Skinny privellege

[Annabella91]

Why is there shops full of clothes for women who are skinnt but nothing bigger i hate going clothes literally can never find anything in a size 16 it's all size 6 and 8 is the fat back in the 90s discrimination trend coming in again?? Shouldn't need to skinny to look nice??

Many people who struggle to maintain a healthy weight find it derogatory.

It's just not though. Even if someone is called skinny it is never ever said with the same kind of venom as when someone is called fat.

It’s said with a sneer.

40 years ago l was a 10 at Western Jean company, a14 at Chelsea Girl and a 12 at Miss Selfridge. Chelsea Girl was notoriously small fitting.

And people have got taller. Each generation is successively taller than its parents. Not the entire generation, but the the trend is towards height. I used to teach secondary. At 5ft 8 l was really tall at school. Year 11 girls towered over me.

It's just not though. Even if someone is called skinny it is never ever said with the same kind of venom as when someone is called fat.

Yea it is, larger people don't have the monopoly on self esteem issues, insults and upsetting comments. As pp said, if struggle to maintain weight it is equally offensive.

Theres a morbidly obese person at work who never fails to pass a comment on my size if I'm not wearing an oversized hoodie (which I do a lot now to stop the comments)

This person thinks they are doing nothing wrong because I am slim.
Always saying "The size of you, you're tiny, how do you find clothes so small, children's section?" (Kinda true, I do shop in the kids section from time to time) if I'm running around shes says "No wonder you're so skinny all the running around you do" but if I said to her...

"The size of you youre huge, where do you shop..the plus size shop? Look at you hobbling around, it must be because youre so fat "

I actually want to say it back the next time my body is talked about but not sure I'd be able to do it.

And l taught A level Textiles. Which covered anthropometrics and ergonomics, including all the stuff I’m saying. And l spent a long time in the rag trade as a pattern cutter in the late 80’s to mid 90’s. Each shop had its own ‘spec’ of measurements.

As pp said, if struggle to maintain weight it is equally offensive.

This is true for me. I struggle to keep weight on. I have said this in the past and eyes have been rolled at me. But when someone says they are struggling to lose weight people say things like "Stop, you look amazing, you're doing brilliantly " 🤣

And people have got taller. Each generation is successively taller than its parents. Not the entire generation, but the the trend is towards height.

I was wondering about this the other day, when I was shopping at school-out time. There were loads of really fat kids aged about 8 to 15. The adults with them didn't seem abnormally large, at least nowhere near as high a proportion of them; neither did older teens or little kids.

It occurred to me that many children put on a lot of weight before a sudden gain in height - not always, but it's common in my family and I have certainly seen it in others. I wondered if the children I was seeing are all heading towards phenomenal height! I don't know the stats about this, but ... it's a thought.

'Skinny' is the antonym of 'Fatty'. If the former is okay, so is the latter.
No? Didn't think so.

We are discussing clothes for people who are a healthy weight vs. clothes for people who are overweight and obese. Clothes for a range of sizes. If you are a common size then of course it is more likely to be sold out.

You can suggest the shops stock more in the most popular i.e. overweight sizes without making derogatory 'skinny' comments, in fact without mentioning people of a healthy weight at all.

I support inclusive clothing availability but abhor the increasing levels of denial about how unhealthy excess weight is for individuals and society.

Iv beenq called fat most of my life by skinny people even my own family was nasty to me for not being skinny like my sister i was told to diet as a teenager because they wanted me to be a size 8.
Fat people are discriminated against all the time we can't even have a treat because how dare fat people enjoy anything.

When I was unable to maintain a healthy weight and called skinny it was meant as an insult not a compliment. It was upsetting. I'm not comparing it to terms for people with obesity, both can be derogatory.

I struggle to find a size 8 in lots of shops. There are loads of 14/16s.

I'm so bored of "privilege" being extended to all parts of life. You have some control over your weight, so change it if you want to, but don't imply that other women have some sort of step up in life because they're slim.

we can't even have a treat because how dare fat people enjoy anything.

I personally don't care if fat people have a treat.

Skinny is a pejorative term; it has negative connotations. Size 6/8/10 is slim.

This isn’t true at all. Retailers aren’t stupid. They are aware the online store has every size in stock -so they don’t need to stock every size in store. Instead they carry out demographic research and stock the most popular sizes in store. So if the majority of customers want size 16, the shop will stock majority size 16 sizes. They’re not going to get a bunch of size 8 things that won’t sell. They might have a significantly smaller % of
unpopular sizes in store, or would direct up to the online store instead. M&S is a terrible example to use as they rarely stock size 6/8s. They have a higher % of larger sizes in stock than other retailers.

Sorry thought you used M&S as an example but I think you were replying to another poster.

Skinny is often used as an insult, it’s in no way a compliment.

If someone wanted to compliment someone’s appearance based on being a small size they’d say slim.

If you were upset by a derogatory term for your size then why are you throwing around a derogatory term at others?

@GarlicGrace it’s to do with better nourishment. I was fed a diet of angel delight and sausages in the 70’s.

Rach generation has had improved nutrition. Ds was born in the early 90’s. McDonald’s and tick shops were normal! Dd was born mid 2000’s, she has a much better diet than he did. Although he’s 6ft 5 and she’s 5ft 11!

I agree with you. When I was much younger the only place I could buy clothes was Evans, and later on, simply be. Eleven years later I’m that size again and the choice is just as limited and dreadful. Okay, there is some stuff online but God Forbid I actually wanted to try something on! I’m fat, I need to see if a garment will fit, let alone look nice.

I think you'll find they do have more choices In life than fatter people especially when it comes clothing.

Exactly

I’m sorry, but this sounds quite deranged. Your viewpoint is distorted. I think you need some counselling or other help. If it’s not long since you’ve had a baby, please speak to your health visitor or doctor.

My fat sister has made me feel like shit all my life too for being skinny OP. Maybe we're better off not projecting our abusive family and their behaviour onto the world.