To be disappointed at poor response re street party

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Smallish, quiet street, approx 45 houses, generally pretty friendly. Neighbour & I thought it might be nice to throw a party for the coronation. Council encouraging it by offering road closures & free insurance.

Sent out a note with a return slip asking people to say if they would interested, if they would be willing to help and inviting comments & suggestions. Gave them 2 weeks to respond. Deadline has passed and we have 17 responses, all positive, but that's less than half the street! AIBU to think it's really disappointing and actually rather rude :-(

Think we're going to send text to those that bothered to respond thanking them but, as we don't have a majority, informing them we will not be proceeding.

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I’m sorry for those it impacts on their AL but it’s one day, and for most once in a lifetime and part of history (whether you’re pro monarchy or not

Hardly once in a lifetime. We had the funeral, the Jubilee, the wedding, the Golden Jubilee.

And then in the realm of street parties, VE Day.

And no, you don't celebrate "any way you want". Not when it has a negative impact on others. As I've said above, it's perfectly possible to have a party in your back garden. If it's not big enough, organise a picnic in a park. But don't force your party on other people.

Sorry but a coronation is an entirely different event to each one of those things mentioned! That’s like comparing the FA Cup and the Champions League 😂😂😂😂.

No one is forcing anything on anyone!! Absolutely nothing wrong with a street party! It brings communities and families together, the benefits far outweigh the one negative of having to move your car to accommodate a road closure!! If people choose to go away to avoid the situation then that’s on them, because there is absolutely no need!

Mate, I don’t think we are going to agree on anything here, I have my view and opinion which is relevant….and you, well you have your view!

I never really get this once in a lifetime or part of history claims. Charles is in his mid 70s, so even with the longevity that family seem to enjoy, the majority of people alive now are going to see at least one more. And a good portion of those who won't survive him will be old enough to recall the last one.

And part of history... how? It's an event that most people won't be going to, and whether or not you choose to mark it by attending some kind of event with other people isn't going to affect that. I'm not saying don't watch it, don't go to the fun day at the pub or whatever, do whatever you want, but that's no more or less part of history than ignoring it.

YABU, it's you arranging something you are interested in. Presumably your neighbours have not indicated it's something they wanted. We're not pro-monarchy so the invite wouldn't have been replied to, meaning non-attendance.

Maybe check popular opinion these days. A lot people want the monarchy abolished

Do it anyway! Why should you and the others miss out on the fun? Sod the rest!

YABU -- you did well to get 17 positive responses; around 30% - 35% of the UK want to get rid of the monarchy, so you were never going to win over that group. I hope it goes well for you.

Why cancel? 17 responses is pretty god. Have the street party with those who want it. Nearer the time, you will probably find that more people join in. Don’t try to be too prescriptive. People hate being bossed. Bringing food and booze on the day should be fine.

Ditto this!

Different strokes for different folks.

Why wait until the coronation to have a party if it’s about getting to know your neighbours? Just have a party - we did on our street last summer, just a random Sunday in July. It was nice, and not divisive.

I’d assume that a neighbour suggesting a party to mark the coronation enjoys a bunch of thick as mince people reining over us due to an accident of birth. Why celebrate it on coronation day otherwise? I’d probably have little in common with or want to spend time with neighbours like that.

I don't see any benefit to me of having to park my car in the next road. If this were proposed in my street I don't see why I should be expected to put up with it. If people want to hold community events they can hold them in their gardens, in a community centre or in the park, not on a public road.

They can have their fun somewhere that doesn't inconvenience other people.

@Supergirl1958 why don't the people that want the party do it in their gardens or a park? Why inconvenience me for example?

Yep. Because it's petty and mean-spirited. It's hardly a big effort to let the neighbours do that, very infrequently. Even if those objectors don't want to join in. Spread a little joy. Rather than self righteous whining to the council.

I wouldn't go to a street party but I wouldn't object to a road closure. Many people find parties a strain, having to make smalltalk with neighbours is not my idea of fun.

That's your interpretation. If this were proposed for my street I'd be telling the proposers that I didn't want them taking over the public highway and I'd be objecting formally to it. I have as much right to access it freely as anyone else. They can have a party elsewhere in a place that doesn't impact on other people.

Because the majority don't want it, so why should they need to put up with the inconvenience?

YADBU

its A lovely idea. 17 houses is a great response.

people don’t have to respond to it and it doesn’t make them rude. People have busy lives and not everyone is interested in having a street party….and that’s absolutely fine!

I would get the 17 Tibet her and make a plan, then communicate with everyone acknowledging the fantastic response you have had and to set out plan including planned road closures and ask for any ‘objections’ by a specific date.

that way you smoke any really strong views and can deal with them individually.

Tbh I was very happy to support our street party for the Queens jubilee last year. Very well attended and always good to socialise.
However I have no interest in the coronation, there is no need to hold one- other countries don’t . And being polite - I think that Charles and Camilla are awful, Andrew unspeakable and why is Edward parading around in military service medals when he was thrown out of the training? At least Harry earned them but not allowed to display them! Just being polite here!

17 responses is phenomenal.

I always make an assumption that no-one will respond, and that I'll have to do a massive loads of engagement and Comms to get any replies!

YANBU I'm in the minority here!
I arranged a street party for Queen's Jubilee last year. Council said I needed over 70% of households on our road to say yes before we could go ahead. I easily got over that. We are also a cul de sac with about 45 houses. It was an absolute blast and I know so many of my neighbours better now.

It's an opinion. Same as yours. I prefer to spread a little joy. Even if I didn't want to attend myself I wouldn't stop others from enjoying themselves. Seemingly you cant be bothered to be kind if it inconveniences you a little bit. A miserable existence for sure. Reminds me of Scrooge.

It's not an interpretation at all. It's an assessment of your behaviour.

Many people don’t want to be inconvenienced by people celebrating an event or an institution that they actively don’t agree with.

Royalty fandom is like a cult 🙄

For you. Not for others. I don't really care about the royal family particularly. But others do. And they want to celebrate. Why go out of your way to stop those celebrations, which lets face it, happen very rarely.