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Original poster

childminders on MN when someone is paying them to look after their dc

276 replies

shinola · 08/02/2008 22:55

am looking for a childminder so has a look athe childminders and staffroom bit of mumsntet

and see loads of messages from childminder, in work hours on line, in time they are be paid to work by us hard working mums, moaning about us hard working mums.

how dare they? I mean, if you are going to moan, do it in your own time

I don't have time to go on mumnset when I'm with ds, how do they find the time? what happens to the kis they look after? and t add insult to injury they are using their paid time to moan about people who are paying them

but not even that, I can't believe any reputable childminder or nanny can be on mumsnet when they are supposed to be looking after kids

money for old rope

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cluelessnchaos · 08/02/2008 22:57

bit harsh, I am not a childminder but go on m net when kids are about, wouldnt be pissed off if my cildminder did the same.

madamez · 08/02/2008 22:59

Maybe the kids are sleeping?

Original poster
shinola · 08/02/2008 22:59

really, childminders have more than one, and are being paid to provide a safe and stimulating environment...that's not sitting online moaning in my opinion...or at all in fact

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ComeOVeneer · 08/02/2008 22:59

How on earth do you know if they are actively caring for a child at the very moment they post. The child may be napping,or they may not have any childen in their cae (could beat school/nursery). It is rather presumptious.

FAQ · 08/02/2008 23:00

kids could be sleeping, engrossed in something on their own (I'm led to believe that CM also encourage independent play) and if the computer is in the room where the child is I don't see what the problem is.

Do you never look at the computer when you're DC is around? Surely one of the advantages of a CM is that they (the child) is being looked after in someone's home - a bit like a "home from home" and therefore as most parents would probably use the computer while their DC is doing something else in the room (or even out of it ) I don't see why a CM can't occasionaly too!

CalifrauQuoteoftheWeek · 08/02/2008 23:01

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Original poster
shinola · 08/02/2008 23:02

post I am referring to mentioned one child playing and they were annoyed about other child being lare, plus it was 10 past 10 in the monring, loads of other people joinig in, do please check it out, I'm amazed if all childminder have all children asleep during all messae, just doesn't seem right to me

\i'm paid to be at work and so don't spend time on here at work, but its ok for someone I pay to be at work to be on here? not happy

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Carmenere · 08/02/2008 23:03

My cm is a responsible and caring woman who is qualfied and registered to look after children. If she uses her judgement to sit down with a cup of tea and log on to mn whilst my dd and her other charges are playing, I do not have a problem with that. I only want her to look after dd as well as me

BoysAreLikeDogs · 08/02/2008 23:04

Shinola.

You will see from the Staffroom that I only post before/after the children are with me or if they are asleep.

A lot of the posts involve sharing best practice, if you would care to have another look.

FAQ · 08/02/2008 23:05

so are they not even allowed a coffee break.

I honestly don't see it as any different to me looking after my children at home. They're busy doing something, I make myself a coffee and sit down and watch them and MN.

cluelessnchaos · 08/02/2008 23:06

I have more than one child on fact often 5 or 6 kids kicking about and will still chip in to convos, really easy to be judgemental, childminders do a job I couldnt do and one of the pros is that they can work for themselves and flexibly. Maybe you should look at a nursery setting for your child

Original poster
shinola · 08/02/2008 23:07

I have looked, first post I came across involved a cm moaning about a parent, who was late. and mentioned another mindee in the room, who was awake.

I wold pay someone to provide stimulating activities for my ds, not sittng online moaning about another parent.

and there seems to be a lot of posting going on during the day.

best practice, yes, but moaning no,

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TurkeyLurkey · 08/02/2008 23:08

Its about moderation isn't it though? Child minders aren't machines, providing non stop thrilling entertainment for their mindees. If their mindees are happily playing whats the harm in the CM having a brew and popping on here for 10 minutes?

Now, if they were batting whinging hungry children away muttering "yes in a minute after I've re-checked 'threads I'm on'" then I might start to worry about it.

harpsichordcarrier · 08/02/2008 23:09

hmmm
so when you are looking after your children you never talk on the phone, or sit down and watch tv, or talk to your friends over a coffee?
you are always 100% focussed on your children?

FAQ · 08/02/2008 23:11

shinola (I see you're new here so welcome ).

Can I ask you a serious question.

Do you spend ALL the time with your DC playing with them and stimulating them?

Or do you occasionally let them (quite rightly as it's an important part of growing up) play on their own. I think, especially if a child is going to be with a CM all day that a FULL day (or even morning) of pure stimulation would be too much for them.

My DS2 goes to nursery - yes they have structured activities and are encouraged to do different things........but if they just want to chill out in the corner looking at pictures in a book on their own, or just have a wander about watching other children play that ok too.

Carmenere · 08/02/2008 23:11

Gosh I don't pay my cm to stimulate my dd. Yes she has loads of toys and yes she brings them out to the park and they do stuff and things, but I don't expect her to be doing structured stimulation with her on a one to one basis. She cares for her very affectionately and that to me is far more valuable than dd being stimulated. FFS she is a child, she goes to pre-school, she is learning stuff every minute of the day, she doesn't need stimulation. Lighten up.

FAQ · 08/02/2008 23:13

I dread to think how tired my (very energetic) DS2 would be if he had "stimulating" activities thrown at him all morning!

MAMAZON · 08/02/2008 23:13

so your calling all those Mners who post on the staff room threads as unproffessional and incompetant?

i'd get a hard hat if i were you

VictorianSqualor · 08/02/2008 23:15

Ok sweetheart, it's friday night, have you had a drink??

LyraSilvertongue · 08/02/2008 23:15

I don't see anything wrong with a childminder popping on MN for, say, five minutes. i would if she was on it for hours at a time while DS was left to amuse himself/in front of the tv.
I work one day a week and I do pop on MN from time to time/check my emails on my work computer during work time. Should I be sacked for that?

Feenie · 08/02/2008 23:16

Hmmm. Don't see any problem with cms posting having a coffee break. I am a primary teacher, and can imagine how pissed off my children's parents would be if I was mumsnetting while teaching their children! However, I have been known to check mumsnet in the once-in-a-blue moon that I have time for lunch. Don't see any difference, really.

BoysAreLikeDogs · 08/02/2008 23:17

Actually OP YABU because it's nowt to do with you so ner

FAQ · 08/02/2008 23:17

don't know if she has VS - but I have - would you care to join me

and Lyra - absolutely - I'll be on the phone to your boss on Monday morning - totally unacceptable

LyraSilvertongue · 08/02/2008 23:18
Grin
IndigoMoon · 08/02/2008 23:19

once again i dont see the problem, i dont think it is a good idea to be constantly entertaining your child. they have to learn to do it for themselves as well!!!

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