Page 10 | Asking him to get rid of his dog after 7 years?

Uktousa2022 · 2023-02-20T16:00:55+00:00

I am moving to the USA to be with my fiance. He has a pitbull/lab who has previously bit a little yorkie, the yorkie did start the fight, however unfortunately the yorkie died because the pitbull punctured a lung after 1 bite. I have 2 cavalier dogs. I have extreme anxiety about taking my 2 dogs over there to live with this dog that has previously bit before. My fiancé says it was a total one off, he has since been neutered and is older now, and it was the other dogs fault. I have met the dog and it does pretty much sleep all day. I just don't know if I can live my life anxious always watching my dogs around this dog - It is a small house - I really don't know how to get over this as we are both refusing to rehome our dogs. He does have family nearby that he could probably give him too, I would be going out to the US with just my dogs.

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:24

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:22

What a ridiculous thing to say.

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So ridiculous, right? In a country where dog attacks are a daily occurrence, killing other dogs, children and adults alike? Ignorant dog owners are ridiculous.

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:24

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:22

Why the hell do you have a banned breed dog?

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Have you considered that the poster is not from
the UK?

TuesdayJulyNever · 20/02/2023 18:25

How much time have you spent together? Why are you the one making this move? (I’m not being snarky - just curious about the balance of power, financial factors etc, eg is it easier for you to continue your career there than for him to get established in uk?)

I was born old and cynical and there’s a few things you’ve said that would concern me and have me questioning the relationship. I definitely wouldn’t move if it put me at a disadvantage.

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:26

OttersMayHaveShiftedInTransit · 20/02/2023 18:24

They may not be banned where the poster lives.

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If they aren't, they should be.

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:27

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:24

Have you considered that the poster is not from
the UK?

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True; some countries are even more irresponsible than the UK.

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:30

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:24

So ridiculous, right? In a country where dog attacks are a daily occurrence, killing other dogs, children and adults alike? Ignorant dog owners are ridiculous.

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First up, you said dog bite not dog attack. Two different things. Dogs bite and not all hurt that much or do that much damage. Yes a dog that has killed without provocation should be dealt with.

However your post said all dogs that bite should be put down. Which is ridiculous. A dog may bite or nip someone who is tormenting them or scaring them. That doesn’t mean they need to be put down as they can be trained or the idiot who is tormenting or scaring them can be banned from their presence.

as far as attacks on children go, I would bet you’d have less if parents actually taught their children how to behave around animals.

MaireadMcSweeney · 20/02/2023 18:30

Uktousa2022 · 20/02/2023 17:49

My brothers wedding in September is how we met. My brother lives over there. Not online..

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You've known him since September, you're engaged and giving up your whole life to move to be with him?! Are you actually mad??????

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:31

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:26

If they aren't, they should be.

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Probably spoken from someone who has never even met a pit bull 😂😂😂

Daisybuttercup12345 · 20/02/2023 18:33

My dog would come before you I'm afraid.

whitebreadjamsandwich · 20/02/2023 18:34

I wouldn't be with him purely on the basis he has a pit bull...you can never take your eyes off it for a second if you bring a child in to its life. Think VERY hard OP

Why can't he move to be with you?

FlowerPows · 20/02/2023 18:34

You have a kid over there and break up, that kid is not leaving with you if you want to come back to the UK, you know that right? My friends marriage broke down and she had to remain in the USA for a decade till her child was an adult so she could return with her child.

You would be really bloody stupid moving to another country to be with a man you hardly know.

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:35

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:30

First up, you said dog bite not dog attack. Two different things. Dogs bite and not all hurt that much or do that much damage. Yes a dog that has killed without provocation should be dealt with.

However your post said all dogs that bite should be put down. Which is ridiculous. A dog may bite or nip someone who is tormenting them or scaring them. That doesn’t mean they need to be put down as they can be trained or the idiot who is tormenting or scaring them can be banned from their presence.

as far as attacks on children go, I would bet you’d have less if parents actually taught their children how to behave around animals.

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The dog owner is ALWAYS responsible for preventing attacks. Children are more important than dogs, always, and a well-trained dog will not growl, bite or snap regardless of what a child does. Dogs who bite should be euthanized immediately. Any dog owner who blames children for their own dogs' behaviour should be banned from keeping pets.

