To think that Stacey Dooley isn't a realistic new mum role model for women

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I picked out Stacey Dooley because I've just been reading about her but I know this applies to many other celebrities. She gave birth to her daughter in January and she's already back to work and attending events. She's also posted photos of her slim post baby body and trendy, flattering outfits on social media. Obviously it depends on your experience of pregnancy and giving birth but does this image of post natal motherhood put pressure on women? To me, I see it as unrealistic for the majority of women, including myself and my own experiences. Why can't celebrities share more honest, typical reflections of early motherhood that the majority can relate to.

What do people think?

So it’s not realistic unless you’re 8 stone heavier than you we’re pre-baby and can’t shower for 47 weeks after giving birth. Righto. 🙄

Is that how the thread started, or was it a chance for OP to berate a woman who happened to be slim in pregnancy and slim after?
She's also posted photos of her slim post baby body and trendy, flattering outfits on social media.
I quite like Stacey Dooley but it's just annoying to see that.

I can’t see one thing about the particular Instagram OP is referring to that portrays a particularly curated and unrealistic life.

I find your opinion on this pretty laughable OP.

Just because you had a certain experience with having children, it doesn't mean people with a different experience are some how wrong.

These people are (generally) not lauding it over us saying how much better they are than you, so why take it so personally?

Your seem to think the only 'honest' accounts are those that agree with your perspective. After giving birth I felt great and wanted to get back to work within weeks, but I appreciate this isn't everyone's experience. That doesn't mean I think your opinion is false, or not honest.

I was back in my pre-pregnancy jeans 6 days after giving birth. I actually weighed less after being pregnant than I did before I fell pregnant. It’s not unrealistic when it actually is some women’s reality.

Absolutely this!!

But just because it's not your normal and you struggled with baby weight, not going back to work, doesn't mean it's the same for everyone. People are saying their experiences are different, eg by loosing the baby weight and you clearly don't want to hear that as it doesn't fit your narrative.

I couldn't have worked up the energy to even consider caring.

I don't see celebrities as 'role models'. A lot of them are anything but!!

But some women are like this post-birth, I know a handful of women who were super into exercise, maintaining their image and back to work within 6 months. It’s not for me, had a traumatic birth with medical complications, still in pain after 8 months and not in a rush to lose weight. Happy at home with my baby wearing a dressing gown 50% of the time. Do these women make me feel bad, no. We are not all the same and if you are comparing yourself to these women and need them to be relatable/your role model then you need to stop reading the papers and get off social media.

Good for her. Is she wants to continue with her life after pregnancy good for her. Think it gives a good message. It's her choice.
I was totally flat and you'd never know I'd just given birth after my first. Not so after twins means nothing.
Her choice what she does.

Some of us don’t bounce back and may have had complications from birth. I’m still having blood transfusions 8 months later. But I am friends with ‘got it together’ women, we don’t all have to be the same. I don’t judge my friends and they don’t judge me (maybe they do but at least they haven’t said anything)

Why does a celebrity owe any of us anything more when they become a parent?

She was a tv presented/ did ads pre kids. She is doing the same post kids.

Exactly. I don't know who this person is, but it is clearly her reality that she's already back to work and she is back to her pre-baby body. Why should she change that because it's not relatable to the majority of women? Is the rest of her life (or that of any other celebrity/influencer) relatable to most of us?

I really like her and I don't care about her partners past or how slim she was straight after the birth.

I enjoy watching her on TV.

But these women/mothers are instagrammers this is part of their work Stacey been given a Cornwall break #ad#blessed etc etc is her job.

She's not just an intagrammer though.

No she isn't but when she is hashtagging cornish gifted breaks or clothes from.a nice shop she Is working and "influencing"

I really don’t understand posts like this. They have one baby who’s a few months old. A lot of parents manage absolutely fine with a baby at that stage, especially when there are two of you and the baby sleeps so much!

why would they need a nanny?!

Some mums don’t want to be squishy and milky and dishevelled after having a baby. The majority are, but don’t judge those that opt for something else, either intentionally or naturally.

Would you turn down a free stay at a corniche retreat in return for a few insta snaps?

Yes, she is and I agree and it is part of her work.

My mum came out of hospital with my new born brother in a white trouser suit from before she was pregnant !! That was in the 70s she sailed through the pregnancy and looked stunning . Mr on the other hand not so much !!!!

It’s not the norm but if you are a slim , sporty woman who didn’t put on additives weight during pregnancy you do tend to snap back. I was lucky that I am an athletic person and my body went back to my pre baby shape pretty quickly.

Sorry that should be additional weight!!

I follow Stacey Dooley on Instagram. Where has she shown her super thin and back at work? All I've seen her post about recent pics of her in baggy clothes and clips from her new USA series where she is slim but I assume was filmed ages ago (probably before she was even pregnant)? She can't have filmed and released that in the past month.

I agree. A new Mum I know if the most chilled out person I know after having her first baby. Has been away with the three of them visiting us.