To post lingerie shots on my social media..

[Junglejane8]

Right here me out here..
Long term lacking in body confidence. Have never felt very beautiful or feminine. I've been working on my self-esteem recently and a friend who is a photographer treated me to a burlesque shoot. She said it would be a very empowering thing to do, and it was. I actually felt sexy and beautiful and powerful.
The pictures have come through and I'm so happy with them. I want to post them on my social media but am worried that it will come off as vain, desperate, attention seeking etc.
There is lots of crap on social media but then I think of some of the women I follow who post lingerie / swimwear images and I don't judge them at all. I think they are beautiful and confident. I want to do that too.
Or is it vacuous and shameful?

@Autumndays123 but they genuinely are - I know because one won an award and others were published. That's not me saying they're good because it's me in them, his images are fantastic

Pressed send to soon....I was going to say they don't look great. I have seen dozens, literally dozens of these types of photos on Facebook and I have never ever seen one that looks good. Its probably the cheesiness and cringe of it all. I can't imagine ever waking up one morning and thinking I'm going to pay someone to take photos of me in my underwear. The thought just blows my mind. I don't buy this whole anxiety rubbish either. No one with anxiety and body issues is posting photos of themselves in their underwear online. The people who do it think they look amazing but again THEY DON'T

It probably is that you just don't like that style then or they're all very similar
Some people like specific portrait styles or urbex or editorial
Mine are all posted behind a place holder image so you have to actually choose to see them

It's common these days for younger people to put a photo on their CV. I once received a CV from a younger woman with this kind of sexy photo on it. I was confused and amused! It was just an office job too. No basques or boobs would have featured day-to-day.

Good lord. What was the photo?!

It was tongue in cheek really, although appreciate that's not overly obvious. I honestly don't want to see a picture of anyone in their undies, eating lunch now, nope still don't want to see someone in their pants. It crosses so many lines, I can't believe anyone has to ask if it's acceptable. You get 98% of people saying don't do it but the OP is going to ignore all of us and do it anyway. Go figure as the Americans might say .

Good for you op!I hope the confidence instilled within remains for ever.
However,I would avoid posting on social media for two reasons.
One is that once out there you have forever lost control of them.
Secondly,there could be some jealous or plain nasty comments that will neutralise your new found confidence.Don't give anyone the p ower to do that.
frame them and have them at home.
you don't need any strangers validation you are a beautiful person.🌈

It was just her top half (thank the Lord) and I seem to remember a black PVC basque and a plunging cleavage. And a come hither look! It was most eye-catching. And bizarre

I wouldn’t post them op. I work with someone who did this, they were good quality photos and she looked nice in them. Didn’t stop people laughing about them behind her back though. Also whenever I see her I’m reminded of these photos, you could literally have people like me picturing you in your underwear all the time!

Never really understood the empowerment in getting your kit off. I feel like this must have come from a man as a way of tricking women into stripping. I doubt all the men who are watching burlesque shows are thinking “wow what a strong educated woman up there on stage” probably just hoping to see some boobs. I have a friend who once posted a picture of a load of furniture she built by herself when she moved into a new house. Got far more positive comments on this than any of her bikini beach photos and felt great that her achievement had been recognised.

How weird. Maybe she thought she looked empowered 🙄

Posting them might make you feel confident and empowered - but you are crossing a massive boundary by posting private images of yourself so that other people can see them without giving them any warning. It’s inappropriate.

I have a friend who once posted a picture of a load of furniture she built by herself when she moved into a new house. Got far more positive comments on this than any of her bikini beach photos and felt great that her achievement had been recognised.

I suspect far more people would feel comfortable making positive comments on DIY furniture than would on bikini photos.

Wow imagine being that triggered by a pic of someone in underwear. Have you let all the lingerie shops know how inappropriate their advertising is?

If your aunt or best friend came into your house and started taking all of their clothes off to show you their body because they felt empowered - without asking you first, would you find it appropriate? What’s the difference?

You not familiar with the internet/social media?

What a silly thing to say. Lingerie firms are advertising their products.

Makes absolutely no difference if you're the kind of person who is very upset by a pic of a woman in her underwear. 🤣

I don’t think any one has said they are upset by a pic of a woman in her underwear have they? They might have said it’s pretty attention seeking or cringe but correct me if I am wrong no one has said this upsets me?

Sigh. Yes, someone suggested that it was inappropriate to put them up with no warning, the crystal clear implication being that some people may find the images upsetting.

Who is getting upset by these pictures? That's a bit of a jump from suggesting it wouldn't be a wise decision.....

Well, I've literally just explained what I was referring to...

Is this the post you are referring to? ‘If your aunt or best friend came into your house and started taking all of their clothes off to show you their body because they felt empowered - without asking you first, would you find it appropriate? What’s the difference?’ doesn’t apply any upset at all, just highlights it’s inappropriate 🤷‍♀️

'I think whoever described the views here as 'outdated' have hit the nail on the head'

This is so far from the truth it's laughable. Boudoir shoots are outdated. They were popular when Gok Wan did 'How to Look Good Naked' nearly 20 years ago. The young, trendy, confident women of today are not doing boudoir photoshoots.

Well, I've literally just explained what I was referring to...

Well, it looks like we posted at the same time and I still see no evidence of people being upset by these pictures.
Saying you'd like a warning before seeing a family member, friend or colleague in their underwear is reasonable! I'd like to make a decision about seeing that rather than having it thrust upon me. Not because i'd be upset but because I just don't want o see it.

Posting them might make you feel confident and empowered - but you are crossing a massive boundary by posting private images of yourself so that other people can see them without giving them any warning. It’s inappropriate.

Nope, I'm obviously referring to this one, which obviously suggests that the pics should come with a trigger warning or something which obviously implies that people might get upset about photos of a woman wearing underwear. It's all so obvious and no offence, but your pretending you don't understand that is really, really transparent.