To be disappointed at poor response re street party

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Smallish, quiet street, approx 45 houses, generally pretty friendly. Neighbour & I thought it might be nice to throw a party for the coronation. Council encouraging it by offering road closures & free insurance.

Sent out a note with a return slip asking people to say if they would interested, if they would be willing to help and inviting comments & suggestions. Gave them 2 weeks to respond. Deadline has passed and we have 17 responses, all positive, but that's less than half the street! AIBU to think it's really disappointing and actually rather rude :-(

Think we're going to send text to those that bothered to respond thanking them but, as we don't have a majority, informing them we will not be proceeding.

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It’s a shame more didn't respond even if it was to say no. As you say it’s a small road and not responding at all is rude
But no one is obliged to respond and generally a lot of people jus5 don’t care about being polite these days.
With only 17 houses I doubt you could put all the others ( 28 houses ) through disruption, notice and inconvenience.

Im sure the other 17 will appreciate you at least made the effort

I think the point of the thread has been missed
The poster was asking more whether it was rude to even bother to respond

So if you got an invite to something would you respond
If you invited someone to something would you like to get a response

meant to say
rude NOT even bother to respond

You're completely right. I don't think it's rude not to respond, they either don't care or have forgotten. 17 houses however is great, have fun at the party! 🥳

They weren’t being invited to something, though. They were asked if they would be willing to help at a party, if they would be interested in a party, as well as come up with comments and suggestions. Not at all the same as being invited to a party.

Wouldn't surprise me if other houses join in once they know that other neighbours are going.

What kind of plans are you making for food, activities and decorations etc?

Being nosey me...

Yes YABU. 17 families is plenty.

50% response is great. Have your party 🎉

No response does not mean they are rude

Especially street.....however quality street are an entirely different ball game.

If it was turn up all drink and food are provided you may have a point

But people not in involved in the decision did not ask to be invited, it is like some random person sending you a wedding in invitation

People usually have some connection to the person sending the invitation so no it is not the same thing to me

And invite to help put on an event sure but again they didn't ask for it

This is splitting hairs
Of course it was an invite

Of course it wasn’t.

I think 17 is excellent. I’d imagine at least 50% of your street are Republican and I’d say 20% probably have put the notice on the counter top without even reading it if they have busy lives.
Just crack on and do the party!!

It’s a shame more didn't respond even if it was to say no. As you say it’s a small road and not responding at all is rude
But no one is obliged to respond and generally a lot of people jus5 don’t care about being polite these days.
With only 17 houses I doubt you could put all the others ( 28 houses ) through disruption, notice and inconvenience.
Im sure the other 17 will appreciate you at least made the effort

I agree with most of this. While no one is obliged to reply to a flyer through the door, a note from neighbour in your small street requesting feedback on an event they're thinking of organising that will affect you is somewhat different to, say, a double glazing leaflet! To not reply is a bit rude imho. I also agree that people don't seem to care about being polite these days. Likely the shit state of the world and people being so stressed and busy has a lot to do with it, but it's still sad. Having said all that, I would bet that most of the people who didn't reply were not intentionally being rude and it's because either:
They forgot. Possibly due to being so stressed and busy as above.
Are not sure of their plans for May yet so didn't want to commit
Are not interested in attending themselves but have no issue with it going ahead.

If anyone was strongly opposed they would've told you by now!

On that basis and, assuming there is no cost involved, I would go ahead and make the application to close the road and, if approved, drop another note confirming it's going ahead and inviting people to join a WhatsApp group if they want to keep updated with the plans.That also gives another opportunity for anyone opposed to have their say. The likelihood is that more people will join in once they know it's going ahead.

I agree that the popularity of the monarchy is waning. I don't like them and think it's time for change but still attended a street party and went into London to soak up the atmosphere for the jubilee. After all, it's a piece of history and I will likely do the same again this time. I appreciate though that some people are more opposed than I am. If I was one of those people, I doubt I would say anything. I would quietly go and make other plans, it's one day after all and I would've had plenty of notice. Live and let live!

Exactly this!
I know I’d take part but would probably forget to respond or not want to commit 3 months in advance to something. But closer the time I’d say to the organiser that we’d decorate and come out for the party

I'm amazed you got such a high response. I can't think of anything worse than a street party. Yabu expecting everyone to want to take part.

I remember my sister and I having a stand up knock down fight at the Queen's coronation ☺️🫠

17 households is enough for a decent party!