Skinny privellege

[Annabella91]

Why is there shops full of clothes for women who are skinnt but nothing bigger i hate going clothes literally can never find anything in a size 16 it's all size 6 and 8 is the fat back in the 90s discrimination trend coming in again?? Shouldn't need to skinny to look nice??

But what if you didn't have a good figure, what if you were underweight and knew you looked awful?

The OP keeps using the term when people have pointed out it is hurtful and derogatory. She could use the term 'slim' if that's what she actually means.

The thing you’re missing is that this isn’t privilege: it’s usually down to hard work and discipline

Define slim? Do you mean healthy weight or at the low end?
I don't think it unusual to maintain a healthy/slim body just by living a normal life, not hard work and discipline.

Skinny people don’t have a good figure, though -that’s the whole point. They don’t have a figure at all. If you have a good figure, you’re not skinny.

Define “good figure” though. I’d rather see a flat stomach and abs than anything else. Your comment is pretty rude, I’m not going to stoop to your level but just bear in mind that having a plus size figure has its downsides that many find undesirable too. Fit and toned is pretty much the Hollywood standard for a reason.

M&S is great! I’m 32. It’s really improved in the last few years I think.

I'd say a good figure is someone who looks healthy and toned.
Skinny isn't a good look, and neither is flabby.

I'd say a good figure is fit with good muscle tone, a healthy weight and healthy waist to hip ratio. Not underweight.

I would say a good figure for a woman is slim, active but not muscular, lightly toned and with a defined waist.

Bloody hell.

How the fuck do you think this is ok to say? Just imagine if someone spoke this way about an overweight body. They would be lynched.

😂

It has always been like this. I used to work with someone who constantly said...you need a sausage roll, you need a doughnut..the one time I responded in kind she ran off crying to HR.

@Comedycook i take being called skinny as an insult, it’s not a compliment! Skinny = you look Ill! I hate when family members, usually the older generation call me this, I am not skinny! I train for marathons and strength train, I don’t have bones poking out my skin, my face isn’t drawn in, I look good, I don’t look skinny!

Oh come on it’s transparent jealousy 😂 you don’t even need to argue against it because it’s so ridiculous 😂

The OP is very clearly using it as an insult.

For me personally I don't look good with a sub 20.5 BMI my tits start shrinking and my face looks gaunt even with fillers . Some people look good I don't I've just had a burger as I want to gain 4lbs.

It is very personal, isn't it? I look much better when I weigh less. If I'm over 21 BMI, my face looks flabby. I look loads older if i am overweight. Some people look much better when they're heavier but some don't. I look older and I look more tired. It's entirely the opposite for others.

Yep it's entirely personal decision we all have different figures and shapes . I tend to lose weight off my face , neck and upper chest area so it becomes bony and my legs and hips look proportionally too big. My beloved boobs also start shrinking. So I think I look better a bit bigger than BMI 20.5

Skinny people don’t have a good figure, though -that’s the whole point. They don’t have a figure at all. If you have a good figure, you’re not skinny.

🤣🤣 this is gas 🤣

You can’t just go shopping and take the huff because a few items weren’t on the rail in your size.
100% agree with you and it must be exhausting for people like the OP who would rather kid themselves there's a conspiracy against them than accept the more obvious fact that stock varies and lines vary, and most people have to shop around to find what fits and suits them.

I find it hard to find a leg length that's right for me on some cuts. Maybe that's leg-ist and there's average-leg-privilege, and everyone with average length legs must have such an easy ride of finding trousers because everyone knows women of average leg length don't come in a range of shapes and sizes, what matters is that when I can't get the right length for me is moaning that other women have privilege. 🤣

Separates can be worn by any shape, including hourglass shape surely?

Not if they can't fit nicely on 38" hips & 28" waist they can't.

Or not without a belt, anyway.
Teenager trousers can be great, though. Adjustable waists !

Dresses, argh. If I tend towards 10/12 on bottom & need 14/16 on top, but my bust is same as my hips, then I'm a true hourglass while a "size 12" dress is meant for pear-shapes not hourglasses.

Who gives a !?

OP wanted to know why she couldn’t by clothes that she liked, and we explained basic economics to her. She may ‘want’ it to be different but it’s not. She certainly can by good quality smart clothing, she just needs to be willing to pay more than high street prices for them.

OPs not been large before, so she didn’t know these things. And for her it’s likely temporary not least because she doesn’t like it and she’s been thinner and sounds like she’ll have the motivation to shift the excess weight.

And I wish her great speed in doing so, not least because she’s a new mum and she deserves the best of health for both of them, and carrying excess fat just is not healthy long term.

Who cares what fat and skinny people think of their respective labels, or even what society thinks of us. We are what we are, and we can change if we gave a F. But for the most we don’t, so we stay as we are.

I'm having a bad day i weighed myself earlier which hasn't helped i thought I'd lost some more baby weight but I hadnt I'm only a stone lighter than what I was when I left the hospital it feels so hard right now can't even treat myself to anything because nothing available in my size that would suit my body type It gets me down at times I do look at slim people and want to be like that again i was 12st7 before pregnancy now I'm just touching 16 stone I'm finding it hard at the moment 😪

What are you eating every day? Be honest, nobody’s going to take the piss, but there will be some good suggestions on where you’re going wrong