Ex says I'm not entitled to child maintenance

[daisy7895]

I'm a single mum to a 7 month old baby who I share with my very unreasonable ex. He has made my life hell since she's was born, and this is just one of the latest dramas.

I own my own home, however, due to the cost of living crisis, my rubbish maternity pay, and receiving no maintenance from my ex, my lovely parents offered to allow me and DD to temporarily move back in to their house for the duration of my maternity leave. This has made things so much easier for me as, although I'm still paying my mortgage and some other bills, I've been able to save money as I'm not paying heating/shopping bills (just want to add that I contribute to the household in other ways such as cooking, cleaning etc.)

Anyway, ex has used this situation to say that he doesn't need to pay maintenance as I'm currently living with my parents and therefore "don't need" any money. He actually said he doesn't need to pay anything! Every now and again, he will ask what she needs and will turn up with nappies and wipes and says that this is his maintenance. I've told him that this is not how maintenance works and have told him I will be putting a CMS claim in. Now I'm receiving abuse from his family calling me evil and saying I'm money grabbing.

Am I missing something here? He's making me feel like I'm unreasonable for asking him to pay for his own child!

If only such men had “feckless arsehole” tattooed on their forehead, we would then know not to have sex with them.

Unfortunately @3peassuit , there would still be plenty of women who would think they could be "the one" to "change them".

I agree. Some women just don’t care.

Ignore them and file for child maintenance. If I was feeling petty I'd send one text to them before blocking stating that you're sorry you feel their grandchild/child is not worthy of financial support from their father. Thankfully the law thinks differently.

Because that's what they are essentially saying. They don't want their money to support the child.

Best of luck OP. Claim that child maintenance, your child deserves it.

If all new humans were born into stable, time-tested relationships between two solvent, working adults who both enthusiastically planned, saved and prepared for parenthood, our species would be so, so much better off

The human race would come to an end very very quickly.

Either that or there wouldn’t be anything to strive for and it would stagnate and be very very boring.

What happens when the 2 stable parents have children who rebel against their parents stability.
Just because parents are solvent and stable their is nothing to conclude the dc will be.

Did you get this sorted?

Just ignore them and get your child support!. Just delete any messages received from his family without reading it!

Do the CMS claim today. Because it gets backdated to the day you put your claim in. What a poor excuse for a man not wanting to support his DC. I'd ignore his family and block the lot of them.

This is such good advice.