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To be disappointed at poor response re street party

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Geminijust · 21/02/2023 13:58

Smallish, quiet street, approx 45 houses, generally pretty friendly. Neighbour & I thought it might be nice to throw a party for the coronation. Council encouraging it by offering road closures & free insurance.

Sent out a note with a return slip asking people to say if they would interested, if they would be willing to help and inviting comments & suggestions. Gave them 2 weeks to respond. Deadline has passed and we have 17 responses, all positive, but that's less than half the street! AIBU to think it's really disappointing and actually rather rude :-(

Think we're going to send text to those that bothered to respond thanking them but, as we don't have a majority, informing them we will not be proceeding.

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Picklypickles · 22/02/2023 11:16

YesYou · 22/02/2023 11:07

"I was talking specifically about FIREFIGHTERS! You know, those people who attend EMERGENCIES like house fires and car accidents and save peoples lives, have you heard of them?"

My god, chill 🤣. I'm sure the firefighters will be able to work out they need to put their car somewhere it's not blocked in and make sure it happens.

Oh you're right, I'm sure that they can "just find somewhere else to park" in a tiny village with narrow single track lanes where everybody has their own drive because there IS no on-street parking. In the river perhaps.

Mamaneedsadrink · 22/02/2023 11:18

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 11:12

I've already said I'd be lodging an objection with the council if that were to be proposed in my road.

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So you have an issue as you don't want a minor inconvenience ... yet you'd go to a major inconvenience of lodging an objection to stop that minor inconvenience .... riiiiggghht Hmm

Return2thebasic · 22/02/2023 11:20

It would be more uncomfortable for me to reply with a no., especially if I didn't know the organiser. So I'd rather stick my head under the sand and let the world passing by. And I like my close neighbours (invited them over for coffee and meals before), but I don't want to socialise with everyone living on the same street.

So maybe others aren't really wanting the party themselves but don't mind there's one for others. In this case, the best thing to do is to not reply.
Don't take it offensive or personal.

But road closure is going to have an impact to others. Maybe do need to inform others it's going ahead to allow some be prepared.

OnceTwiceThreeTimesATheybe · 22/02/2023 11:20

EightChalk · 22/02/2023 11:15

I'd be just as happy to have a "down with the monarchy" party and don't know why people are presenting it as a "gotcha". It's just fun to have a party, something a bit out of the ordinary and done purely for enjoyment. Life has a lot of hard times, so why not make the most of opportunities to have a laugh?

You might be happy to do so.
I doubt that the council would be so keen to support you in forcing your political party on your neighbors though. Do you think they'd close the road for a pro Republic party?

Plenty of evidence recently how people who visibly disagree with unelected monarchy are treated.

www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/uk-news/2022/sep/11/republican-protesters-arrested-king-charles-proclamation-events

Bagsundermyeyestoday · 22/02/2023 11:21

Picklypickles · 22/02/2023 11:16

Oh you're right, I'm sure that they can "just find somewhere else to park" in a tiny village with narrow single track lanes where everybody has their own drive because there IS no on-street parking. In the river perhaps.

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Well surely if they're used to such tight landscapes then they're more resourceful than your AVERAGE fire-fighter. This is all academic anyway as we don't even know where it is. I agree with PP. Chill!

Picklypickles · 22/02/2023 11:24

Bagsundermyeyestoday · 22/02/2023 11:21

Well surely if they're used to such tight landscapes then they're more resourceful than your AVERAGE fire-fighter. This is all academic anyway as we don't even know where it is. I agree with PP. Chill!

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No I'm not going to chill. It angers me that people's NEED to sit drinking Pimms and waving their little flags in the road is seen as more important than the needs of everyone else including the emergency services!

So many more appropriate places people can have their silly little parties.

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 11:28

Mamaneedsadrink · 22/02/2023 11:18

So you have an issue as you don't want a minor inconvenience ... yet you'd go to a major inconvenience of lodging an objection to stop that minor inconvenience .... riiiiggghht Hmm

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Yes. I'd find lodging an objection less inconvenient than having my access and movement compromised.

One of those is an action. The other is a situation. I hope that clarification is helpful for you and aids your understanding.

Bagsundermyeyestoday · 22/02/2023 11:49

Picklypickles · 22/02/2023 11:24

No I'm not going to chill. It angers me that people's NEED to sit drinking Pimms and waving their little flags in the road is seen as more important than the needs of everyone else including the emergency services!

So many more appropriate places people can have their silly little parties.

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You'd probably feel happier and more relaxed if you got out and enjoyed yourself more ... like at a party 🙃😉

WiIson · 22/02/2023 12:00

I guess if the majority wanted the street party then it would go ahead anyway, even if one moaning minnie did raise an objection to the council.

amicissimma · 22/02/2023 12:06

Like PP, I think that's quite a good response. I'd go ahead and would expect a few more to turn up, maybe apologising for not responding.

