To be disappointed at poor response re street party

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Smallish, quiet street, approx 45 houses, generally pretty friendly. Neighbour & I thought it might be nice to throw a party for the coronation. Council encouraging it by offering road closures & free insurance.

Sent out a note with a return slip asking people to say if they would interested, if they would be willing to help and inviting comments & suggestions. Gave them 2 weeks to respond. Deadline has passed and we have 17 responses, all positive, but that's less than half the street! AIBU to think it's really disappointing and actually rather rude :-(

Think we're going to send text to those that bothered to respond thanking them but, as we don't have a majority, informing them we will not be proceeding.

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OP do you genuinely think your ILs are being “stingy” - that is, making a deliberate effort to give you the least amount of food because they don’t want to spend money on their own family?
Are they just plain mean?
Do they want to put you off visiting them because you’re not good company?
Do they think you eat too much and want to show you how you should eat?
Or do you think they’re just completely clueless about how much food your family are used to eating and they’d be absolutely mortified to see what you’ve written about them?
Look for a simple (and kind) solution rather than slagging them off to strangers on the internet. Take a crate-load of fruit with you and say something along the lines of “we’re on a health kick so we thought we’d bring along a load of fruit for eating between meals”.
Or take some dishes you’ve made yourself at home ( lasagne, stew, bread pudding, whatever) and say something like “I know we eat such a lot at our age compared to you so I’d really like to contribute towards meals.”
The way you treat them will be the way your kids will learn to treat you one day.

Just have the party, start planning, and send out move details in beginning of May, people will probably be more up for it then as the weather will be warmer and it will seem a much better idea then it does In Cold February .

Because I doubt anyone has a garden big enough to host 17 households, unless they are all couples without families 🤷‍♀️

Are you in the right thread?

Ooooops. Nope, completely wrong thread 🤪😁

More people will attend when they know it's happening.

I don't know why you think you need some sort of democratic majority for a party!

I don't know why you think you need some sort of democratic majority for a party! ⬅️Because it’s not the tyranny of the minority. The minority don’t get to impose their royal arse lickin on the majority

Scrooge is a perfect summation. Or Mrs Mangel from Neighbours if anyone remembers that show.

I'd understand if it was a regular thing, but who cares about a one-off and some people having some fun when everything else is so dire right now. So many excuses from miserable posters about why this shouldn't happen rather than thinking how nice it is to live in a place where people want to spread a bit of joy.

Definitely glass half empty people!! How depressing to be such (literal) party poopers. (And no I probably wouldn't go, but I wouldn't begrudge others having a bit of fun).

Eh? That’s a good response. You don’t know anyone’s reason for not replying- they might be away, have other commitments, be working or just not fancy it.

I don't think this is about the RF at all, it's just a good excuse for a party. I'd be surprised if anyone who goes cares about the RF

We just did all this for the jubilee so the thought of more street parties doesn't excite people so soon

No one is stopping people celebrating, just do it in your own space without inconveniencing others….my community has clubbed together to hire a venue for a massive party. We’ve got live bands and are planning food to share. It will be a completely coronation free zone. 😂😂

Exactly, such miserable people 😒

I think you have to accept many in Uk are not Royalist and dont care a toss about the coronation.im one if my street wanted one id not be interested, The days of kowtowing to Royals are over and a its good they are,Queen should have been last.and why have a coronation Charles is king anyway,totally pointless.

That’s my point - why does anyone need an excuse for a party. Just have a party if you want one 😂

Fair point. Although judging by some of the miserable posters on here that would give them even more of an excuse to want to stop it and spread their misery 😀

It’s not rude- lots of people aren’t monarchists and will be going away for the weekend.

If you take it upon yourself to offer to arrange something that’s very nice of you, but people aren’t obliged to want to come.

Honestly, this thread is full of them and the anti-monarchists! I’ve had enough of them, they need their own thread and sanctuary where they can talk about unblocked roads, and the lack of need for inconvenience and how wonderful for Harry and Meghan that they’ve broken feee from the claws of the RF

Oh diddums! Are the subjects not being obsequious enough about the RF. How very dare they
You can leave, start your own joyful thread about road closures,throngs and who is the RF can and cannot perspire

Ohhh you've given me an idea for my entertainment.

Prince Andrew's sweaty ice bucket challenge.

My anti royalist party will be way more fun than your egg sandwich and Victoria sponge do.

Have you misunderstood?Im a stanch republican. I loathe what they represent and all the obsequious fans slurping and praising gives me the boak

Yes, I'm suggesting an anti royalist party. Sex pistols on playlist crank it up. Think the council will approve my application?

It's a matter of opinion whether it "spreads a little joy". I'm by no means the only poster who doesn't think street parties are an enjoyable experience. In having a differing opinion from you I haven't felt it necessary to resort to being personal either. People who parrot the be kind mantra do sometimes use it to attack others it seems.

I mentioned two other options.

Count me in
Free can of Mitchum for everyone who supports Andrew
Pizza for everyone who can’t quite recall how they got there