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:36

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:35

The dog owner is ALWAYS responsible for preventing attacks. Children are more important than dogs, always, and a well-trained dog will not growl, bite or snap regardless of what a child does. Dogs who bite should be euthanized immediately. Any dog owner who blames children for their own dogs' behaviour should be banned from keeping pets.

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Just proven again why you’re ridiculous.

EmilyGilmoresSass · 20/02/2023 18:37

Uktousa2022 · 20/02/2023 16:07

I already am giving up my entire life (Job, family, friends) I feel like giving up the only 2 things i have left (the dogs) would leave me depressed, for people asking me to give up mine. I totally get why he doesn't want to give up his too.

Have you ever considered him giving up his dog could leave him depressed? You can't just demand he rehomes his and use the 'I'm giving my life up' speech. You're the one willingly going!

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:37

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:36

Just proven again why you’re ridiculous.

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And you've proven what a lousy dog owner you are.

Poscapen · 20/02/2023 18:38

Bloody hell... this is about so much more than the dogs. Op, please sit down and have a good think before making this move. A pros and cons list. Check out what you will come away with if you split up in the States and you're not married. As for the dogs, no I wouldn't give mine up when they were all I'd have left of my old life. But I'd think really hard about taking them to a household where there's a man who thinks he's always right who doesn't treat his own dog very well.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 20/02/2023 18:38

Uktousa2022 · 20/02/2023 16:57

In regards to the kids thing, I asked him this before. His answer was "My dog will defend that baby to the death of him because he knows it is my kid and part of me" - not sure I agree

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He's an idiot.
What on earth are you thinking???

Testina · 20/02/2023 18:39

So he buys a know aggressive “status” breed, leaves it in a crate all day and comes out with thick as pigshit crap like this:

“In regards to the kids thing, I asked him this before. His answer was "My dog will defend that baby to the death of him because he knows it is my kid and part of me"

And you to to uproot your entire life for him, move to the US, marry him, have kids (who don’t do well crated…)

You sound desperate.

Sugarplumfairy65 · 20/02/2023 18:40

FlowerPows · 20/02/2023 18:34

You have a kid over there and break up, that kid is not leaving with you if you want to come back to the UK, you know that right? My friends marriage broke down and she had to remain in the USA for a decade till her child was an adult so she could return with her child.

You would be really bloody stupid moving to another country to be with a man you hardly know.

She was told this numerous times on one of her other threads.

longwayoff · 20/02/2023 18:41

Re home your dogs. It is not remotely safe to take them to USA to live with a pit bull that has already killed another dog. Or change your mind about going which is highly recommended.

Testina · 20/02/2023 18:43

“My brothers wedding in September is how we met. My brother lives over there. Not online..”

It gets worse. September?!
You’ve known him less than 6 months?
Even if he sounds great, that’s foolish.
But guess what? He sounds like an arsehole 🤷🏻‍♀️

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 20/02/2023 18:43

I already am giving up my entire life (Job, family, friends)

Christ, don't do it!!! You already sound miserable.

And don't give up our dogs.

This relationship will not work.

Testina · 20/02/2023 18:43

Ah @Sugarplumfairy65 is this madness from a repeat offender?

clairelouwho · 20/02/2023 18:44

Sirikit · 20/02/2023 18:37

And you've proven what a lousy dog owner you are.

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Nope. Got two beautiful dogs that have never bitten anyone.

Dogs sometimes bite when provoked. No matter how well trained they are. This isn’t news. That’s why responsible parents teach their children how to behave and not provoke dogs and ensure supervision with children and dogs.

If you really think a dog should be put down for simply nipping someone you are ridiculous. And your fear-mongering over pit bulls is on par with the Daily Express.

Scirocco · 20/02/2023 18:44

@Uktousa2022 that doesn't sound like an environment in which your dogs or a baby would be safe. The dog you'd be moving in with sounds to have a pretty miserable life, may have aggression and/or training issues, and has actually killed before. Don't put your dogs and potential future children at risk. This would be a deal breaker for me.