To be disappointed at poor response re street party

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Smallish, quiet street, approx 45 houses, generally pretty friendly. Neighbour & I thought it might be nice to throw a party for the coronation. Council encouraging it by offering road closures & free insurance.

Sent out a note with a return slip asking people to say if they would interested, if they would be willing to help and inviting comments & suggestions. Gave them 2 weeks to respond. Deadline has passed and we have 17 responses, all positive, but that's less than half the street! AIBU to think it's really disappointing and actually rather rude :-(

Think we're going to send text to those that bothered to respond thanking them but, as we don't have a majority, informing them we will not be proceeding.

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People don’t read flyers half the time. Our scouts does an annual Christmas post and we leaflet details the week before to say we’ll be back the following week for any cards and no end say they never received anything and I know they did because I posted it. They will want to attend they probably just don’t want to be part of the organisation and aren’t thinking that far ahead. Just do it, you’ll have a great time.

Wish I lived on OP’s street, would be well up for that - esp if someone else is kind and motivated enough to do the organisational legwork.

RSVP etiquette really seems to have gone out of the window lately, a lot of people think ‘ignore’ is how you say ‘no’ - it is not.

17 is a good turnout of yesses, I’d get planning. Bring on the trifle and bunting!

You are so judgemental. It is not rude to fail to respond to an unofficial letter or post, particularly one that invites them to an event last enjoyed by the masses in 1953.
And you want to close the whole street, disrupting traffic and effectively forcing a whole-street event on people who are not interested. They would have to put up with the noise, mess and disruption

AIBU to think it's really disappointing and actually rather rude :-(

Whereabouts are you?

I'm in Scotland and in certain parts you'd be in danger of having your windows put in for a suggestion to host a Coronation Street Party. Am assuming you must be in quite a patriotic area?

Bloody hell, there's some right miserable gits on here! I'm not a fan of the royals at all but our street is having one and I'm happy to attend and even help with the arrangements, any excuse for a party I say! If I wasn't, I'd probably still reply to say we wouldn't be attending but wish them well. Lots of streets round here have had parties in the past ( including ours) and they're great fun.

We also had a note out to gauge interest and got a similar percentage I believe. I'll admit to being a late responder, I kept meaning to return the form and kept forgetting! Could be some of OPS neighbours are forgetful like me or don't know their plans yet. If anyone had a real issue OP, you'd know about it by now! Neighbour explained they had to be sure no one objected and, as the deadline for the council application is soon, had to do it now. Presume same for OP. We did have an objection one year. We were still allowed to go ahead but just had to accommodate him driving in and out which he made a huge deal of doing several times just to make a point. He's moved now thankfully.

We were asked to give our phone number ito be added to a WhatsApp group if we wanted to take part for future communication, have you done that OP?

Good luck OP, and ignore all the negativity, there's too much these days. Likelihood that many that didn't reply will join in nearer the time.

Go ahead with it anyway! People will come out and join in, they are most likely busy and distracted.
17 houses is enough for a street party surely!

Bloody hell, there's some right miserable gits on here! I'm not a fan of the royals at all but our street is having one and I'm happy to attend and even help with the arrangements, any excuse for a party I say!

It's interesting how people are being called miserable for saying why people are not responding and ignoring a letter.

Ignoring something isnt miserable would you you prefer the OP was responded to by people telling her to shove her party if they weren't interested.

Op
I think 🤔 your attitude to local residents response is silly ,
17 I think is a OK reasoninable number,
Have a re think and Consirder seriously having that street party 🥳 for coronation,

What I think will happen is on the coronation day,
Other residents ,at least several/some/few more will start to see you having a good time, and could ,will suprise you and want to join in too,
either last minute
Or
Will hear on grape 🍇 vine beforehand, in some way, that you will be having a street party,

Rember beforehand the lukewarm attitude beforehand to the Queens Jubilee celebrations 🍾 when a well known TV presenter,
Can't rember his name , it could be Johnathan was going out about to get some census of people interest in Queens Jubilee, one time,
It was quite while time before the actual event,

Obviously King Charles 🤴 is not quite as popular as his mother was, but I think he will grow on people as people get to know him well sort of,

Its not rude at all- you have no idea what circumstances the people in your street might be dealing with- financial pressures, illness, personal problems, mental health etc.. If I was financially struggling there's no way I'd want to celebrate the over the top opulant coronation of a super rich family who are only wealthy via sheer luck. They dont owe you anything just because you personally are a royalist.

Also, its not "miserable" just because you dont lick the feet of royalty FFS

Why should I move my car and invalidate my car insurance which requires me to park it on the drive and put it in the reach of drunk idiots walking home from a doff and scoff party.

