People stare at me … why ?

[Hiphophoo]

I noticed in the past but more so recently… when I’m out and about I’ll catch men looking directly at me and then they look away when we make eye contact.

on the train/ walking to or from work/ in the office

does this happen to others? I feel so uncomfortable:(

I used to feel this way when I was younger, then at about age 40 it stopped (not suddenly- it became less frequent before that). It's because I used to be pretty, and I'm not anymore (at least, not conventionally). I don't really mind either way. But it's probably because you're good looking. I understand- it used to freak me out a bit also because I didn't have good self esteem and didn't actually consider myself pretty - It's only now looking back I realise.

As long as you've got a face, people will look.

when I’m out and about I’ll catch men looking directly at me and then they look away when we make eye contact.

You are obviously not aware of the women who also do this, lockdown has hyper played a part about now being out in public, it could be a huge range of issues foremost is vacant stare, but admiring/horrified what you are wearing, the narcissist approach is automatically thinking they where looking directly at you and somehow judging you whilst you where also obviously people watching...

Me too, but I’m pig ugly 🤣

I am the world's only 5'4" International supermodel ( early retirement division) so it happens to me aaaallll the time.

How do you know they are staring at you unless you are staring at them?

That’s a pretty naive and silly question. You are either so ugly to the extent they havnt seen , or pretty , that they are admiring. Surely anyone would beable to figure that out . Are you fishing for compliments ?

I have days where this happens too, I think everyone is looking at me, I get home and ask if there is something on my face or in my hair

Some people are just the naturally stare-y type. It can be unnerving 🤣 Have you ever noticed sometimes people stare into space and it feels they are looking at you for an awkwardly long time?

Either that or they fancy you.

I am a goth living in a small town. You get used to it. I don't believe that anyone is ugly. We're all ever so slightly different, it would be awful if we all looked the same. I'm sure they don't stare.

Very, very disappointed that op hasn't been back. 😂

Samantha Brick, is that you?

😁

Have you got pincers under your jaw like a crab perhaps?

Yes this happens to me a lot, usually at work. Can only assume they like what they see.

Gosh, men staring at you, I can’t possibly think of a reason, it’s a real head scratcher OP.

Happens to me all the time.

But then I am a dragon and live in Glasgow.

Should never have left Cardiff.

Do you have a married male boss at work too who just can't take his eyes off of you?....

Actually, I’ve noticed this recently too. I’m in my late 50s and pretty unremarkable, so it’s freaked me out a bit!

It's either you are drop dead gorgeous, acctractive that some men can't help noticing it,

Or
You are the opposite

Which do you think it is Op?

And more importantly why do you place so much value on what they think about you Op then ?

Does it matter and why does it matter so much?

I know someone who is convinced men stare at her / follow her so deliberately wears huge baggy ensembles to deter them. I'm pretty sure there's nothing even slightly unusual about her either way.

Horns.

Wave enthusiastically and if they don't look away, say hiyaaaaaaaaa.

Hate people staring.

The irony is you probably do it too without realising - I know I do!

Maybe you look unique or are wearing unique clothes?

I'm mixed, very pale and have an afro and people sometimes stare out of curiosity, just because they're not used to that.