Skinny privellege

[Annabella91]

Why is there shops full of clothes for women who are skinnt but nothing bigger i hate going clothes literally can never find anything in a size 16 it's all size 6 and 8 is the fat back in the 90s discrimination trend coming in again?? Shouldn't need to skinny to look nice??

@Comedycook , why would anyone be proud of being THIN?
Did you mean slim?

@OhMyBleedingHeart what makes you assume I'm big? Did I mention my current weight or size on here?

Ok, so what are you? If you weren't bigger you'd have set me straight and told me so. I think it's safe to assume that you are.

Exactly, I was horribly self conscious of how I looked when I was too thin and anxious about meeting people for the first time or who I hadn't seen in a couple of years. I wasn't proud of it 🙄.

Loads of women are proud of being thin. Very few women genuinely struggle to put on weight. Being thin takes a lot of discipline. In western beauty culture, being thin has been the desirable body shape for a long time. So yes, lots of women are proud of being thin.

Bloody hell! The dramatic whiny victim mindset of you and others just don't think anyone bigger than yourself should exist your against anyone bigger than you
Where on earth do you get that from?
I am pretty sure that most people don't go through their lives giving that much thought and attention to other people's dress size. It's really not as captivating and thought provoking as you think.

Ok, so what are you?

I'm not defined by my weight. What are you? What kind of question is that. Clearly you're own identity is tied up in your weight if you ask questions like that.

Regardless of my size, I went through a private girls for 14 years....I'm very used to angsty boring weight chat by very thin women. It's just as tedious now as it was then.

It sounds like you're the one who serious weight ishoos to get so defensive over a simple question and direct your anger to anyone in that weight bracket.

I am pretty sure that most people don't go through their lives giving that much thought and attention to other people's dress size. It's really not as captivating and thought provoking as you think.

Agree with this.

Human beings come in a range of shapes and sizes. Some lines of clothing will fit and look great, some will fit and look a bit rubbish, some will fit and look ok I guess, some will be too big, some will be too small, some will go on but look too tight, others won't go on at all.

It isn't a conspiracy if anyone (man, woman, child) has some unsuccessful shopping trips.

Loads of women are proud of being thin. Very few women genuinely struggle to put on weight.

Me🙋‍♀️

I think it's something like 2% of the population who are underweight. Many of those would be frail elderly people, others with eating disorders or other mental health issues, physical health issues. Very few adult women would just be naturally underweight or there through discipline alone.

Skinny privilege?

Seriously? So being a normal healthy weight now is a privilege. I’ve been a size 16 in the past and found clothes no problem. I’m now a size 10 and find clothes no problem. In fact I see more larger sizes now that I’m looking for smaller sizes.

I’m tired of the idea that someone is privileged because they’re a normal healthy weight. I have to monitor what I eat daily, do my exercise to make sure I don’t fall into the trap of weight gain again. It’s a choice and it’s hard and it’s not a privilege but it’s what it takes. It’s also a choice anyone can make.

I have also found this, I hate shopping as a result.

The fact that it's so unbelievable to not gain weight is hilarious. Does that mean all larger people are just lazy then? All the overweight/underweight girls and upping women who get bullied should just change their weight, it's so easy right?

The difference is being thin is socially acceptable, even too thin whatever that looks like.
I would say skinny is a visual descriptor for someone thinner than just thin. Scrawny means unattractive, emaciated is more medicalised term. They may mean something similar but the word skinny isn’t particularly negative.

No anger and I'm not directing my posts at thin people. What I find irritating is thin people who play the victim and make out that being thin is just as difficult as being fat in this society. It's like someone with lots of money trying to persuade someone skint that they're struggling too. It's absolute nonsense.

Stop it now.

Have you even read any of these responses?

I hear you. I had the most disgusting comments made to me by work colleagues (and total strangers) who, back in the 80s/90s thought it was totally acceptable to be nasty to someone for being skinny. It used to really upset me and I’d wish that I was overweight as those colleagues never said a word to the fatter co workers.

These are words that came up under definitions of skinny. It absolutely has connotations of being unattractively thin.

@Comedycook , on what are you basing your statement?
The western ideal is to be lean and healthy, not thin.
It is possible to be lean and healthy without lots of discipline.

This thread is bonkers.

When I was a size 10, I used to walk into any shop and buy whatever I wanted and look good, all sizes were available. I don't know where people who claim not to be able to source size 10s are shopping but it certainly isn't in my town or online.

As a current size 16, yes thankfully I have an equally wide choice of clothes available to me but most of it looks shit on as I'm too fat.

I hate it when slim people act hard done to on these sorts of threads. Then start eating all the cakes and be a size 18 in that case? I thought not...

Try the Next Directory, I continually find when I'm trying to get a size 8 they're sold out, but available in the bigger sizes.

Have you tried charity shops OP? There always seems to be lots in larger sizes, and not rubbish either.

No, because eating cake won't make a naturally thin person fat, clever clogs.

I'm very used to angsty boring weight chat by very thin women. It's just as tedious now as it was then.

Innit, though! And the glorious lack of self-awareness in those moaning in suspicious detail about being thin and telling OP she should get thinner, while accusing above-averagely sized women of 'privilege'. As if fat people weren't overlooked in their careers, assumed to be thick & lazy, blamed for all their own health problems and considered a symptom of a declining civilisation.

If skinny weren't aspirational, why would we be shown endless images of very thin models, actresses? Any vaguely weight-related thread on here tends to end up looking like one of those 'thinspo' feeds. But, yeah, do tell everyone more about how awful it is to be roughly the size & shape clothes are designed for, free of systematic weight prejudice, and within the range of conventionally attractive. It's so interesting 🙄