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To be disappointed at poor response re street party

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Geminijust · 21/02/2023 13:58

Smallish, quiet street, approx 45 houses, generally pretty friendly. Neighbour & I thought it might be nice to throw a party for the coronation. Council encouraging it by offering road closures & free insurance.

Sent out a note with a return slip asking people to say if they would interested, if they would be willing to help and inviting comments & suggestions. Gave them 2 weeks to respond. Deadline has passed and we have 17 responses, all positive, but that's less than half the street! AIBU to think it's really disappointing and actually rather rude :-(

Think we're going to send text to those that bothered to respond thanking them but, as we don't have a majority, informing them we will not be proceeding.

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Supergirl1958 · 22/02/2023 21:17

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 21:10

I mentioned two other options.

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Good for you :)

Buffs · 22/02/2023 21:54

I switch off as soon as I hear ‘coronation’.

Zone2NorthLondon · 22/02/2023 21:56

Buffs · 22/02/2023 21:54

I switch off as soon as I hear ‘coronation’.

Even street?

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:07

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 21:08

It's a matter of opinion whether it "spreads a little joy". I'm by no means the only poster who doesn't think street parties are an enjoyable experience. In having a differing opinion from you I haven't felt it necessary to resort to being personal either. People who parrot the be kind mantra do sometimes use it to attack others it seems.

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Well obviously stopping a street party that others want to hold, because it slightly inconveniences one is lacking in joy and kindness. That's a fact. Not an opinion.

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 22/02/2023 22:10

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:07

Well obviously stopping a street party that others want to hold, because it slightly inconveniences one is lacking in joy and kindness. That's a fact. Not an opinion.

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It's about the exact opposite of a fact. Joy, kindness and who possesses them is the epitome of subjective opinion.

Zone2NorthLondon · 22/02/2023 22:11

Measure and quantify joy and kindness Vs inconvenience. I fear you’re just making a whimsy point to show how jolly hockey sticks you are for wanting a community party. You’re expressing opinion. not fact. Not at all

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:13

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 22/02/2023 22:10

It's about the exact opposite of a fact. Joy, kindness and who possesses them is the epitome of subjective opinion.

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Although stopping people from having a celebration clearly is going to sap some joy from the situation. It doesn't take much intelligence to work that out.

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 22:23

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:13

Although stopping people from having a celebration clearly is going to sap some joy from the situation. It doesn't take much intelligence to work that out.

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They can have a celebration somewhere else.

I'm not the only poster who doesn't see it as you do.

And you have resorted to rudeness and personal comment to push your point.

PolicyOfTruth · 22/02/2023 22:38

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 22:23

They can have a celebration somewhere else.

I'm not the only poster who doesn't see it as you do.

And you have resorted to rudeness and personal comment to push your point.

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Agreed. If one of my neighbours posted leaflets around, especially if it was one I didn't like, I'd just throw the leaflet away. If the road was at risk of being closed off the back of that, I'd complain, because I've elderly parents who I care for and I've got work.

A party blocking the road would do a lot more than "sap some joy" from my life as a consequence. In the OPs case, over half the street have not said it's something they're interested in, so she might have worked a few upset people if they don't realise that they'll not be able to get it of their drives.

PolicyOfTruth · 22/02/2023 22:40

And @ilovesooty , 97% of respondents said the OP is being unreasonable, so you're very much not in the minority.

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:42

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 22:23

They can have a celebration somewhere else.

I'm not the only poster who doesn't see it as you do.

And you have resorted to rudeness and personal comment to push your point.

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You've chosen to see it that way. It's not all about you. Generally about people who take a similar position to you however. If there's a good reason to need to get the car out then that's one thing. Simply a minor inconvenience for having to walk a bit further in a small time frame, is not so good. Different opinions. And offense is taken, not given btw.

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:51

PolicyOfTruth · 22/02/2023 22:40

And @ilovesooty , 97% of respondents said the OP is being unreasonable, so you're very much not in the minority.

The vote responded to the question as to whether the OP being unreasonable about being disappointed that only 17 people responded to her invitation. And a majority said yes, she was, for lots of different reasons.

