance to get anything else to eat all day?” Rubbish!! He could try having some breakfast before he sets off and take a packed lunch. Honestly, what an idiot he is.

Stressedafff · 05/03/2023 21:10

I hope you and your DD are okay and safe x

Emotionalsupportviper · 05/03/2023 21:11

Tessabelle74 · 05/03/2023 17:29

I actually think this is a man, maybe even the OP's husband!

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It crossed my mind, too, I have to admit . . .

Mumclub · 05/03/2023 21:11

I hope he’s a Man U fan and got thrashed today

1stjjohnnymac · 05/03/2023 21:24

Drink on an m t stomach got me, if they don't do food where he's drinking there will be food nearby 🤣

TeaFagsand · 05/03/2023 21:28

FlutterbButterfly · 04/03/2023 21:07

Honestly? This is LTB territory, who speaks to anyone like that?

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They sell food at train stations and on trains and at all sorts of places inbetween, including pubs

DH is lying through his back teeth. If you go ahead with the lift make sure you miss McD. He can make himself some sarnies if he's going to be hungry.

BiffChipsandKippers · 05/03/2023 21:30

I hope you're ok OP. You deserve better.

LikeTearsInRain · 05/03/2023 21:30

MavisCruet2023 · 05/03/2023 19:54

Is he a Man U supporter?

Let’s hope not

LikeTearsInRain · 05/03/2023 21:32

SallyWD · 05/03/2023 20:09

I hope so!

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No you don’t. He’ll take it out on OP on top of this not giving a lift issue

WiIson · 05/03/2023 21:35

If my DP called me a moaning cunt he'd be walking to the station. With his bags packed.

Chestnutlover · 05/03/2023 21:44

I’m really shocked. This is not how you speak to the mother of your child or anyone. Leave. Him.

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reddwarfgeek · 05/03/2023 21:59

He's not a man U fan. (I am...loosely 🤣)

Thank you for all the replies and support. So kind. He's still not home. I am getting a bit worried as to what state he'll be in. He isn't the kind of person to just go to bed after drinking, he will be blasting music and annoying the neighbours (no one ever said anything but I don't believe they can't hear it). I don't normally mind as much but it's a Sunday night. Worse case scenario I'll get in bed with DD. I will be safe. It is just very very annoying and ungrateful.

OP posts:
Chestnutlover · 05/03/2023 22:03

I was in an abusive relationship once and because it wasn’t physical I thought I just had to put up with it. Something about your post reminded me of my relationship - football, c word, alcohol. Abuse is not limited to physical, reach out for help

Anotherturnipforthebooks · 05/03/2023 22:03

I'm sorry you're in this situation op. I hope you get a good night's sleep.

Chestnutlover · 05/03/2023 22:04

Hope you manage to sleep. Thinking of you xxx

twix23 · 05/03/2023 22:06

reddwarfgeek · 05/03/2023 21:59

He's not a man U fan. (I am...loosely 🤣)

Thank you for all the replies and support. So kind. He's still not home. I am getting a bit worried as to what state he'll be in. He isn't the kind of person to just go to bed after drinking, he will be blasting music and annoying the neighbours (no one ever said anything but I don't believe they can't hear it). I don't normally mind as much but it's a Sunday night. Worse case scenario I'll get in bed with DD. I will be safe. It is just very very annoying and ungrateful.

Blaring music when your DD is asleep? Ugh I'm sorry you have to worry about this sort of thing. Hope he gets in and mist passes out on the sofa!

Milkand2sugarsplease · 05/03/2023 22:08

Please start making plans to leave and give you and your daughter a better life. It is doable, no matter how hard it seems and the sense of achievement at the end when you're free of him will be amazing.

T1Dmama · 05/03/2023 22:11

He speaks to you like that all the time? With a 5 year old in the house?!
I’m sorry I wouldn’t put up with that alone and actually I wouldn’t get up and run him to the train to spend a day watching football with his mates anyway! ‘Making him drink on an empty stomach?!’ You’re not ‘making him’ do anything…. What a dick!!
If someone called me a C@?! they’d be walking!! Simples!

bonzaitree · 05/03/2023 22:12

reddwarfgeek · 05/03/2023 21:59

He's not a man U fan. (I am...loosely 🤣)

Thank you for all the replies and support. So kind. He's still not home. I am getting a bit worried as to what state he'll be in. He isn't the kind of person to just go to bed after drinking, he will be blasting music and annoying the neighbours (no one ever said anything but I don't believe they can't hear it). I don't normally mind as much but it's a Sunday night. Worse case scenario I'll get in bed with DD. I will be safe. It is just very very annoying and ungrateful.

My love…

my bf has been out at the footy- he brought me home chicken and tonic water, made me a gin and told me the antics of his friends.

how old is your OH? This isn’t normal behaviour for an adult man…

1stjjohnnymac · 05/03/2023 22:14

Two words he needs to learn and practise what they mean Respect and Consideration 🤷‍♂️

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reddwarfgeek · 05/03/2023 22:17

@bonzaitree That's nice. Can't imagine what that's like!

He's 37. He rang me earlier, a couple of hours ago. He couldn't string a sentence together as so drunk. He won't bring me anything accept insults and a headache.

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JJWT · 05/03/2023 22:17

Drunk bloke blaring music in the early hours when the kids are in bed. I know what that is like. It's rubbish. I'm sorry that your life is also like this. It looks like loads of us are thinking of you, I hope that makes you feel better. Is his sister an ally? Would she think it unreasonable to take him to your home in that state? Sometimes siblings do not put up with their crap and they tend not to dish it out in front of them. She could be a useful ally. Take care x