childminders on MN when someone is paying them to look after their dc

[shinola]

am looking for a childminder so has a look athe childminders and staffroom bit of mumsntet

and see loads of messages from childminder, in work hours on line, in time they are be paid to work by us hard working mums, moaning about us hard working mums.

how dare they? I mean, if you are going to moan, do it in your own time

I don't have time to go on mumnset when I'm with ds, how do they find the time? what happens to the kis they look after? and t add insult to injury they are using their paid time to moan about people who are paying them

but not even that, I can't believe any reputable childminder or nanny can be on mumsnet when they are supposed to be looking after kids

money for old rope

oooh my first fight

that's true CoV

not to mention regular lurkers being skivers too.

Now shall we place bets........who has name changed for a bit of fun?

Or is it a drunken teenager come home and clicked on their mum's MN account

Bet their not brave enough to add a profile

At work you get a lunch break (sometimes) so I guess cm have to fit in some spare time. Not sure TBH how it all works as I never had a cm for my dcs.

But you don't know what folk are up to anywhere. That's why I choose nursery school for my dcs. It' about trust at the end of the day.

Have no idea who it could be, I don't know shit from shinola

no, its not - have logged on as left in on my own, thought I'd use my time wisely as telly is shite, spent time on cm boards and an able to look through and see patterns, whats going on when, come on its not that hard, and really not trying to stir but genuinly concerned - I'm a doctor and there is no way I could spend time like that online at work, and I feel the CM's have a simlair demanding role, they are in loco parentis, I'm concerned about handing my much longed for ds over to one, and I really want them to be keeping an eye, keeping the care I do, and not spending loads of time on line

is that so much to ask?

well I don't have a profile.........well I do - but it's under a different name and I don't know how to make it be clickable from this one.......

Good name btw.

ok - am new on here, will happily add profile, this was a genuine query, and am getting some very hostile repsonses

why the aggression??

guilt??

Yes, I'm a guilty non-childminder type me, I should've been catholic.

shinola - if you really ARE genuine then please

STOP AND THINK

When you are home with your DC at the weekends - do you spend their every waking moment giving them stimulating activities to do, and down on the floor with them???

Or do you sometimes just sit back and let them learn to do things on their own

A childminder (as you rightly say) are in loco parents.............so no NORMAL parent spends every waking moment activily stimulating their child - so why should a childminder have to???

SHIT!
I just realised.
DD has been off school this week, and her teacher rang me at about 2pm yesterday
What was going on with the class!!!

You're "concerned about handing over your longed for ds to a childminder"

Maybe this concern is more about that for you and you may be projecting a little of your anxiety to your concern over childminders

Hope you find one you're happy with

What about mothers on mumsnet when they are paying a nanny to look after their children?
Thats me almost every day

@ VictorianSqualor

Pull your child out of that place immediately

LOl at you lot

No, I am not guilty at all my dear.

No other CMs from the Staffroom here on this thread tonight, as mostly they work Fridays (whereas I am closed on Fridays)and are tucked up in bed after their busy day with mindees.

Sheesh

FAQ the difference is that a cm is being paid to do a job and I am sure if she were to be interviewed a cm wouldn't say "oh and you know I use a chat forum while I work...is that OK with you?'

I am backing out. You know what's right and what's wrong.

It's ok VS - I picked DS1 up from school 15 minutes early today as he had a Drs appointment (ooo how ironic) and his teacher was in the office with him!

Shinola if you are genuine - aplogies.........but please note

1. It's Friday night and lots of us are p*ssed

1. I think quite a lot of us posting don't use childminders

1. I could quite easily slag off the drs at my surgery.....after all most of them were running anything from 45minutes to 1 1/2hrs late with appointments this afternoon.........but I saw several of them (while I was waiting for nearly 1hr) going and getting cups of coffee .

But I won't - because they are just as much entitled to a cup of coffee as anyone else......

there is a diference betweeb hanging back, and ignoring them completely,and my ds can sesne it

I have tried to spend time composing a pithy mail and he comes up and tries to join in, wants to see the keyboard etc

have talked to other friends with 18 months old and this seems normal

we can hang back, have coffee, etc, but dc seem to know eh they are not being bengnly neglected but totally ignored, and they are right, there is a difference

I amnot asking for total stimulation 24 7, but don't want ds totally ignored for all the time it takes to thinkand right a lot, not just one post

and come on, there is a difference between hanging back, and keeping an eye, and totally ignoring, and that is the crux of the matter

"I am sure if she were to be interviewed a cm wouldn't say "oh and you know I use a chat forum while I work...is that OK with you?'"

And I'm sure all the other working (non childcare related jobs) mums on MN wouldn't say when they applied for their jobs.......but plenty access from work regardless.........

Shinola
You are getting aggressive replies because you are posting pretty aggressive opinions.

Most of the people replying are not CMs, they are mums who are defending the CMs right to have a few minutes break every so often throughout the day.

I would have no problem handing my DCs over to a CM who occasionally popped onto MN. I would not expect a CM to play all the time wiht my DCs, I don't.

I am often online when my DCs are at home, laptop on sofa while they play. Am I not supervising them properly?

thank you wotz exactly what I'm trying to say -

but they are not looking after mindees (or whatever cm's call them)

I love being ""quoted""

But shinola it takes a few seconds to type a short post. I have mn on all day but I dip in and out on my way up to put away laundry whilst ds is finishing his lunch and I hae cleard up, when ds and dd are playing after school. (5-10 mins at a time).