Her op wasn't was she unreasonable to want to hold a street party in the first place. That would need a different question / thread to answer that question. So you have no idea what the vote would be to that question. 🤷‍♀️

Lovely13 · 22/02/2023 23:03

LucyLeave · 21/02/2023 14:06

I'd plan on going out for the day if I was one of your neighbours.

Me too!

noworklifebalance · 22/02/2023 23:07

LemonJuiceFromConcentrate · 21/02/2023 14:02

This kind of thing is way down most people’s list of priorities.

I wouldn’t regard it as particularly rude for someone to forget about, or even ignore, an unsolicited note through the door about something they have no interest in.

I don’t like the RF but enjoy street parties. However, from the massive to-do list my DH & I have each day generated by work, home, DCs, replying to this would be waaaaay down at the bottom of my list. I would turn up on the day, if free, and help out and partake.

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 23:13

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:42

You've chosen to see it that way. It's not all about you. Generally about people who take a similar position to you however. If there's a good reason to need to get the car out then that's one thing. Simply a minor inconvenience for having to walk a bit further in a small time frame, is not so good. Different opinions. And offense is taken, not given btw.

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Obviously you're unable to acknowledge that you have resorted to personal comment and rudeness to make your point.

chaosmaker · 22/02/2023 23:47

What about access for important things. Anything would qualify as more important than a street party. I'm thinking emergency vehicles, domiciliary carers, you know, all the REAL things.

Mamanyt · 22/02/2023 23:53

Seventeen responses is lovely! I'd go ahead. I'm betting that those who did not respond are going to eat themselves up over not joining in the fun. And those who did respond will remember this for a long, long time.

T1Dmama · 23/02/2023 00:26

17 is a great response! I’d do the party with you and the other 17 but if the streets closed you can put all tables closer

Whenharrymetsmelly · 23/02/2023 00:28

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:07

Well obviously stopping a street party that others want to hold, because it slightly inconveniences one is lacking in joy and kindness. That's a fact. Not an opinion.

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I'd go so far to say, not just lacking kindness but being mean to want to spoil it for others. To make such a big deal about some people having some fun for one day is someone who is seriously bitter. I think I saw Scrooge earlier, Grinch also comes to mind. I've had a bit of a tough time lately and it's certainly made me have a negative disposition and feel quite jealous of others enjoying themselves. I hope I can get out of this mental rut before I end up like some of the posters on here! 🤨

T1Dmama · 23/02/2023 00:30

PolicyOfTruth · 22/02/2023 22:40

And @ilovesooty , 97% of respondents said the OP is being unreasonable, so you're very much not in the minority.

I voted unreasonable for considering cancelling the party! Sure others have too

ilovesooty · 23/02/2023 00:32

Perfectly reasonable to have a community party if it appeals to people. Just not on the public highway in my opinion.

Emptycrackedcup · 23/02/2023 00:33

WiIson · 22/02/2023 22:51

The vote responded to the question as to whether the OP being unreasonable about being disappointed that only 17 people responded to her invitation. And a majority said yes, she was, for lots of different reasons.

Her op wasn't was she unreasonable to want to hold a street party in the first place. That would need a different question / thread to answer that question. So you have no idea what the vote would be to that question. 🤷‍♀️

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@PolicyOfTruth I don't think you interpreted the question (and voting) correctly 🤓

WalkingOnTheCracks · 23/02/2023 00:47

Mamanyt · 22/02/2023 23:53

Seventeen responses is lovely! I'd go ahead. I'm betting that those who did not respond are going to eat themselves up over not joining in the fun. And those who did respond will remember this for a long, long time.

How much are you betting - because I’m very happy to offer you odds.

PolicyOfTruth · 23/02/2023 00:48

Emptycrackedcup · 23/02/2023 00:33

@PolicyOfTruth I don't think you interpreted the question (and voting) correctly 🤓

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Yeah I heard thanks.

Petlover9 · 23/02/2023 02:02

Ffsmakeitstop · 21/02/2023 14:06

Some of us think it's tone deaf in the current climate to celebrate an overprivileged and over paid person who contributes sod all to the economy.

Got to agree. Descended from the original land grabbers, 1066 and all that. Never could understand why they think God has anything to do with earthly kings.