You need to personally ask about the road closure and get 100 percent response imo to do it. I think it's so fucking entitled for you to close a road so you can have a political party.

Would you be happy having a BNP in your road? Noise and closures for something you may not agree with (although as a royalist I suppose you are more likely to go for their policies)

You need to personally ask about the road closure and get 100 percent response imo to do it. I think it's so fucking entitled for you to close a road so you can have a political party

I agree with this. People might be doing shift work, or have carers coming to look after them and this is going to cause a massive inconvenience to them. Its selfish and very inconsiderate.

Hi Op
I think even people who have mixed feelings about King Charles or and Royal family in general 🤔 and even people who are indifferent to Royal family in general whether they exist or not,

On Coronation day if they see you and other local residents enjoying themselves, those types of individuals well could definitely susprise you and want to join as it's excuse to enjoy themselves too, and escape from the Doom and Gloom of the strange/bonkers times, we all have been living through last few years,
Yes it's sort of hypocritical
But who cares,
Thankfully we still just about live in a democratic country in which we have a choice about these types of things too,
Even if to outsiders it looks sort of bit/somewhat hypocritical too,

If everyone was same it would be boring 🌎 boring,
Variety is spice of life
Best of Luck to your street 🥳

I also think it will remind your local residents of childhood memories ect of street parties 🥳 they rember or have heard from their other maybe older family members too ,
So want to join in your street party,
Just for Novelty experince of finding out what it's like to take part in something like this 💡 too,

The British psyche especially are usually into anything of historical significance just to say I was there ,
When this happened too,

Yabu. 17 is an awful lot. You vvv rude saying those that dont response are rude. Go ahead with 17.... honestly that is a huge response...you find the other houses will either join in or don't nearer the time

Have a whats App group good 💡 too

I hope you are going to go ahead and do it,
And suprise people how fun it will be ect too

Sorry but your expectations of your neighbours are far too high and too intense. People very often just don't respond to things if they're not inerested. 17 households is a fantastic response and I would be going ahead. If anyone cared about it/ objected, they would have contacted you by now.

I don't think OP needs to ask permission if no one has objected at this stage. It will be the day of the coronation, there is an expectation of street parties across the country. Everyone has already had a notice that OP is planning a street party and obviously that will involve the road being closed.

OP, just post a note through people's letterboxes a couple of weeks before saying "the street party will be going ahead, everyone is invited, the road will be closed and inaccessible to vehicles between X and X times on X date"

17 is a good response. We haven't decided what we're doing that weekend, with five bank holidays in 8 weeks across April and May there's lots of opportunities to get away. And I'm not sure King Chuck wearing a big hat is anything we'd celebrate.

In general, you will only ever get positive responses or angry opposition to that sort of note. The ambivalent/undecided will just ignore.

Everyone has already had a notice that OP is planning a street party and obviously that will involve the road being closed.

No it's not obvious that the road is closed as op didn't explicitly say it would be. Probably in the hope people would not think of it and object.

Many reasons people might not realise it will be closed. No experience of previous street parties. Previous experience of street parties where the road wasn't closed. (Happened in my street) didn't read the unsolicited junk mail. Poor literacy or English language.

If op genuinely thinks no one will object then she'll have no problem asking. But I suspect she's trying to get it in under the radar so by the time anyone notices it will be too late to object.

Fucking sly if you ask me.

I don’t think there “will be an expectation of street parties across the country” at all.

OP, just post a note through people's letterboxes a couple of weeks before saying "the street party will be going ahead, everyone is invited, the road will be closed and inaccessible to vehicles between X and X times on X date"

Translation. I have closed the road because I took your lack of consent as consent. Fuck you. You didn't reply to my party and now I get to inconvenience you with noise and lack of access.

How interesting you think the op should send it after the council has put it in place. Surely it couldn't be because you want it to be too late to object.

Sorry but you sound a bit like hard work OP

rude? People have other things to do

could you maybe do a celebration that does not necessitate road closure?

Do the party, sod them, they had to say if they were or weren’t interested, as you’ve had no reply either way, do it anyway 17 house holds will be enough for around 70-80 people do it!!

Well obviously nowhere near as many as there would have been historically, but my point is that most people won't be massively shocked if their neighbours decide to have a street party on the day of a new King's coronation in England.

It's an extremely long standing tradition and if there are ever going to be street parties in the UK then that is when they're going to happen.

(nb I'm not a royalist and won't be going to any myself - and am hoping my neighbours won't have one! But I acknowledge they are a thing! 😅)

You’re presuming neighbours care about a twee party or moribund institution
Fortunately I will not have to participate in ghastly we loves you King nonsense
yes I’d ignore any invitation to a gushy party organised by chief gerl and royalist