Skinny privellege

[Annabella91]

Why is there shops full of clothes for women who are skinnt but nothing bigger i hate going clothes literally can never find anything in a size 16 it's all size 6 and 8 is the fat back in the 90s discrimination trend coming in again?? Shouldn't need to skinny to look nice??

I looked fab before pregnancy I was walking around in denim shorts and vest tops when it was summer time I just want to be that again I miss my old body it was flabby from 2 other pregnancies but it wasn't this heavy.

'Skinny' is subjective though. I've been called skinny, I don't think I am. I have an athletic figure which I really like. I like my small breasts that are in the same place they were when I was 20, they never get in my way, I hated my bigger breasts when I was pregnant, they were an absolute nuisance. I like that my thighs are toned and don't rub together so I can wear dresses in summer with no fear of chub rub. I love yoga and part of the reason i took it was becasue I wanted to keep that lean yoga type body(vain I know!). I've genuinely never wanted to be 'curvy'(although loads of women look great with boobs and a butt I just feel clunky and awkward with extra bumps). Maybe you don't think lean figures are 'good' but it's my body so my opinion is the only one I care for when it comes to whether it is a 'good' figure or not.

Agree with this. Like us 'skinnies' are somehow supposed to feel bad... 🙄

I was just looking for something that doesn't look like a bin bag that all.
I worn nothing but black pants and stretchy tops so wanted to ditch them for something more vibrant.

OP, which shops did you actually visit though? Do you live near a large shopping centre?

This ^

Sandwiches or toast etc
Whatever I can make from the freezer most days for tea.
Weekends is like a takeaway or home cooked meals sometimes eat out.
I like a bru and biscuits cheers me up when I'lm feeling down but then i regret it later. I had a thing for fizzy pop and sweets for like first 3 weeks after birth now I'm paying for it. I need to cut down on the junk so I can lose the weight I know it's not healthy.

💕Stressing about it isn’t going to help either. You stress and it increases your cortisol levels which fools your body into thinking it’s hungry. It’s a survival instinct, fear and not knowing where your next energy source is coming from.

I know it’s not you as you used to be, but it’s temporary.

And be honest. How many times do you look at a woman and judge her on her weight? How many times do you look at some like me and think something bad about me because I’m fat. I don’t think most women do. Maybe if I was walking through the mall eating food from a KFC bucket, and justifiably so. But lost people don’t judge other people with any malice of bad intent.

Stress is your enemy here. It makes you unhappy. It makes you anxious. It increases your cortisol levels. Try to stop caring what the world outside thinks, because it’s all just noise. It doesn’t matter. You and your baby are all that matter. I hope you have a good partner to back you up.

I’m sorry I can’t help.

new look primark h&m places like that don't have money for high end stuff lol.

As a long term diet it’s not healthy, no.
This isn’t long term though.
That was a postpartum craving for sugar, THE most common reaction to giving birth. It usually lasts about four weeks.

I've cut down a little I thought it was kind of normal though but then think I was abit crazy eating more than one kit kat at a time I was emotional wreck crying then eating more I'm dying to just get back to what I was before I wasn't small but I wasn't really big either so just want to get back to that size 14-16 again.

My Partners good its just me that doesn't believe him I'm good enough a lot of the time.

I wasn't using skinny as an insult maybe I could have said slim but I didn't I want thinking.
I get peed of at the lack of clothing in bigger sizes that's all.

The reverse is out of hand
I even occasionally can’t find clothes small enough in some shops because of vanity sizing and I’m not even that small at all. Eg a New Look XS top is too big so I go in the 915 range. Saving money I guess.
My nieces who are a 4 and a 6 can’t find stuff in some shops. Bear in mind a 6 now is a vintage 10.
It’s hardly “thin privilege” when large people are the ones eating everything and we are going without.

Annabella91 · Today 23:21
I've cut down a little I thought it was kind of normal though but then think I was abit crazy eating more than one kit kat at a time I was emotional wreck crying then eating more I'm dying to just get back to what I was before I wasn't small but I wasn't really big either so just want to get back to that size 14-16 again.

Rofl. I can eat a pack of nine in the course of an hour before I realise what I’ve done. You’re what I’d call normal.

Annabella91 · Today 23:23
My Partners good its just me that doesn't believe him I'm good enough a lot of the time.

Would he normally lie to you? Like you’ve just given him the most valuable thing any woman can give to a man, and he saw you go through childbirth. Do you think he cares about anything other than you and your baby being healthy and happy?
I bet he’s never felt more in love with you than he does now that you are the mother of his baby. Ask him.

Siameasy · Today 23:38
It’s hardly “thin privilege” when large people are the ones eating everything and we are going without.

Lol. 🍰Have some cake.

I go shopping a lot with my Dd who is tall and skinny. Even being tall and skinny things don’t fit properly. Quite a few times because of how some one has sewn the fabric together. Just in one shop this weekend, not a particularly cheap place Dd tried on a mini skirt which had 2 buttons for decoration that if you lined up the buttons to where they were supposed to be then the front centre panel looked twisted and vice versa

The next skirt someone had sewn it and ever so slightly bunched up a bit of the seam. It just didn’t fall flat. I went to try and find another that was sewn correctly and couldn’t find one

I would struggle to find anything I could wear even if I was as skinny as Dd as most of the clothes in the shops are quite horrible and anything I think that looks quite nice, I am too short for.
We seem to have reverted to the 1970s and that was the era that fashion forgot.

My dc think I dress like a teenage boy
My bras are from Tesco, T-shirts and hoodies are Primark and trousers, shoes and other stuff comes from Screwfix.

Apart from Primark work stuff I actually can’t remember the last time I went into a a normal clothes shop and found something in the womens section that I liked the look of and that could possibly fit me.

One word for you hypocrite!!

Seeing as you think it's ok to call people skinny are you happy with me calling you fat OP?
I was bullied mercilessly for being "skinny". The term isn't a very kind one. Maybe think about how you use your words.

Skinny Is the opposite to fat. I doubt anything would be said if it was the other way around you and others just don't think anyone bigger than yourself should exist your against anyone bigger than you i don't hate slim people I just hate the fact shops only cater for the slimmer body frame.

It does not make sense grammatically. I understand the topic
And branding someone as skinhy, OP, is a badcas calling someone fat

It's the opposite as it refers to a person who is underweight rather than overweight, someone who is too thin. It doesn't mean the same as slim. It means having very little bodily flesh or fat, often unattractively so; very thin, emaciated, scrawny.

It's not at all easy to find clothes that fit well if you are too thin. If you mean a slim person in the healthy weight range then why not just say that?

Skinny Is the opposite to fat. I doubt anything would be said if it was the other way around you and others just don't think anyone bigger than yourself should exist your against anyone bigger than you
This victim mindset is getting ridiculous. Nobody is saying anything about anyone larger than skinny shouldn't exist.

i don't hate slim people I just hate the fact shops only cater for the slimmer body frame

They don't! This thread is full of people who are a range of sizes and builds telling you this.

You're probably going to get yourself to a better place talking to someone to go through your self-image and feelings about weight than you are deciding that there's some conspiracy against anyone who isn't skinny.

I feel pretty sorry for the op on this thread.... honestly op, there's a lot of disingenuous, oh I'm so thin and it's so mean and upsetting when people say I am. Remember, a lot of posters pride themselves on being thin and really seem to detest women who aren't.

No, this is your victim mindset. I am 'too thin' for you and I don't hate bigger people because I know how it feels to feel different to other people and be on the receiving end of nasty comments. It seems plenty of bigger people do automatically hate thin people though and see us as the enemy when your anger is completely misdirected.