If no one feels strongly enough against it to make their feelings known when you first suggested the idea, I think you can discount any complaints.

ChristinaXYZ · 22/02/2023 12:09

17 is brilliant - just do it!

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 12:09

WiIson · 22/02/2023 12:00

I guess if the majority wanted the street party then it would go ahead anyway, even if one moaning minnie did raise an objection to the council.

There might well be more than one. It's reasonable to object without being defined in those terms.

LadyMargaretDevereux · 22/02/2023 12:21

Greensleeves · 21/02/2023 15:09

What fucking effort?! You want a party, you want your neighbours to make it happen for you, so you've sent out an invitation. It's not some altruistic act of public-spiritness, and people don't have to comply.

Personally I would rather have my nipples removed with a blunt spoon than attend some dreadful cap-doffing affair celebrating the further enrichment of one the richest and most socially clueless people in Britain. Nor would I be thrilled at the road being closed so that flag-shaggers could block up the street with nonsense. Maybe your neighbours feel the same.

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Well said @greensleeves - I totally agree with your sentiments (apart from the nipples part perhaps).

WiIson · 22/02/2023 12:23

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 12:09

There might well be more than one. It's reasonable to object without being defined in those terms.

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I didn't call you a moaning minnie. Do you think you are one then?

Vinomummyinlockdown · 22/02/2023 12:28

Blablablanamechangagain · 21/02/2023 19:22

Urgh. You're the stuff of nightmare neighbours. Have a party in your own garden. Take a picnic to a park. Stop trying to inflict "fun" on people. If I had this through my letterbox, I'd probably send you some dogshit back tbh.

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HangerLaneGyratorySystem · 22/02/2023 12:43

Mamaneedsadrink · 22/02/2023 11:18

So you have an issue as you don't want a minor inconvenience ... yet you'd go to a major inconvenience of lodging an objection to stop that minor inconvenience .... riiiiggghht Hmm

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Someone asked me upthread why I don't complain to the local authority about what goes on in my street - this is why. This and the posts that follow it saying that people who object are "moaning Minnies" , need to chill etc. So using that as a "cover" our clique of street party neighbours menace everyone into keeping quiet. They can justify pretty much anything and everything under the banner of not being miserable - if you're fucking cheerful you are entitled to do whatever you like eh?

OnceTwiceThreeTimesATheybe · 22/02/2023 12:49

Found my party favours.
Now just off to ask the council to close the road and it's sorted.
Moaning Minnies welcome.

To be disappointed at poor response re street party
WiIson · 22/02/2023 12:50

What does it matter if people think you're a moaning minnie or not? People can think what they want about you. Likewise, you can go and lodge an objection with the council rather than telling your neighbours you don't want a street party before they go to the bother of making an application for it.

ancientgran · 22/02/2023 12:55

I don't like my neighbours so wouldn't want to waste time sitting outside with them. I was very involved in a street party when I lived somewhere with nice neighbours.

WiIson · 22/02/2023 13:03

I probably wouldn't go to a street party myself, although my kids might. I couldn't be bothered. I wouldn't try to block them from doing it though. It's not very neighbourly. And for such a short period of time in the whole scheme of things, I'd just park a bit further away on the day.

Picklypickles · 22/02/2023 14:05

Bagsundermyeyestoday · 22/02/2023 11:49

You'd probably feel happier and more relaxed if you got out and enjoyed yourself more ... like at a party 🙃😉

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What a bizarre assumption to make about someone you don't know! This may be a difficult concept for you to get your little head around but not all people relax and enjoy themselves by going to parties!

piedbeauty · 22/02/2023 14:14

It's not rude not to respond!! Maybe they have more important things to worry about than the coronation?!

I'd go ahead with 17 families.

YesYou · 22/02/2023 16:00

"Oh you're right, I'm sure that they can "just find somewhere else to park" in a tiny village with narrow single track lanes where everybody has their own drive because there IS no on-street parking. In the river perhaps."

You sound a right laugh 🤣. FWIW DH had to leave in an emergency situation during a street party where the main road through town had tables down the middle. Guess what? Our neighbours dragged the table back so he could get out and there was room to pass by in town. No biggie

ilovesooty · 22/02/2023 16:05

WiIson · 22/02/2023 12:23

I didn't call you a moaning minnie. Do you think you are one then?

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I didn't say you called me that.

You defined objectors in that way though.

Supergirl1958 · 22/02/2023 17:12

dogdaydown · 22/02/2023 10:23

Of course people can celebrate, but not "how they want to" if that has an effect on other people.

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Isn’t it affect seeing as its an action?

Anyway, regardless there are always ways around it, parking 300 metres (e.g) around the corner isn’t really a hardship for one day!!

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